How does a couple go about testing the waters with swinging? We're happily married for over 17 years, but we'd like to try something different to "spice" things up a bit. Don't want any "you'll go to hell" or "why did you get married" answers. I'm an atheist and my wife is non-practicing, so you're wasting your time. And marriage is primarily a financial relationship anyhow. Afterall, you can love more than one person anyhow (I love my wife, my kids, my mom, etc.).
How do you get started? Need some practical advice.
2007-10-30 17:02:21 · 10 answers · asked by davey_m_m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First thing you need to do is go to a swingers club with each other and just watch what goes on. It's kinda like a train wreck, you don't really want to but you just HAVE to look. You don't have to do anything but you'll probably get so turned on that you'll go home and have some spectacular sex. Next time you go back to the club, go into one of the rooms and have sex there. The next time, try one of the rooms without a door so people might peek in on you. Eventually work your way up to actually doing it right out in the open. Doing this is much safer than actually swapping because it's a rare breed of person that can handle their spouse being with someone else without massive fits of jealousy.
2007-10-30 17:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make weekly appt for HIV test and buy many condmens then while getting blood drawn ask the nurse who are the other that come in often for HIV test Im sure one of them are willing. Dont do it. I have seen this destroy a marriage and a diesease get involved. Love has no place in swinging.... swinging a a pure physical fulfilment. you already have you wire scrossed. what would happen when you fell in "love" with someon else who made more money wuold the current marriage be over? dotn do it.....
2007-10-31 00:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Clays mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To swing is pretty simple really. You want to start by rubbing eachother in public places and maybe she can moan kinda loud try to get some attention you know and then you guys go sneak off the bathroom see if anyone follows then if they do your lady calls to them with her finger. You go in the bathroom, strip them naked and lick them head to toe...then run off with their wallet and go buy some sex toys and condoms on their credit card before they call it in as stolen. You will get off on the thrill of it all and the spicyness will return and you won't get a disease you will just have hot sexual contact with your wife.
2007-10-31 05:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Grunty O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how you get started, but I'd be concerned about the STDs you could get even with condom usage. Herpes can be spread even with a condom.
There are other ways to "spice" up your sex life without actual contact with another person. I'd pursue those avenues prior to actually sleeping with someone else.
Maybe invest in some porn and view it together. Or sex toys. There is risk involved in sleeping around and you have to consider how important you are to your children and how they need you to be alive and not in the grave having died from AIDS.
good luck
2007-10-31 00:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to a park. Find a swing. Sit in swing. Move legs back and forth on ground. Pick legs off ground. Sit back and relax. Look at sky. Think. When done, slowly stop swing. Release the swing. Get off of swing. Leave.
2007-10-31 00:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by IDoToo 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Place an add on Craig's list. Just leave us alone about it.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 00:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is this for practical advise?....SWINGING was the beginning to the end for my first marriage.....
2007-10-31 00:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do an online search for groups and bars in your area there are a ton of web sites that will help you.
2007-10-31 00:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
just go to swingers.com you will get all the advice you need.......
2007-10-31 00:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...lets see...you can pray for it....oh wait...my bad...
2007-10-31 01:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by girly27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋