How do people come to the conclusion about if they should get married? Does he ask her? Does she ask him?? And how did they come to the conclusion?.......was the girl usually pushing about the subject??....
2007-10-30 16:55:19 · 15 answers · asked by toenail 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you find out, let me know! With my friends, lots were pushy about it and basically forced the guys to marry them or threatened to leave them. I don't recommend that! How would you feel knowing that you had to threaten someone to marry you?! People get married for lots of wrong reasons. Sometimes they just are so in love and they can't imagine being without the person...but marriage doesn't make a relationship or save one. I think both people should be totally ready in every sense of the word to spend the rest of their lives together. Afterall, these days we can live to be 80!!! That's a hell of a long time!
2007-10-30 17:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by chandiepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that comes naturally .. and the people just know.
It is tradition, for the guy to ask the girl .. but times have changed .. and it depends on the person .. and the couple's relationship.
When the couple both decide they want marriage .. it is a mutal agreement .. and plans are made.
Either .. or .. can push the subject. And either, neither one .. may not push the subject. It is usually just something they both want to do .. to make them happy.
2007-10-31 00:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. it works differently for everyone. Especially if they're from a different culture. But usually u fall in love, and u go through thick and thin with a person, and u realize that u don't ever want to live life w/o them, and u'd like to make that committment to them. Yes, usually he asks her. But that doesn'thave to be...sometimes she asks him.. If they are in love, or just feel that it's time to get married, they tend to look for a suitable partner to share their life with, because they're tired of playing around, and want security in a relationship that u can't just walk away from...then when they find that special someone, they get married to them.
Yes, usually girls want marriage, because they mature faster, and society always says a girl should get married in her twenties that way she can raise a family while she's still young and live long enough to see her grandkids grow a bit. It's all biology. But girls usually want security, financial, social, sexual, emotional, u name it, they want it. THey see a man that could possess all that and take care of all their needs...they also see a potential father for their kids. So to facilitate child bearing and rearing, girls try to lock down suitable men when they find them. Its all about security with women, because atleast if he cheats this way, she can let him go legally and get half his stuff, so even if he's out of her hair, she, and their kids, can live happily off of half his earnings...her, until death or remarriage, and the kids, until adulthood. U just don't get those kinda perks when u date...the kids do, the gf doesn't.
2007-10-31 00:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its when both people date, go out, and have sex so much that they know they can't break up even though by that time both people are sick of eachother. So they have no other choice but to get married and satisfy everyone that is pushing them to get married. Although this sounds like a bad relationship, it's actually healthier than people who pose like the perfect couple and get married right away on some Cinderella bullsh** only to get divorced later.
2007-10-31 00:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by ReelTru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i mutually decided marriage was what we wanted, we actually joke about the fact that no one "proposed". we were just laying in bed one night, talking about marriage and we both agreed that this was it for us, no one else would do. of course we had only been dating for about 4mths. at the time and didn't set a date or anything then about a month and a half later we were like "well, why not go ahead and do it" so two weeks later we got married in a little chapel. no one thought we would last a year, but we are going Strong at 4yrs. so far. we just know that marriage is a commitment you have to constantly work on so that's what we do.
2007-10-31 00:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by paula t. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Movies influence people so much and they don't even know it.
Most people these days just say "Yes" or just propose without establishing a good foundation on their compatibility but most of the time based on the sexual satisfaction they currently have.
Even the vows are just words often taken for granted.
It's hard to find true Unconditional love in Marriage these days : (
Have a nice day!
2007-10-31 00:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by jace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you pushing your guy to marry, is this what created this question? Never push someone to get married. Its always a mutual decision. Marriage is great. I know, I am happily married. He may tick me off at times, but the little things like leaving his stranded hairs from shaving in the bathroom sink, I would MISS DEEPLY. Choose your battles. The simple battles if you truly love your partner, one needs to let go. Thats LOVE.
2007-10-31 00:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By choice and usually the guy asks the girl but now a days anything can happen during relationships.
2007-10-30 23:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I proposed to my boyfriend after three years of dating. To be honest I was teasing him at first to try and freak him out and he turned round and said yes. So what initially was a joke turned into 3 years of marriage (so far) for us, and I'm all the happier for it. I guess it's different for everyone.
2007-10-31 00:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by ninedaisies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf && I have been dating for 3 years. He asked me "Hey eventually do you ever want to get married?" of course the answer was yes. && we both agreed that we both want to get married...to each other && now were planning it.
2007-10-30 23:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by B[a]MBi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋