I always cannot express my true personality infront of other classmates while I can be myself when I'm around my family. What can I do to feel comfortable, instead of just telling myself that it's alright (which always doesn't work).
2007-10-30 16:14:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all you have to continue doing what you are doing, quiting won't help. Another thing to remember is that you and your ideas are just as important as anybody elses and I know some people just have a gift for speaking and that may or maynot be you but you can still learn to overcome a lot of your doubts if you will continue, also when you get ready to speak think of your classmates as an extended family as in some ways they are. That should also help. In the end just being yourself is the most important and staying involved. No one accomplishes much by setting on the side lines.
2007-11-02 15:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have that problem years ago and a old friend of my fathers said to me that I was just as good as any bastard out there and we all piss and ****, root and sleep and anybody who thinks they are better can get ******. It helped. Dont let it go to your head though, No fear, step up, suck it in and stand like a man. Therefore you know who you are and they will treat you the same way. Just remember you are the captain of your own ship so where are you going. Be clever, dont just jump in, make a right move at the right time, stay cool calm and collect, conservative, and speak in turn and be a good listener. Dont but in, say only what you know and if you know alot, hold back you may need it to make yourself look clever during the conversation. Dont start a conversation you dont know much about. And if there is something mentioned you are not aware of ask about it, seem concerned, they like that, comment on there efforts, sound interested in what they say. Shy away if they are talking crap, remember intelligent s comes with wisdom. If you can back up your tongue don't speak. Good luck.
2007-10-30 16:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling uncomfortable around others is usually because we feel we will be judged and found wanting. The basis is usually a lack of confidence, comparing ourselves unfavourably to others and/or expecting too much from ourselves. The following links might help:
www.ultimate-self.com/confidence-boosters/
www.ultimate-self.com/social-intelligence-or-how-to-be-popular/
2007-10-30 18:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Delphi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋