My husband and I have been fighting for 2 days straight now. Everything I do is bugging him, he's yelling about everything! Up until now he's been really supportive, but because I didn't drain the sink he had a spaz attack and threw things around the kitchen...because I told him it was too late to use a shop vac he flipped out and told me to piss off. I dont know what I'm doing wrong and its stressing me out big time which is something I don't need. I want him to go away but I cant because well, he lives here. What should I do? I'm totally stressed out!
2007-10-30 15:57:06 · 11 answers · asked by krisindeed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And...I cannot go to a friends as...well I dont have any...sad I know...
2007-10-30 16:05:00 · update #1
try not to kill each other between now and when you have your baby...your hormones are raging, its hard to deal with, and the spouse is the one that you usually take things out on...sadly enough...it will be over soon, you will have your bundle of joy, life will be grand---just try to keep the peace for a bit longer.
congratulations on your baby...
2007-10-30 16:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from what you've said her he sounds kinda scary, but if there is more to the story and he's not horrible. I can say that he is probably in a realization mode right now. He is starting to realize the extra responsibility he will have, and he probably has fears of whether or not he'll be a good dad.....(is this your first kid) When someone is stressed they take it out on the easiest target...which sadly is you right now. When he's calmed down maybe just talk to him about your fears as well and let him know much you understand his position as well (I know that hard because I'm sure you are super uncomfortable right now) Let him know exactly what your feeling I'll bet that will calm him right down. If it doesn't help at all, even in the slightest bit. I would say run. You want that baby to come into a loving home.
2007-10-30 16:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ria B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is stressing too, baby coming soon, he's gotten all weird about it. Tell him you know this is a big thing, but that you both have to work together about any fears or stresses that you feel about baby coming. If he continues, then you need to send him packing. What if the things he threw around the kitchen had hit the baby? You have to consider safety for yourself and the little one. If he was not like this before, I'm guessing it's freaking about about baby coming. Men worry about money, and responsibility and stuff like that when babies are on the way. Get counselling if you think it'd help, and if you think he'd go. But do NOT let him continue this way. Send him back to his Mother and let her deal with him.
2007-10-30 16:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by amyguesswhat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be freaking out inside knowing that you are getting close to delivering your baby, which may explain why he's acting the way he is. He could be feeling stressed about the stress that comes along with having a baby, and releasing his stress by becoming angry over little things. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with it, since you're the one that is actually pregnant, but maybe he'll calm down once your baby comes. Try to talk to him about how he's feeling about things, and then tell him how you're feeling. Afterwards, just try to relax together to get some good feelings towards each other. Maybe doing these things will help you both to de-stress a little, and be more understanding of each other. Plus, there are always bubble baths. ;)
2007-10-30 16:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys will experience symptoms of pregnancy. Maybe the feeling sick, or eating alot or the mood swings. He also may be gatting nervous about being a daddy. I honestly think you should have patience with him an if you do feel really stressed out, you can leave for a while and take a walk or a drive.
Good Luck to youi and your new baby. Try to stay mellow.
2007-10-30 16:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by SweetLittleSister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know...men love to blame a woman and her "harmones" on their bad attitude. Best thing...go to a different room and do something that unstresses you, like read a magazine, do a jigsaw puzzle, but just ignore him.
My husband has really pissed me off big time tonight...I think it's the third night in a row I've been called an ***hole for absolutely no reason. How about all us fed up women pool our money together, but a small deserted island and send there asses there?
2007-10-30 16:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rest assured that this has nothing to do with the sink or any of the other minutia. He is freaking out because he is scared of what is to come. Stay calm and try to talk with him about it when he is in a better mood. Don't jabber on about the baby if you see he is getting tense. Give him some time to get adjusted. Do not allow him to stress you out.
2007-10-30 16:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that being so pregnant does not help the situation.. You are very sensitive and he should have a lot more respect than what he is giving you.. Now what you do is totally ignore him.. Pretend that he is not there.. If he gets to loud ask him to relax... And remember that your best interest is the best interest of the baby.. Good Luck!
2007-10-30 16:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by brandy d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a friend's house. hmmm is this going to be this way with a baby in the house. SOunds rather abusive to me. Immature too. He needs to grow up. You need to be careful.
Who is going with you to the hospital for the delivery?
Don't you be nagging on him or continuing the fight either. That's just immature. Don't rise to his bait. Ignore him. see how that works.
if he doesn't change his tune, you might have to think hard about this marriage. This is not how to start with a baby.
take care
2007-10-30 16:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by teritaur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him quietly that fighting is harming your babies' health because when you fight you release a chemical called cortisone and it is toxic to your baby and could even harm him later in life. it is your ultimate responsibility to be calm right now., this is just not good for you or your baby. and it is wrong for him to pick on you right now and you need everything to be calm.
2007-10-30 16:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋