I get shaky and hot when i'm presenting or in an arguement....how can i stop that?

Question

I'm not scared (maybe when presenting) and I don't want to be shaking when i'm trying to argue with someone. Why does my body do this? HOw can I stop it or make it less visible?

Answer 1

I had that problem for a while too... i found what really helped was convincing myself mentally that i was really passionate about what i was arguing about... and that would often get me focused enough that i would be really confident ... i hope that helps.?

Answer 2

What you are experiencing are the effects of adrenaline.
When presenting, most people are a bit anxious and keyed up, even if they enjoy it immensely. When having an argument, it is very common to feel shaky because this is a confrontation. It is a classic flight or fight reaction, and you are having a perfectly normal reaction.

Now, what you do about it:
BREATHE. As a single remedy, this is the best. When anxious, we tend to breathe much more shallowly, which in turn makes us feel more anxious. Breathing also helps metabolise adrenaline, and the increased oxygen helps us think.
Which is the next thing - THINK. Getting caught up in the argument tends to push the rational part of our minds into the background. Considering what you say before you say it will not only help make arguments less severe, but can also help keep you calmer.

Now - none of this is easy to do, and even people that actively practise such things get caught up.

So - keep breathing as normally as possible, try and choose your words carefully and you will be far ahead of most people.

Answer 3

Get a mirror, a full length, get in front of it and look deep into yourself. Now, think about what "debates, or confrintations may come about. This is a scenerio. Do some acting, pretend that you are talking to the mirror. And that the person that you are having this debate with is on the other side. Look at your reactions. Try different facial expressions, hand jestures. Now this depends on if you are just arguing with someone or giving a speech, or something like going to court. Be confidant. Look at your different expressions in the mirror. This should help. Practice makes Perfect.

Answer 4

My body does this too. The key to it is making sure before you get in an argument is making sure it is fact and that you have both legs to stand on. Then making your mind over that what you think it true by conversing with someone who is trustworthy. And then don't be scared to approach the person. If its for the best then thats it there is no way around it. We all get nervous just focus and say it. We do it because inside we are afraid of the reaction we will recieve. And that the truth.

Answer 5

You are way too uptight...I don't mean that in a negative, rude way. You need to learn to meditate...calm yourself before you speak to someone that you may disagree with...believe it or not, you can actually tell yourself (while you're arguing with someone) that it doesn't matter what they say or what they think.

Get control of yourself first. Be in control of yourself. I know that during an argument emotions tend to run a little higher than normal, but if you can get them under control, you might stand a chance! People won't even notice that it bothers you!

Answer 6

I learned a few tricks in theater class. First, realize that only 10% of what you are feeling is outwardly visable. Second, realize that your view is as valid as the person you are speaking with. Third, remember to take normal breaths. If you feel shaky or lightheaded then take a few moments (to ponder the question) and get your breathing deeper.

Answer 7

well when your in an arguement. maybe it might be out of anger or nerves. I shake when i do that to. or my heart beats really fast. so maybe. Your just getting high blood pressure and nerves when your agrueing. i think when someone is shaking in an agruement their more threatening like their about to hit me really hard or something, but that's just me. You can't really stop it. it's somthing your body has to get used too. of course i'm not a doctor so maybe there's a medication out there to come nerves.

Answer 8

i used to get like that when i was young. probably adrenaline or something. but as i matured and tried to keep my complete cool while arguing, i found i had better come-backs which made the other person loose it. I think the more you know your material and the more practice you get will help with that. i would practice in front of the mirror 10 times then in front of someone i knew would be objective and ask me questions so i would be thoroughly prepared.

Answer 9

i do this too! but it's gotten a lot less over the years and i think it's because i've gotten more comfortable with presenting or when i'm in an argument. breath really deep, from your belly, it helps to increase the oxygen flow thru out your body. don't rush what you are going to say, listen first. speak softly, especially when you are in an argument. it's unexpected and can be calming.

Answer 10

strange as it sounds, I would try doing some strenous workout ahead of time, it may seem strange but if you get your body tired and spent it may be hard for it to start shaking.

if you know you are presenting, run on the treadmill, you will use up alot of the nervous energy, it will get you relaxed and mind focused and you will be level.

Answer 11

You do that because your body is tense and you are not getting enough oxygen.

The next time you do it, notice how most of the muscles in your body are tightened up.

The solution is to give yourself time to breath. Don't speak in loud and continuous spurts. Speak normally and allow for natural pauses so that you can take in air to your lungs