I have found that are interested in me, are intelligent women, who have no intention of continuing any relationship other than being a friend, so my question remains what is love?
2007-10-30 15:34:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
First of all, I do love myself, without me being me, what do I have? But, I so want after almost 60 years, so much, just to love once. Or be loved once. I come up with such stupid or funny questions, but the one answer I have been craving for all of my life, I cannot find? Sometimes I feel that I belong in and era when love was not an issue, but companionship was. If I wasn't so blasted tonite, I wouldn't even be asking this question, I don't think? I am missing a big part of life, and to me, that is someone who can love me, for me, just a normal guy; I think? I guess I am really as weird as my family thinks, huh?
2007-10-30 15:55:34 · update #1
Havasnana, I wish too!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-30 16:02:23 · update #2
You are not "weird".You are probably one of the most interesting men I have ever had the pleasure to get to know,I think your shyness with women is what blocks your possibilities.The women who attrack you are dismissed because you doubt your ability to interest them,when all you have to do Wally is open your mouth! Love is what I wish for you,warm,all engulfing and wildly passionate,someone who will be there for you through the years.....give me a little while to get out of my marriage and we'll talk about it!!
2007-10-30 22:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara D 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I did not find my ''soul'' mate until the age of 47. I was ready to give up. I had two bad marriages before, the first right out of high school and the second time I knew that I was settling for less but I thought that that was a good as it could get. I was wrong. I know that the kind of relationship my husband and I have is rare and very special. But even when two people are so right for each other it takes some work. The best things about our relationship are that we love each other equally. One does not love more than the other. Another thing is that we both love each other to put the other one first. His happiness and comfort are more important to me than my own but I could not feel this way if he did not feel the same. I don't know how to tell anyone to find this. I know one thing for sure ...you can't find the right one if you are with the wrong one.
What is love? It is caring more for someone else than self. It is a decision.
2007-10-31 00:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
See, folks, with the exception of a few wisea** answers, THIS is what YA Seniors was like when I came to it. Someone could open their hearts and expose their feelings with an honest question and get flooded with loving responses trying to help the questioner feel better, find a new way, etc. I feel honored to be considered a friend by many of these people.
Wally, you received some wonderfully heart-felt answers. There is nothing I can add to any of it except, I hope you truly find and experience love. With true, honest love, the good outweighs the bad, always.
2007-10-31 08:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wally...this is a great question....I think everyone has a different feeling about what love is....some feel love is just security.....knowing that they have their finances under control, someone to spend time with and have similar interests, but there is no passion or goose bumps.....believe it or not--I know people who think that is love.....
Others feel it is an emotion like no other, you get the goosebumps when u touch and smile when u r thinking of the other.....u may finish each others thought and sentences....sometimes you have the same interests and sometimes you do not....
I have a friend that is totally in love with her spouse for physical reasons---not his looks,,,he is not a nice person, and they do absolutely nothing together, but the physical chemistry is something she has looked for her whole life......
Even in love, there are times you may not be happy with your partner and get mad, sad or upset with them, but in time you calm down and realize you love them and it is ok, no one is perfect......Love is so many things rolled into ONE......
Love can be laughing together and watching movies or reading a book in silence together.......
I hope what ever feeling of LOVE you are looking for, you find it.......you deserve it.......I know a couple of women who are widows and they too are looking for love......I always say when they stop looking maybe it will show up.......
I wish much joy, happiness and love for you.......
2007-10-30 23:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't go along with those that say that love is all bubbly and blue skies and butterflies. Love is a lot of heartache, tough times and making compromises. I think that you do know what love is. What is wrong with having friends that you love? I have many friends who are older and younger than I am and they do not feel less of a person because they have not found that "one true love". You seem to be an intelligent and adventurous person. I wish that I had your spunk! Now, stop worrying and get on with your life!
2007-10-31 01:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wally - I have read others' comments and found goldwings among a couple others to be good stuff.
One thing I'd like to share with you - when 'we' WANT so much we tend to wear it like a badge that blinks 'BEWARE - I am in need'. We may not be aware of it, but others pick up the vibe and most will shy away from that level of need/want.
Relax; be you; enjoy folk as they come to you; do not try to see everyone you interact with as a potential mate/love; stretch a bit and get out and meet new people - and focus more on developing great friends - ya' never know what may develop that you may have least expected.
2007-10-31 09:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is very magical. You think of that person all the time and want to be with them. You share things and learn about each other. That is the honeymoon period. Once that dies down, you can be more yourself, relax and enjoy the relationship. The bad part about being in love is when it turns sour. That is the horrible part. But like they say, "it is better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all." Believe me love can still happen for you. A friend I know got married for the first time at 65!
2007-10-30 23:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I feel like companionship is step one to love, and you have to like many of the same things. My first love broke my heart, he was transferred to Calif. from Oregon. I was sure I would never see him again. Well wrong on that 5 months later we were married. We wrote to each other every day. I have had several loves, one real one and that one almost destroyed me. When you stop looking is when it happens. You also have to be affectionate with no other motive than being a loving mate. Send me an E Wally. ;0)
2007-10-30 23:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by lilabner 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Many times you can find love from friendships or having something in common with one another. It often happens when you aren't looking for it. Passion is fleeting, but true love needs a solid foundation. Love is knowing someone, the good and the bad and still wanting to be with them. When you are with someone and you feel they make you better than you are, that's love. It's not only how you feel about the other person, but what you feel about yourself, when you are with that person.
I hope you find that special love and have a wonderful life with her. Bless you.
2007-10-30 23:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wally, I don't know what to tell you...love puts you in the clouds, makes you feel thoroughly alive, every stupid thing you have ever heard in songs, seen in movies, or read in books. In life, some people are easy to love, others are not...I have no idea why. Some elicit friendship from all, some elicit love from many...again, I have no idea why. What I do know is that the world is filled to the brim with lonely people craving another to share their life with. I have been lucky in life in that I have always been loved, often too much by, at times, a few too many at once (that is not as much fun as it may sound). I know that I approach all with openess, honesty, will admit I am a tad flirtty around the edges, and I suppose there is always a "yes" in my tone. Those who approach others with reserve form friends, and many, but rarely get farther than that, for the world is filled with fear..a fear of the word, 'no.' I have found that men who display strenght and confidence, yet at the same time, vulnerability, are prime targets of women. I suspect that if you were to put as much time in the open world, being nice, smiling at others, get to a gym and put out some effort, your life would turn 180 degrees quickly. AT our age, people are not nearly as interested in the "Tom Cruise"looks as they are the well maintained, intelligent, witty man. And there is an old saying, "there is someone for everyone...but it takes a wise man to recognize the treasure when he finds it. That treasure may well be at your finger tips and you just don't know it. Open your eyes and your heart and amazing things just might happen. I will say one thing, you are one honest dude to put this forth, and I admire you for it. No one can advise you as to what to do, for if you are not yourself, you are selling a fake bill of goods. I am sure there are many out there who would love to meet you. And right now, I know of at least one... but she is also blind, and is seeking her treasure in all the wrong places. ....it would seem that you two just might make a pair and a half...I have no idea. But my heart goes out to you. I wish you love, and soon. NO ONE should live life without knowing love. Get a move on, for none of us is that sure of what tomorrow brings. Peace, Phil
I have problems with a few of the answers above...Wally has really put himself out there with this question and a few of the answers were nothing short of flippant...not very nice.
2007-10-31 00:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋