me and my girlfriend have been going through some very rough patches lately (she lied a lot and lost my trust) so i decided to break it off with her. when i was she came out with something that shocked me. she told me 5 months ago she had a miscarriage. i was stunned. she told me that she had a miscarriage 3 weeks into her pregnancy. we didnt break up.
some close friends have told me that she makes up a lot of stuff. im starting to believe them.
she seems to play the sympathy card a lot and my parents have even commented on how she says funny things to try and get me more protective over her.
the thing thats bugging me is. she never mentioned it. never had "pains" or any symptoms and it was 3 weeks into it.
wouldn't a 3 week miscarriage be nothing but a blob of blood...an off period?...so i've been told.
i have a feeling that she lied to me so we wouldn't break up.
opinions please. thanks!
2007-10-30 12:47:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow!! you guys are quick. it's my worst fear really. to love someone who would lie so much to you. I don't know how to pick a favorite answer. new to this. but you've all been very helpful. thank you so much.
2007-10-30 13:02:10 · update #1
She is working you!! Dump her, this manipulation is a red flag and is only going to get worse!!
2007-10-30 12:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be lying. you can tell if you are pregnant that early and she might not have had any symptoms or obvious signs of pregnancy..... but, why wouldn't she have told you she was pregnant. Maybe she had an abortion.
yeah, a 3 week miscarriage could very well be like a heavy period. how did she know she was preg? did she see a doc? i'd ask her a bunch of non confrontational questions until she breaks.
what confuses me is why would you not break up with her just because she had a miscarriage 5 months ago?
now, if she told you she was still pregnant, i could see why the sympathy card would be an issue.... but there's no baby and nothing tying you 2 together right now.
why stay if you don't trust her..... you might be giving her the opportunity to get pregnant now and then where will you be?
2007-10-30 12:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by pickle_tkl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie if she was really preggers she would have told you 5months ago! SO right off I'm thinking it's a lie to keep you...why would she wait this long to tell you she miscarried 5 MONTHS AGO! She should have told you she was pregnant FIRST!! yes regardless if its a blob of blood (it was a tiny person) its still a living baby...although very tiny it would have been still living so dont think that way...about miscarriages
The main thing is she was probably lying about the whole thing...she would have told you RIGHT THEN the momet she found out she was pregnant...so thats sum bullsh** that she miscarried...
MAN MOVE ON! find a trust worthy girl she is not worth it...you need someone you can trust if you dont have that AND communication in a relationship you have NOTHING!
2007-10-30 12:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Honey Luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a 3 week miscarriage wouldn't be much more than a "funny" period. Like maybe a week or so late.
So much of the time now with the otc pregnancy tests people take them and it shows positive but the next week they have their period because they miscarried. 30 years ago it never would have been discovered that the woman was pregnant, she'd just assume she was "late."
2007-10-30 12:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well by the story u just told me, I do believe she was lying to keep u. If she is a type of lady that likes people to feel sorry for her she would have told u this when it happend. But she waits until u are tired of her stuff and she knows what to do to keep u, thats to lie about having a miscarriage.
Tip:
Dont ever date a weak woman
and she is weak.
2007-10-30 12:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by kisha8223 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that you got lied to so that she could get sympathy. I have a friend that did that to someone. The only thing is that she said that she was pregnant and then she had a miscarriage when she actually went and had an abortion. She tried to make everyone feel sorry for her when she actually did everything to her herself.
2007-10-30 12:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but I think shes playing you. Most guys would feel like crap for breaking up with a girl that has gone through that. You said it yourself...... why not tell you when it happened? I'd cut my losses and get out of the relationship. Good luck!!
2007-10-30 12:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by DarkShip17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why her having a miscarriage would cause you to continue dating her. It was 5 months ago. It's time you stop being manipulated, dump her and move on.
2007-10-30 12:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this girl. Even if it were true, you dont want to be with someone that doesn't tell you important things like that! She has a lot of growing up to do. Find a better girl.
2007-10-30 12:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she lied, it's hard to detect the pregnancy hormone (hcg) at 3 weeks. & yes, it would come out like a "blob" during her next period--basically she had a chemical pregnancy if she wasn't lying.
2007-10-30 12:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by cloudyskies 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋