my mom made me an appointment at the gynecologist.?

Question

i found out about this today when the office called to confirm i was comming later, and i answered the phone.when my mom got home i asked her why i had an appointment at the gynecologist, and she told me that it was to get birth control. i flipped out on her and she told me it was to 'regulate my hormones.' im honestly very hurt by that. lately ive been very happy. [this summer i got sort of depressed for a month, but who wouldnt when every last one of their friends backstabbed them?] if she was concirned about my mental heath, she should have taken me to see a psychiatrist. obviously she thinks im going to be having sex. im very hurt by that, im 13 years old and she should know well enough that i would never. im a good kid, i get good grades in school, i dont dress like a sl ut, i hang out with nice people, so i dont know what drove her to that assumption.[she has said things also that kind of mentioned it, so im not overreacting.] what should i do?

my period is regular.

Answer 1

lol.

Sorry for the laugh, but just because she wants to put you on birth control does not mean she thinks you are a slut!!!!

I see you are regular. How are the PMS symptoms? Irritability? Etc? It must be bad if your mom is making an appointment for you.

Talk to the doctor with her there about why you don't want birth control (I assume that is why you flipped out).

Answer 2

Calmly and again I stress calmly speak to her as a mature 13 year old and let her know that you feel she should have considered you opinion on this matter and that your feelings are very hurt by her assumptions that you would have sex at the age of 13. Let her know that while you appreciate her concern that you feel she is overreacting and that your opinion should have been considered before she decided to put you on a medication that you do not wish to be on that have side effects that will affect YOUR body. Just be respectful when you speak to her but the bottom line is she can't make you take a medication that you feel strongly against. If you do go to the appointment then speak to the nurse and the doctor and let them know that this is against your wishes. Best of luck to you, you may be a kid but you still have rights.

Answer 3

you should sit down and talk with your mom. If you havent been to a gyno before but are having periods then its worth the visit anyway. I havent met a 13 year old , or for that matter a 14,15,16 year old that really plans to have sex. It just sort of happens . Birth control pills can help regulate your cycles . Talk to the Doctor and make sure he / she listens to you, not just your Mom.

I would agree with you that if you arent having any problems then 13 is young for birth control. If you do have a situation you can get the "morning after "pill.

Answer 4

My mom started me on birth control at your age. She said it was for my cramping. I don't know if that was the truth or not. Even if you don't plan on having sex soon birth control can be beneficial to a teenager. It does help your hormones and regulates your periods. You won't bleed as heavy or as many days. Your cramps will lighten up. It also helps with acne. Birth control also is being proven to help reduce the chances of developing cervical cancer. I know you are 13 and that is the last thing on your mind. If I were you, I'd just go and take them and just because you are on them doesn't mean you have to have sex.

Answer 5

First off, communicate. If you're afraid of a shouting match, wait until you go to the doctor's and confront her there with the doctor as a (unwilling, I'm sure) witness. Be calm and logical, not emotional (NO "flipping out!"), or she'll do that "see what I mean" thing with the doctor.

Secondly, you can NOT be forced to take birth control if it isn't considered medically necessary to your health. Actually, the side effects of birth control pills are awful. I know, I spent almost a year with blood clots (pulmonary embolisms). So just say no. Mother or not, she can NOT force you to take them!

Let us know how it goes...

Answer 6

Your mom never should have scheduled an appointment without talking to you about it first. She doesn't have the right to make you take birth control. You have every right to be hurt about this situation.

Your mom probably just doesn't know how to talk to you about sex and she thought this was the only way to go about it. It's very childish on her part, but maybe she's just afraid to talk about it in a mature way. You should sit down with your mom and talk to her about how you feel. Tell her that you feel hurt that she didn't talk to you about this before scheduling an appointment. Tell her your feelings on taking birth control and going to the doctor, whatever they might be. Good luck!

Answer 7

Try to talk with your mother and tell her she hurt you .Talk with the doctor tell him/her how you feel about this and maybe he can help the two of you work this out. Your mother is trying to protect you in her own way. I know how you feel but as a mother I also how she feels. Yes woman do go through crazy hormones but thats your body maturing I wish you the best and it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Just remember your mother loves you . And no I'm not her My girls are all grown and I have two granddaughters

Answer 8

You may want to sit her down and speak with her about PRIVACY. I'm sure she wants privacy as well. I feel that her doing this behind your back is not a good start to a mother daughter bond with her teenager. I'm not saying that this couldn't be a good thing to talk to you about, but I firmly believe that TALKING to you should have come first. I'm sorry for you that she has made you feel this way and I am sorry for her, because she would invade your privacy and rights without a single word of it to you. You definately should talk to her if you ever want that privacy back. Maybe even explain to her that you deserve that respect, to at least tell you first, just as she would expect you to respect her. Respect runs two ways, you know, regardless of how you are. Don't forget to tell her that you love her though, but that you feel pryed upon!

Answer 9

TALK to her. DON'T overreact or you just might end up at a shrinks. No fun there, though having a certificate to Prove that you're sane is always helpful.

Also you can talk to the Doctor, tell them you're uncomfortable with this and that you'd like their help in talking to your mom. This however should be a last resort since it suggests a lack of trust in her. You could also mention to your mom that setting the visit up without telling you hurts the trust you place in her.

Answer 10

please ignore the *** above me....well birth control will regulate your period and if you are upset with your mother then tell her and ask her to explain why she wants you on it in detail till you understand. She can not by law make you go on birth control, that is your choice. She also by law dose not have to go with you to the gynecologist, your doc will ask you if you want her in there. Anyways that is what I would do. Good luck sweetheart and remember that is your body not anyone elses