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Question

hi all of u l!!! i am 23 yrs old girl married to 29 yrs old man.i have been trying to conceive for 10 months now.i never thought its gonna be soo difficult to conceive a baby.its like a nightmare that i am not able to get pregnant.i feel devasted.all the time i hear one or the other friend of mine getting pregnant or in my family. i get depressed and cry about thinking y did not i become pregnant...i cry all the time thinking abt it.i feel all alone.i badly wants to become a mom.i'm having an appointment with the GP 2moro.i donno wat she will advice me..and how long wil it take for my reports to come over

Answer 1

well, you are taking the first step by seeing a Dr., which is good. Don't get so depressed over it, at least wait until after your appointment. Your husband should see a doctor as well, to be sure there isn't anything wrong with his sperm count. If all seems well, then be patient and believe that God knows whats best. There is also adoption as an option, which is also a beautiful thing. Everything is going to work out, you will see. Good luck!

Answer 2

I understand how you feel. It is very difficult and the only ones that understand are those that have been through the pain of infertility. It does not help when people give you useless advice like "just relax and it will happen", "you're still young" or "adopt". They make it seem like a) you are doing something wrong that is not allowing you to get pregnant and b) that either one of these things is even an option when you have your heart set on a baby of your own. I am glad you are on your way to see a doctor as they can see if there is some medical reason that is causing a pregnancy not to happen like low sperm count or hormonal troubles. This can ease your mind immensely if you find out there is nothing wrong. If there is something wrong you can set a plan to correct it. I can tell you that I have felt like a pin cushion from all the blood testing but it has given me peace of mind in a small way that at least I am setting a plan to have a baby. Know that you are not alone. There are a wonderful group of ladies at www.twoweekwait.com that can offer a great deal of support. Good luck!

Answer 3

Start the natural family planning method (which is what your doctor will tell you to do and any fertility clinic will require you to do before they start treatment).

You will have to chart your baseline temperature and possable keep track of your cervical mucus for around 3 monthes. This will get you familier with the best times to try and concieve. The best advice though is to just relax, let it go and enjoy eachother, most times couples who are trying really hard let themselves down and soon as they decide to adopt or to quit they find themselves happily pregnant :)

I was dignosed subfertile to infertile. I let it get me down and cried all the time about not being able to have children, finally came to the deciion that when the time was right I would look into adoption. When all my guards were let down after a couple years of unprotected sex I found myself pregnant and now have a 2 year old.

You have many options available to you if you can not naturally get pregnant. You could be a foster parent, an adoptive parent, you can try fertility treatments or serrogate mothers. Or it might not be you at all that can not get pregnant but your husband. It hurts many guys egos but to test their sperm count is much simpler and quicker than it is to put you through a stream of tests to find out you have no problem.

Answer 4

My heart goes out to you! I have been there, done that and finally adopted a beautiful baby girl in June. People just don't understand how hard it is and how much it sucks to find out someone else is pregnant when you still aren't!

A fertility specialist generally won't see you until you have been trying for a year to get pregnant and haven't conceived yet. I definitely recommend going to a reproductive endocrinologist as soon as you can because they are specialized in infertility and know just what to look for. They have better technology and can do procedures such as in-Vitro, etc. If you are serious about getting pregnant quickly, then definitely see a specialist as soon as you can!

Good luck!

Answer 5

i know how you feel and it sucks so bad! a few years ago when my now fiance and i first started being intimate, i was rapped by another guy who i didnt know and i became pregnant. i wanted so much for the baby to be my boyfriends but after she was born a dna test confirmed he wasnt. i was so mad that after that one time of being rapped i became pregnant because when my fiance and i were finally ready to try for a second child it took us over a year to conceive. It was so frustrating to think that i couldn't make another baby but then one day it finally happened and 10 weeks later i had a miscarriage. what another let down! How could a selfish bastard be so lucky to rape and father a child and yet my loving fiance wasnt able to. but now i am happy to say that almost 2 years later i am 4 months pregnant and everything is going fine! my fiance treats my daughter just like his own and she will never know any different and this second baby will only help our family grow. all i can say is try to be patient and someday it will finally happen. hopefully for you it will be soon!

Answer 6

Try no to concentrate on it so much! ... I know it's easy to say and hard to do. I wouldn't worry so much ... you still have plenty of years ahead of you to get pregnant. I've been trying for about the same time as you and still no success either but I just decided that whenever it's supposed to happen it will happen. I don't even want to see a doctor anytime soon ... I might if it takes too long but until then, we'll just try to have more fun and see what happens. Good luck! I hope it works out well for you soon!

Answer 7

Hi Nazy, So sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Please try not to worry so much about conceiving, you're still very young and it will happen when you stop stressing about it.

Have you thought about adding some walking in your daily routine? It will help to relax your body and mind as well.....and don't forget to eat as well as you can. Not too much junk food!

Eat plenty veggies and fruits and lean meats....and most of all drink orange juice, it's full of folic acid which has been known to benefit young women in their childbearing years.

I wish you the very best. Take care and dont' stress!
It will happen!

Answer 8

I think you will be fine. Making a baby may take time for some people. You should definitely consult with your doctor.

Answer 9

everything happens for a reason.. maybe you just arent ready.. dont worry you will get your baby.. try not to make your focus to have a baby because that will put strain on the relationship.. do it to feel good.. and make ur babu out of love.. dont over do it... and feel positive. in life you will never get more than you can handle.. so hang tough and look up

Answer 10

Seeing a doctor is the next step. But don't give up; keep trying.

At the very least think positive. Be happy for your friends who are becoming moms now. You will join them one day.