she knows of nothing else and can get your dad in to major trouble if anything happens... how do you do that?and all that your family wants to do is help her!
2007-10-30 11:22:57 · 16 answers · asked by me(: 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if it has been that long, it is very likely that even your mom does not know the reason. it is for this fact that you should continue to encourage your mom to seek counseling and/or treatment (i.e. AA) to give her the opportunity to come to the root of her problems.
in the meantime, lookup some support for yourself and the rest of the family. ALANON and ALATEEN are great groups for family members of alcoholics.
2007-10-30 11:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by nashgirl21 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what you cant do this by yourself. Even if it is all you have ever known. If your looking for answers then it will probably be very hard for you to understand your mothers feelings as in the modern world alcoholism is frowned upon - but is also recognised as an illness, which is a good thing.
The best thing for you to do is speak to your doctor, they arent just there for your physical health but are also there to make sure you get through life OK. They will be able to help you and maybe even answer some of your questions. They may also be able to give you advice on making your mum fit and healthy again.
It definitely worth a try. Instead of finding a cause that you will accept regarding your moms alcoholism, channel all your energy to helping find a cure.
it sounds as if you have a good family who all want the best for her and are all willing to help, so make use of them have a chat and try and work things out for your mom.
i hope everything goes well.
2007-10-30 18:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask why if you know the reason is that SHE IS AN ALCOHOLIC!
Your mom will not get help until SHE wants to be helped. Something is going to HAVE TO happen in her life to make her want to stop and to stay away from alcohol and the living hell it is.
All i can do is hope that your mom "snaps" before it ruins her life like it did mine. I was an award-winning teacher and now I can never teach again. I am getting divorced (my husband refuses to quit) and I went to prison because of my drinking.
Like I said, the change will have to come from within her. Maybe something you say or do will make her wake up. She is being selfish and spoiled and thinking only of herself and not of those she is hurting.
2007-10-30 18:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by shallytally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother has been an alcoholic since I was seven. I've tried asking her myself but she just denies it. I've been to the family version of AA and from what I have pieced together it starts off small. She probably drinks because she feels she has to be happy and there is no other way but through substances.
I would bring it up by asking her to hang out with you for a little while and if she starts to drink then be forward, say something along the lines of "i'm not drinking, and I'm sure its wierd for you doing that by yourself. Why are you drinking? lets do something else?" Don't be pushy, from my experiance that would just make her upset.
2007-10-30 18:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Archimedes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was an alcoholic/drug addict, a really bad one she was emotinally and phisically abusive. It took everyone to leave her to get her to realize she had to stop. I was the last one to live with her and when I moved out she started meetings and recovery about a month or two later. She has been sober for three years and is going to college. I am still kind of scarred from her behavior but I am really proud of her now. I really think they have to hit rock bottom before they do something about the problem.
2007-10-30 18:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by aria1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is a disease just like cancer. Nobody wants to be an alcoholic, just like nobody wants cancer. Usually by the time you realize you're an alcoholic it's to late. Usually it takes something drastic happening for people to wake up and get help.
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-30 18:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to get help and support when dealing with a loved one who is addicted to any particular substance. Often there are underlying issues as to why the person becomes addicted in the first place.
You could try and suggest to her that you want her to find someone to help her through her addiction as it is hurting everyone around her at the moment.
2007-10-30 19:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by JDB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this isn't something you have to go through alone. You said your family wants to help your mom, that's great! She may not like it now, but your mom needs help.
2007-10-30 18:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by kT*going to the chapel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask....Help her by begging her to get help. Tell her how here problem makes you feel. Tell her that you willl be there for her thru it all. Don't force, because that can drive a wedge thru ur relationship. She has to want to be helped.
2007-10-30 18:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask straight out. don't sugar coat it or beat around the bush.
Her drinking has affected your life and that of your family and you want to help her.
2007-10-30 18:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by abesegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋