I am 25 years old and my best friend invites me to sleep over all the time still, but I only take her up on it once or twice a year. Last night my boyfriend and I were discussing it and he is trying to put a stop to it completely. He says that he feels like I don't want to be with him and that its not normal for grown women to have slumber parties still. We have been living together for 5 years, and its not a trust issue or anything. I feel like it is unfair for him to try and tell me that I can't or shouldn't sleep at my friend's house a couple times a year. I was hoping to get some perspective-should I be angry at my boyfriend or is he right and I need to "grow up"?
Thanks
2007-10-30 10:27:55 · 8 answers · asked by is_just_me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly, nothing is wrong with that. If you guys have been together for that long and your relationship is in good status then he doesn't understand that you have friends of your own and need a little time away here and there. Twice a year is nothing, could it be an insecurity for him that your gone? I know it's hard once you get use to somebody beside and when their not there it's hard to sleep.
I think your ok with doing it, if he can't handle you gone to your friends place once or twice a year, i would think he has a small issue.
2007-10-30 10:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 32 and occasionally have girl's nights with my girlfriends too. Women bond in was different from guys so he probably just doesn't get it. It has nothing to do with you not wanting to spend time with him, but you want to spend time with your friend. If he can't accept that you want to spend a night with your best friend, you'll have to explain why it's so important to you. Maybe then the real problem will come out into the open for you to address.
2007-10-30 11:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is jealous. So what if you like to have girl's night once in a while...we all need time with our friends! Does he have any friends? Does he go out on guy's nights? If so what is the difference between the two?
Tell him to grow up.
2007-10-30 10:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 too and I love havign sleep overs with my best friends. Your boyfriend is an *** and needs to shut the f*ck up. Maybe he should find some friends of his own.
2007-10-30 10:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by morbidlybeautiful 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it,
You can sleep over if your really want to , and he isn't your husband so he doesn't get that option,
I would NOT leave my friend for this reason, it make NO sense.
Meg
2007-10-30 10:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
25 or 50 everybody wants to have fun i bet he has friends and you don't get mad at him when he's with them so you need to solve this problem and if this talking to him thing doesn't work there must be a trust problem and both of y'all need to work that out
2007-10-30 10:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to him
its OK and nothing is wrong
just tell him you have been doing this for years
and she is your best friend
2007-10-30 10:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by msn_bill 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hes right GROW UP ur 25 living with ur boy friend and u still sleep over in ur friends house...why do u feel u have to stay the night with her..thats wat people do wen dere in primary school..
2007-10-30 10:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋