Can someone disagree with the homosexual lifestyle without being judgmental?

Question

Is there a line between disagreement and judgment?

I'm asking in this section because I'm most interested to hear the opinion of homosexuals, but anyone is free to share.

Um, I just meant being homosexual. Nothing more.

Ok, I'm sorry if I offended someone with the word lifestyle just substitute "homosexuality"

I'm sorry, I should've clarified, I am speaking as a Christian who believes that homosexuality is a sin (and please don't attack me for that, I am just as much entitled to an opinion as you) but I was wondering whether you automatically view someone as judgmental when you find out their view on homosexuality differ from yours. Are those one in the same?

Answer 1

Being gay is no more good or bad than being a christian is. When christians start respecting us for the people God intended us to be. Then christians will be respected. I believe Jesus said, "Judge not lest you be judged and found wanting." Why can't christians just go about the business of being christian and stop telling us to think and live as they do? I would ask this. What is the christian preoccupation with us? We would be more than happy to ignore christians and just let them do their own thing. But when christians attack us calling us sinners going to hell etc. They can expect we will respond in kind. The fact is judgemental christians turn more people off to that religion than they ever draw to it. This may come as a shock to you, but we really do not care whether you like us or not. All we ask is you respect us as God created people who think and live differently and hurt no one in the process. Frankly it's no ones business but ours!

Answer 2

Why do you think, Dearest? The Gay Folk have been derided, attacked, horribly slandered by others. Your question -- as innocent as it may have appeared -- was just one in a never-ending line of them. I have a monogamous 27 year relationship. I contantly have to justify it. If I was a heterosexual, no one would ever blink. I'd be lauded for such an accomplishment in this world but because I'm a Lesbian people look at me funny. (and then they congratulate me!) Jesus said Not One Word about Homosexuality. Take His example and Say Not One Word against your Neighbor. Blessed are the Merciful.

Answer 3

Well, someone that thinks of it as a lifestyle is being judgmental by definition. Most, if not all, gay people say that their sexual orientation is not a choice, and personally, I agree. I didn't choose to be straight and I couldn't choose to be gay. Also, there is no universal homosexual lifestyle, just as there is no heterosexual lifestyle. (Only 7% of families in the US consist of a man and a woman with two children living together.)

So while you can find homosexuality a turnoff and not be judgmental, or not find it appealing, or not want to make out with someone of your sex, if you word your opinion that way it is judgmental.

Answer 4

Your initial premise is faulty. There is no such thing as "THE homosexual lifestyle". There are homosexual people in every socioeconomic class, every ethnicity, every religion. There are homosexual people living in big cities, smaller cities, suburban towns, and in rural areas all around the planet. There are homosexual people who live alone, others who live with their same-sex partners, others who live with their children. Still others live with their parents -- who may or may not know that their son or daughter is gay. Some homosexual people are closeted and married to opposite-sex spouses.

You get the point, I hope. Whatever "lifestyle" it is that you object to, you need to be very specific -- and you also need to recognize that for every gay person who lives this particular lifestyle, there are probably a dozen straight people who live the exact same way.

If you're "disagreeing" with homosexuality in general -- and not with a specific "lifestyle" -- that doesn't make any sense either. Homosexuality exists whether you like it or not. "Disagreeing" with it is like "disagreeing" with lefthandedness, or red hair, or tallness. Its a meaningless thing to say, and saying it only makes you look and sound ignorant.

Answer 5

As at least two people said while my slow connection was connecting: What exactly is the "homosexual lifestyle"?

What do people mean by it?

As a friend of mine says: "I am gay and my life has a certain style ... for whatever good that does anyone else"

I don't really care whether people I don't know agree with the way I live my life or not.

I'm a lesbian, my partner is a lesbian ... people agreeing or disagreeing is not going to change that.
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Answer 6

Well ,Im not here to judge you either, but homosexuality as a form of lustful living is a sin, and the bible does say in Deuteronomy to lay with man as with a woman is an abalmination. I am a gay male though, but the way I see it is Im allowed to not be perfect, but I believe and trust in the Lord our father and I know that he knows Im a sinner. The question isnt so much what people think the bible said, but the point is what God said about living in the lusts of the flesh. I happen to love my boyfriend very much, but our love is not just about lust and God knows that. The bible also says judge not for you then shall be judged in the same manner. Yes you can disagree, but leave judgement up to the Lord. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do, but as long as you forgive as Jesus did, you are being a great christian. I hope this helps you!

Answer 7

You cross the line between disagreement and judgment when you start trying to convert or are arguing "your side". Remember there are 2 sides to every story.

For the record, disagreeing with homosexuality is like disagreeing with black people. It is a hard fact, that like there are black people in the world, there are gay and lesbian people in the world.

Answer 8

I think if one disagrees with the homosexual "lifestyle", they're being judgmental. That's like a homosexual disagreeing with a heterosexual "lifestyle".
There are things I disagree with but I'm usually smart enough to keep them to myself.

Answer 9

Nope, for one thing, it's not a "lifestyle" so by merely calling it so, you are judging an entire group of people and assuming we all live our lives the same way.

There's no such thing as a "gay" house, "gay" car, "gay" houseplant, "gay" furniture, "gay" taxes.
These are items which define a "lifestyle" or better, a style of living. Gays/lesbians don't all live in the same house, drive the same cars, have the same plants, wear the same clothes, have the same jobs, or pay the same taxes.
We have our individual lives, jobs, homes, clothes, cars...etc.

It's also not a choice to be gay.
Who in their right mind would actually CHOOSE to be hated, denied access to rights and protections, beaten, harassed, bullied and even murdered simply for who they love?


ALSO:

How exactly can you 'disagree' with homosexuality? Are you saying you don't like it or that you don't believe it exists? If you don't like it, fine don't have homosexual sex. Especially if you're straight, that would just be confusing.

Honey, you're obviously young and not all that aware of the struggles and pitfalls we, the GLBT community, have had. We're human beings, we don't go out and "recruit" straights to become gay. If you're not gay, then you're not gay. It can't be chosen or changed.
We have lives, families, jobs, red blood, emotions...just like you. We're no different, only who we are attracted to is different. But then again, how different is that really?
I'm sure the type of person you're attracted to isn't the same as your best friend or classmate, right?
We're all different.
Either by Hair color, eye color, skin color, what hand we write with, what religion we practice, what foods we eat...

Differences is what makes life worth living. It keeps life interesting and challenging. Without these differences, we'd all be robots with no creativity, no beauty. How sad would that be?

Answer 10

Back to the question...

I don't see how anyone can disagree with homosexuality. How does what I do in the privacy of my own home affect you? You (society) are not in my home, nor are 'society' children.

If society so chooses to walk in to a gay bar, or to attend a Gay pride parade, then they know what they are getting themselves in to... just as I know what I'm getting in to when I walk out the door every morning into the Heterosexual world.


** BIG STAR TO RAY T!!! **