Is it annoying when people just show up and you have to drop whatever you you are doing or?

Question

do you like entertaining unexpectedly - what is your thoughts about this

Answer 1

I don't like it, I prefer to be called before hand, but then again I'm what you'd call a social disaster and like to plan my stuff way in advance.

Answer 2

Dear Cheri, I can understand your feelings on this and of course people should always try to be a little considerate about just dropping in unexpectedly.
However, being the person I am, I would try to still make them feel welcome and do my best about the situation IF I was busy doing something. I have had many people drop by when I had taken time off to study and hardly got down to it when someone appeared at the front door. At one point I did get annoyed but when I got to the door I decided that it was pointless and nasty if I had to show that person that she was not welcome. I would never visit anyone without first asking if it was convenient for them too. I guess we are all different, some considerate and others not.

Answer 3

You know Cheri, its so funny that you should ask this. I was just thinking recently about how things will be when I return back home. Im going to "pick"on my own race here and say that Indian people are just world leaders when it comes to going into other peoples homes uninvited. I mean we love to be called a community and all...but some people just take it too far. I HATE that. eversince I can remember there were always people just showing up on our doorsteps and expecting us to entertain them. My family and I are very welcoming and kind towards others, but some people just dont get it. I had absolutely little or no privacy growing up. There were people everywhere. maybe its just my household...maybe it happens to others too.....but one thing I know...I come from the mosty dysfunctional world I know. :-)
Have a LOVELY day everyone!!

Answer 4

I really do not mind. People that knows me ,know they can even call me in the middle of the night if they have problems or just want to talk. Through the years I have become known to family and friends that I have an opendoor policy. That way they don't feel unwelcome and me not uncomfortable when they visit and I have to finish whatever I am busy with, and if I'm tired or not in the mood they understand if I tell them in their face. They know then that next time it will be business as usual. This way it takes the stress out of visits and if my place is in a mess or I don't have something to feed them,they understand.

Answer 5

I am normally put out when people arrive unannounced simply because I seem to "spread" myself around the house, and need to pick up all the pieces so that it looks more presentable for visitors. When my brother or sister come, then they know what to expect. But, man, I do like to present myself in a better light! I really envy people who can keep their place looking as if they have not been there all day. My house always has that "lived in" look. But, now that I have opened up my secret" to all of you, you are all welcome to come and visit and find a place on the couch while I make some tea and flapjacks !!

Answer 6

i LOVE when people show up unexpectedly. it doesn't happen too often, but when it does, it's a nice surprise. of course, if they show up without calling, chances are pretty good that i won't be there, as i don't spend too much time sitting around at home.
i'm not exactly sure what this question has to do with south africa though, unless you intended to ask whether it was polite to show up unexpectedly at a south african's home.

Answer 7

Hi Cheri
I really dont mind, i like entertaining people, however that rarely happens with me , everyone that comes to visit usually calls earlier in the day or a few days before to make plans,etc.

Answer 8

I would call myself before going to someone's house. But, as long as it's not parents, I don't mind unexpected guests. Parents I DO mind, however. My son's paternal grandparents would come without calling a lot and that really makes me mad.
But as far as others, if I don't have time to entertain, I'll set up another time, unless it's something of real importance and they are going through time of need.

Answer 9

I do not really mind however, I always appreciate when someone calls me if they want to visit. It is just a token of courtesy to someone to let him/her know that you are coming over for a visit. Unexpected visits sometimes turns out so good because you do not have time to plan anything and what you do then happens in the spur of the moment.

Answer 10

It depends on what kind of visitors they are. If they are company I don't enjoy too much or people who could make me feel embarass about the mess in my house, yea, it's annoying.

Otherwise it's always a nice surprise to have friends showing up, unless I was busy of course.

Answer 11

Hi, Cheri

Please bear with me……I always expect the unexpected…..I grew up in a church, my “dad” being the priest in the Methodist Church……to us, to expect the unexpected was the rule…..so that is within my blood….. you’d have realised that I put dad in brackets…..it’s because I had another set of parents……in that house we were always told never to cook for five people but for seven….in case somebody comes before we eat…or after that and before we cook the next meal……that principle also applied at the “mission”, as we called the priest’s official residence……we always made space for unexpected visitors…..the “mission houses” we lived in normally had three bedrooms……and the three boys shared one bedroom……but every time visitors came, we had to go and sleep in the living room on foam mattresses……...Now, I live alone in a flat, but I feel so lonely…….I always wish that somebody could knock on the door to be with me when it’s eating time……..so when unexpected people rock up at my place, I become ecstatic…..