My wife decided after coming back from a trip to visit her single lesbo friend, that she did not want to be married anymore. She has finally moved out to live with her relative. She states that she can't be the person she is around me. She felt same way last year and left for a month, she states now she came back to quick. Also told me that she likes to flirt with other men and told me at times she does not care if I slept with other women. We don't even have sex, when we do, she makes feel like it is bother to her, she never kisses me and does not like talking about what each other are feelings. I always do all the cooking and majority of the cleaning for her. I will come home from work and cook while she sits on the couch and complains about the house not being clean. I tried to change since last year, but she has not tried. She still makes me feel like it is not good enough. I have lost almost 35 pounds since last year and continue to workout. I’m confused. Faith in god hands
2007-10-30 08:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for your help. Yes there is child involved, she is my world. I have been nothing but a super Mr.Mom to her. I wash her clothes, clean the house, and make her dinners also breakfast every morning before school. All I can do right now, is just focus on my daughter, bills, the house and myself. There is reason why god puts us through these trials, I just need to find out his path. My wife is the only person I have been with in my life, got married young but I could never walk out on them. So I am letting her go and whatever happens, happens. I just know I cannot live like this anymore. It hard when you want someone to love you, and start realize they do not love you. My wife is only person romantically and passionateley in my life. She was my first. But I will take it day by day for myself and daughter, it is time to find myself. I just need time to sort things out for me. Again thanks to all of you for responses.
2007-11-01 09:51:14 · update #1
You've loved this woman,yet she keeps your heart sad,there has to be a time when enough is enough.This sounds like the time.Help gather her things & help her out the door.As much as it may break your heart don't show it.Let her believe you'll feel better with her gone.Be confident,& strong of mind & heart,& get on with a better life.You may be better off single,than with a woman whose unhappy.mainly with herself.Don't worry about the future,if you're a good man you'll find a good woman who'll love & accept you.
2007-10-30 08:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her love for you like the sand in an hour glass, it just ran out and there is nothing more you can do to change her mind. She have already stated what she is going to do and she will do it. There is no reason why should be torture for no reason at all. Sure you still have strong feeling for her and you made what changes of yourself to win her back. But it have fail, not cause of you, she lost that feeling for you. Set her free before major pain come your way. Once she start seeing other men, your feeling will be crush! And you want to do something that you might reget later. Show her that you're a stronger man than she thought you were and let her go free.
2007-10-30 08:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate, but people change and that change becomes more important to that person than anything, including family and marriage committments. We are after all, individuals and will usually serve our own wants and needs before the wants and needs of others. Sad, but true. If your wife was truly the exception to the rule, a selfless giving person, you wouldn't be in this situation. Time to move on.
The worst thing you can do is try to change her and convince her to stay. It ain't happening. Do yourself a favor and spend a little extra money and find a really good divorce lawyer (especially if you two have kids together). Do it now.
2007-10-30 08:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ian D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a cheater plain and simple no use in trying to give you false hope.. she sounds exactly like my first husband the thing is when you're blinded by love you can't see the person you love for what they really are and nothing you do or say will make any difference really the only thing you can do is make the decision that you will no longer live this way i know it's hard but one day you will see it was for the best..
2007-10-30 08:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks pack her clothes and set them on the curb.
Do not put up with this crap any longer.
Dude, you have lost 35 pounds and are getting your act together.
Cut the anchor line and move forward.
Do you suppose that it will be difficult to find a woman who would like to have a faithful guy to work, clean, cook and generally do whatever she wants?
Put that ad in the personals and you will have a line at your door.
2007-10-30 08:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Husband should not be married. It's not an example for raising children and not following a commitment made to get married from the beginning. Catholic, Hindu, Muslim, Christian - makes no difference! A promise is a promise - you're only as good as your word. The man should be told to do the right thing period - if he is considered to be a man!
2016-05-26 02:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears she has fallen out of love with you and has interest aside from you. It is time to cut her loose and find someone else that enjoys being around you. Really when someone starts taking vacations without you it is a sign that something bad is on the horizon. I'm sad to say you just missed it all together.
Congrats on the weight loss maybe now find yourself a younger, better looking lady since yours has left for good.
Best Wishes and just carry on with your life.
2007-10-30 08:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are better off without her.. Keep losing weight and go out there and find someone that will love you and treat you well.. Your faith in god hands got you into this bad relationship.. Take control of your life and enjoy it.
2007-10-30 08:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by howie r 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i hate to hear thats going on in your life. im going through the same thing my wife wants out as well. we have only been married for two years and its a sad situation. we have a little boy thats two and he is my pride and joy and now its like she is trying to keep him from me. i left home a little over a week ago and went to my familys out of state and its so hard. i would like to talk if you want you can email me xxgavin123@yahoo.com
2007-10-30 08:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by R G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you just kicked her out and said " i need to get on with my life. so sorry". how sweet the revenge. you are doing everything she would freak. Tell her you have been seeing someone else and have decided to move on and you hope she does too. f off biaatch. be a man and do it. you really don't have a choice do you. she is going to leave anyway. just don't be a victim.
2007-10-30 08:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋