#1 reason is you aren't giving him any "loving"..
#2 reason is he feels like you are putting him last..
#3 reason is you are no longer taking care of yourself like you did in the beginning of the relationship...
Why do women constantly complain about men being dogs? They have been that way since the beginning of time. If you treat your man right the relationship more than likely will remain "active" and he will not stray.. However, if you stop seducing him and become complacent he WILL stray! It's a promise! So my question is, why do we constantly complain about men? We basically made them the way they are!
2007-10-30 08:16:54 · 27 answers · asked by Lucy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't mean that ALL men cheat.. You figure back in the day a woman took care of the entire house and all of the children WITHOUT help while the man worked and supported the family. These days all i hear nag nag nag! Honey help me with the baby...help me with cleaning the house.. Have we just become LAZY? Call it what you want, I just think there ARE 2 sides to everything and men aren't as bad as women make them out to be. Maybe they are just expecting too much!
2007-10-30 08:35:57 · update #1
(and I am happily married with 3 kids! just putting that ? out there because it seems lately that's all i hear)
2007-10-30 08:39:37 · update #2
And by the way, WHY does society constantly say let's not blame anyone!That's like kids sports games not keeping score.. What ever happened to responsibility???? Take responsibility for how you make others feel! Murderers don't kill because they were born that way....they kill because of some sick and twisted reason...for example, the way they were TREATED. How you are treated by others has a very big part in how you FEEL...and how you FEEL has a very big part in what you DO. Why are people so selfish these days? I just don't see people taking responsibility for how they treat others...
(and for the CRAZY people that have made this personal by making jabs at me...why does it upset you so? if this has nothing to do with you, then stay out of my question!) :-) I hope you all have a very nice day!
2007-10-30 08:48:15 · update #3
and i don't think men should get a free ride. cheating is wrong PERIOD... I am just tired of hearing women complain but every single day i ask men why they cheat, and i gave you the main reasons...
2007-10-30 08:51:11 · update #4
THAT IS THE MOST STUPID THING I'VE EVER HEARD (OR READ)!
I guess I missed the part in the wedding vows that says, "to foresake all others UNLESS YOU AREN'T GETTING ENOUGH LOVING AT HOME". Your comment is absolutely ridiculous, there is no excuse for cheating! Cheaters are pathetic people who put their own WANTS as their first priority even if it hurts the one they love. I use the word WANTS because people will survive without cheating so it's not a NEED, it's a WANT.
2007-10-30 08:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 3⤋
well I think that people show there lovin in different ways and your way of showing may be totally different then the way he shows his. men can have a bad day and automatically assume that you are putting them last when your not and some women do let themselves go, but men do also and that is because they become more secure with each other. So as to your question, why do we constantly complain about men, even though men have been that way since the beginning of time, well because........
It seems to me that yes there are some men that are still faithful, but I would have to say that the majority of men all cheat. Now keep in mind, I would also have to say that a lot of women cheat too. Its because it is so easy to go out and find another "piece" or give up and move on to the next one, that people find it easier. Things arent like they used to be, one man and one woman happily married with kids and they all have the same daddy and remain together forever. Its kind of like fast food and dieting.......you try and diet but there are sooooo many fast food options today that it is easier to run through and get a burger and fries rather than going home and sticking to the diet.
Hope this helps!
2007-10-30 08:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by jessyfromsomewhere 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that you are lookng for an answer as it seems that you are looking more for an argument.
Personally I think men are just naturally bred to stray. They have one track minds and its all about sex. Of course there are the few men that this does not apply too, but I do stress few.
Personally I do not think all your reasons are valid. I have known women taht have been loving, very sexually active with their husbands, very attentive and took great care of themselves at looking god, but the men still strayed.
Like I said I think it's something that just happens and as a woman you can either accept it or not and move on to the next.. I personally don't really believe in monogamy, it's too difficult. When married the excitement of meeting someone new is no longer there and I think that is what cheating is all about...the excitement of posibly getting caught and that initial raw attraction.
I personally recommend having an open relationship or swinger style relationship. It's much more fun and both parties get to enjoy it. There is really no reason to cheat as you both are enjoying the lifestyle together. It much more fun.
2007-10-30 08:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by jenstar1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem with you reasons is that none of them place any blame on the man. I am a man but it isn't always the women (I think 50% of the time it is, 50% not). The second problem is that you think men should get a free ride on cheating because men "have been that way since the beginning of time". There have been killers walking the Earth since the beginning of time, does that make murder ok?
2007-10-30 08:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not always true you can still be doing all the things that you list and more. But if a man wants to cheat he will do so anyway!!! It's not always the woman fault that her man cheats. Men that cheat do so because they just like to have more than 1 woman, some cheat cause it's a game to them, some cheat cause they think that they are pimps. So your 3 reasons why men cheat are not always the case.
2007-10-30 08:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men and women cheat because they are selfish, bottom line. They put their desires above the feelings of anyone else...and although the 3 excuses you list are ones many use, there are just as many that cheat simply because the opportunity presents itself.
Couples need to communicate better, and many times such issues could be avoided. Women don't drive men to cheat (nor do men drive women to cheat). A person who cheats makes their own choice...and thus is responsible for being a betrayer, a liar, a cheater, and building up some hellacious bad karma.
Humans aren't naturally monogamous, but if one chooses that lifestyle then they should live it...otherwise, divorce/break-up and go play with whomever they desire.
2007-10-30 08:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
What a crock of doggy poo!!! A man can be treated like a king, waited on, seduced nightly and given all kinds of wild sex and he can still CHEAT. The same with a woman.
It is not a matter of treating them right because it is not always the sex that they are missing. Sometimes people, both female and male, cheat because they are missing all the firsts in a relationship.
The first romantic look, first kiss, first gasp when they begin undressing the woman for the first time, the first time they explore their body. Unfortunately this type of individual will cheat time and time again no matter how good you treat them.
Good Luck
2007-10-30 08:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by mn lady 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Some men will even have sex with sheep. (Montana Whores?) Its true. The sheep shouldn't be stupid enough to feel proud.
Spending your time obsessing about what men want is beneath an intelligent woman. Because some actually want sheep.
I have a friend who lets a married guy slip in at 3am and he leaves by 3:45am. She is obese, depressed, and has a rack of genital warts. They deserve eachother. Dignity is in.
2007-10-30 09:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by goddessinglasses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see how this is going and i have to agree i wish that i didnt have a concience and all that i havent had any # in a great while wife would rather watch tv or read in the bathroom than give me time and #2 i am last the dogs even come before me they get fed and i have to make my own food and for get getting the kids to do anything they suck at it and as for getting #3 hell i cant even remember what she looks like naked i have to work and have to get some sleep and as usual she takes a 4 hr shower and reads a book and then comes to be at about say 4 in morning and she gets up with kids for school at 6 and i get up at 7 as she is going back to bed so that doesnt fly why am i not cheating i will tell you with all the probs that we may have it is still WRONG and thats it if i did then it would mean i didnt love her but yet i still do and no you ladies didnt make us the way we are it was our own parents that did that
2007-10-30 08:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Women can do all the right things and men will still cheat. It's usually the woman's fault...they let themselves go, gained weight, etc etc, when the reality is that the man is no prize himself! Men cheat because they like the attention., the flattery, the fact that he is stlll sexually attractive to someone else.
2007-10-30 08:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anya 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What? Have you ever been cheated on? It is not the woman's fault when the man strays or vice versa. I was good to my man and he got this girl pregnant behind my back. You have no idea how that feels. I did all 3 of those things you just said and it wasn't enough. How can you say don't complain? Should we just forgive and forget when this guy has this other girl? Learn to accept it? No! You try explaining to your 5 yr old why his daddy doesn't come home anymore.
2007-10-30 08:24:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋