My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. I always have this gut feeling that he wants someone else, and it makes me think that he is cheating. I had a bad relationship before him, and the guy I was with cheated on me, so I think that might be the cause of my paranoia. I always ask him if he is cheating on me, and he always responds " No, I love you baby, I would never do that, I dont want anyone else."
I dont know what to think. Another thing is he always goes out of state to see his family. I am just so worried. Am I just paranoid, or do I really have something to worry about?
2007-10-30 08:07:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust your gut - if you feel he's cheating on you, then maybe he is. Does he look you in the eye when he tells you he loves you? Does he ever seem distracted when you're talking about your relationship? Do you know all of his girl friends and is he honest about them/his plans with them? Look for clues. Only you can really tell. Trust your instinct. You may just be paranoid, and if that's the case just remind yourself how much you love him and how much he loves you. You've been going out for 2 years, and so it seems like you have a loyal, loving relationship. Good luck!
2007-10-30 08:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your trust issues are always going to present a problem in any relationship you have until you come to grips with them, if you continue to ask or accuse him of cheating and initially he wasn't you may drive him to do it because you are already thinking that he is. I mean stop asking him unless there are some clear signs that you can see if he is cheating or not. IN the meantime do yourself a favor and wear a condom, incase he is being unfaithful, so he don't bring you home no nasty stuff or you mess around and get pregnant with this guy and then find out he is cheating and you bring this baby into a world of dysfunction. Communication is the key in any relationship, but dont' look to him to settle your trust issues. YOu have to work through that on your own first.
2007-10-30 08:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are just paranoid. I agree it is a trust issue that u guys need to work on. Communiciation is always the key. Try to get him to talk to ya and have a good long conversation with him. U have to believe in your heart .
2007-10-30 08:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by tiggerrabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have Baggage from a prior relationship!
This relationship will not go far.
Cause Trust issues is a sure fire way to lose a someone!
2007-10-30 08:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your trust issues especially if he's not giving you any reason to doubt him. A guy can't take it if he's being accused of doing things or not being able to go certain places because his women doesn't trust him, especially out of town to see his family.
2007-10-30 08:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being paranoid, you think too much, and you have too much free time.....
Start thinking about what you can do to improve your relationship, especially when you get the cheating thoughts.
2007-10-30 08:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you find out? Do you have his AIM adress? If you think he likes a girl make a fake aim adress, and message him pretending you are that girl, ask him some questions like... First start off maybe with some un suspicious questions like whats up, so what are you doing today.... then go on to "Do you like me?", "do you want to go out"... See what he says...
2007-10-30 08:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by the s0urce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
paranoia will destroy ya.
You need to be confident. You can't ask someone if they are cheating unless there is some sort of evidence. Otherwise you're just fueling the fire.
2007-10-30 08:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by questioning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are paranoid, every guy isn`t the same. you shouldn`t stereotype them, give your boyfriend a chance. i`m sure that he wouldn`t waste two years doing that when he could of just simply broke up. you probably and most likely aren`t secure of yourself. you should get some confidence and give him sex appeal to make sure that he`s still interested. good luck!
2007-10-30 08:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by danielle. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter whether he is cheating on you or not. Seems like you have a trust issue with him which is even worse.
2007-10-30 08:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by naughtyniceguy2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋