Scared to tears to give birth! Is that Normal?

Question

I'm expecting my first baby in two days and it really just hit me how big that is. Problem is, due to medical allergies, i have to go natural. Im so frightened because it will be something i have never even come close to experienceing before. Has anyone else felt this way? Gone natural--how was it in the end? Anything encouraging is helpful.

I feel like no amount of practice i have had from classes, no videos and no books can really come in handy.

Answer 1

You fears are normal, but try to relax. I had both of my children natural, and while I can't say there was no pain, it was not near as bad as I was afraid it would be. Just practice your relaxation techniques and everything will be just fine. You can do this. I think having a positive attitude will help. I really think that going natural is better than having an epidural (of course I would think that since that's what I did). You won't have to worry about side affects from the epidural and after the baby is born, you will be tired, but you won't feel numb or "drugged". Just try to relax and know that you can do it and before you know it your baby will be here and it will all be worth it.

Answer 2

Wow...I completely understand how you are feeling! I am now almost 6 months pregnant with baby boy #2...I had my first son back in 2003, It was my first pregnancy and I was 19 years old (not prepared, spent most of my preg. watching DELIVERIES AND BIRTH on TV) so I was terrified. Due to medical problems and how I am built (I guess) I was told that I would be unable to give natural birth, it would have to be c-section. So, I have scheduled another c-section this time around. You can that at times I feel as though I need(a woman) needs to experience natural birth in her life but that does not make her less of a woman/mother if she has surgery. I wish you the best and take a deep breath, squeeze your DH/BF's hand to death if you need to :) but may God bless you and have you barely feel "the pain"...remember those tears are tears of joy. It will be all worth it once they hand you your baby and he/she opens their eyes and looks at you! By God, children are a real blessing!! I am soooo excited!! Anyway, Good luck with everything!!

Answer 3

I went natural with all four of mine using the Bradley method. However, it took months of practice for me to learn how. My mom always told me how awful it was. She had hospital births and she was mistreated. You should have been reading and practicing long ago. When you know what you are doing, the labor feels like a dull ache that comes and goes. You need to relax completely with each contraction. My husband took my picture during a contraction in transition and it looked like I was sleeping. I actually enjoyed my births. It was a wonderful experience that I would not have missed for anything. I feel sorry for people that do not get to experience a natural birth with the Bradley method.

Answer 4

It is absolutely normal to be scared to give birth to a baby. Hearing the rumours, and the truths, looking at others having babies, it can really scare a person. Don't worry; it's all worth it, because when you have your baby, when you see it and hold it in your arms for the first time in your life, that little blessing of yours will seem like the best thing you've ever done. God bless you and your baby.

Answer 5

It's normal to be scared, but try not to be. Notice how women usually have more than one child, it;s because it's so worth it. I didn't have an epidural with my first and don't plan on it this time either. There are other things you can get to relieve the pain, such as IV meds, nerve blocks, etc... so there will be something available to you if you need it. Even with allergies I'm sure. Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes, what you're feeling is totally normal. It's my third and I'm not exactly looking forward to that part of the birth.

I did my second naturally (he was coming really fast), and to be honest, it was bad while it was happening, but I found I recovered better from the natural birth than the epidural birth.

Once your baby is out, you truly won't care about what you just went through. You'll be so elated to see your baby.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Yes, I had all 3 sons natural and it is very painful, but believe me when you see your child for the first time it will be so worth it. Did you do the Lamaze classes? the breathing thing really helps. Listen to the nurses and the doctors, they have done this before. God Bless and good luck.

Answer 8

I recommend having a doula there with you in the room. Call the hospital you are going to be giving birth at and ask if they have one on staff. These women are a great comfort during all of the chaos in the room. I think it really helped me because she was very comforting and not a family member. She helped both my husband and I during labor and kept both of us on track.

She will be there to help you focus on something else and will do as much or as little as you need from her. what you need is to be a calm as is possible during childbirth.

Good luck!

Answer 9

i only had the iv which i think is required. i was scared out of my mind and very anxious. i went the natural way for both my pregnancies. i was more scared to have a needle in my back than to give birth. you feel everything! i also healed in about two weeks after birth. you are totally normal to feel this way. either way you do it you will have your beautiful baby. best wishes. oh take your tension out on your hands and keep the rest of your body as relaxed as possible. have something to grip it helps.

Answer 10

You can do it girl!!. Women give birth everyday all natural. No lie, its going to be painful but nothing you wont be able to tolerate. Is there anyway you can atleast get something through IV to take the edge off. Fear is normal.
Rememeber the outcome though!! You will have this precious little baby to hold and love the rest of your life. And remember, the only thing you have to fear, is fear itself.