This freak that works for my town and drives a town garbage truck is constanntly driving by my house. When I used to work for the store in town, he described to me all of my underwear that I would hang up in my backyard clothsline. Needless to say I use my dryer now, but everyday at least 9-12 times a day he drives by looking in my yard. And it is REALLY PISSING ME OFF. In the morning I walk my son to the bus stop which is down the street and he drives by really slow staring at me.And the same when I walk to the busstop to pck up my son from school. I have been flipping him off, and totlally dogging him but now I'm getting worried, because it made it worse. I cannot tell my husband bacause it will get violent and I don't want that drama, this town is to small for that. I don't know what to do, but I don't feel like I am comfortable in my own town anymore. The thing is he wanted to mess around with me like 2 years ago and I told him to go mess with his wife. HELP. Be nice please!!!
2007-10-30 07:25:48 · 29 answers · asked by Ivan and Marko's momma 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take pictures of him (with a date / time) stamp on it (either digital or regular) and keep a journal of the times he does this.
Then - you AND your husband report it as stalking to the police (and I'd call the trash company and file a complaint w/ his boss).
You should be able ot get a restraining order for this type of behavoir. Don't put up with it - it will only get worse. Don't let your hubby take matters into his own hands - that'll only make it look bad for YOUR family and cause legal problems for your husband.
They have police for a reason - this is one of them.
2007-10-30 07:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by aa889d 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your husband. Even your husband will cause a small drama in a small town but those stories die down something else will top it off.
Get a restraining order to keep him away. This is for your family's own safety. Even your husband should be watching who knows he could go missing or you & your son. Who will know. Public/people awareness is another factor that will stop or even change this stalker mind.
I had a stalker once/maybe more but this is the recent one I encountered this he would watch me go to work & into my office a while later I get a phone call from him, he would watch me from across the street sitting in his van & when I get off work sometimes I would see him there what was really really scarry. I then told some close guys people that I work with. One of them actually went up to him & told him off, a little heated arguement went on but it changed this stalker mind.
There are many freaks out there. For your own family's safety go tell your husband & get a restraining order. Awareness by telling your friends & neighbors what happening.
2007-10-30 08:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and i know your full of it if you were actually scared of this guy you would 1 tell your husband especially if the guy is stalking you while you walk your son to the bus stop (only a idiot wouldn't) 2 you would also call the cops if not for your safety your son...3 so either you and this guy had a thing in the past and you broke it off but he won't except it and your afraid if you say anything your hubby will find out about the affair..4 or he broke it off and you can't except it so you want your vengeance... 5 so which is it because any one with a pea brain would not by your story.. btw i was nice i could have said a lot more.. have a nice day
2007-10-30 08:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is passing by your house that many times and following you while you walk your son to school, you need a restraining order. You can easily record him stalking you on your camcorder. Do it and take the tape to the police when you get the restraining order. Make sure the date and time is in the camcorder as proof also. You should have told your husband a long time ago. Tell your husband you have a restraining order against this man for protection and if there is any violence, the police will know your husband was involved. Then your husband is warned and informed. This man knows where you live, can recognize your son and knows your scedule, think about the many things that he can do not only to you but our home and worse, your family. Go to the police immediately.
2007-10-30 07:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by curlies55 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to go to his superior there or even the mayor and demand this guy be disciplined or even fired. It could be that he is the same with other women in the town perhaps and no one has said anything because it is a small town. You can get a restraining order against him but if he is the only driver there in a small town they would have to fire him and then you should have the restraining order so that he doesn't come after you for having him fired. If it is a mall enough town that you have town meetings once a month, you can shake everyone up by going in there and demanding he be fired for what he does. especially if you have a camera and take pictures of him driving by and bothering you. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-30 07:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Can't your husband just threaten him, but not assault him? Maybe pin him up against a wall. The other thing is to find out something about this guy and use it against him. You should keep a record of all the incidents. Think about reporting him to the police or telling your husband. Because he may try and get in the house next, or follow you when you are out. His behaviour is designed to intimidate you. He obviously gets off on scaring you. Theother thing you should think about is that guys like this often make up stories, like he might tell people that you and he are havingg an affair. Getting your side of the story in first would put paid to that. Maybe you should find out the law on harrassment, and get a solicitor to write him a letter threatening further action if he does not stop. Make sure the solicitor does not send anything to your house so that your husban does not find out. This scumbag probably thinks he is immune to the law, and is enjoying making you feel powerless. You should tell somebody if only your priest or best friend...imagine if you got kidnapped and nobody knew who may be responsible. Anyway the more people you tell the more this guy will feel unsafe in his own town....a curse he is currently inflicting on you. You could turn the tables on him. Telling everyone you can will make him an outcast, maybe enough for him to back off and make other people watch your back. This kind of situation is wher a small community can really come into their own. Make sure that everyone knows he is the bad one, because he might make up stories. People don't like women being harrassed in this way and will look out for you. Remember to keep a log of his behaviour and and decide on an action plan if he approaches you. Perhaps learn some simple self defence, if only to increase your confidence. Good luck!.
2007-10-30 07:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Listen you need to tell your husband and then go to the police and explain the situation. If you do not do anything because you live in a small town and something happens (God forbid) the town will then gossip and wonder why you did not say anything about it before. This guy sounds mentally off balance and needs to be stopped or his obsession for you will only get worst. He is obviously taking your lack of defending yourself as an indication that you are weak. Stand up for yourself, tell your husband and as I advised earlier, report this to the police. God bless & take care!
2007-10-30 07:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Report to his boss. They will take action. One of my previous college instructors was also a manager for a waste management company. He talked about all kinds of crazy stuff his guys have been caught doing while out on the job. If anything was reported, the guys woudl be disciplined and possibly fired, depending on severety. They can also put a GPS tracking device on the trucks (which more and more are now doing). This will enable them to keep track of where their trucks are going. Companies love keeping track of their resources. Being able to tell if their employees are on task or goofing off, that's an added bonus.
And you shouldn't hide it from your husband. It's deceptive and manipulative. Maybe your husband will sit outside with a shotgun and wait for the trash man. But so what? He could be saving you and your family from a sexual predator. It is a husband's job to protect his family. Don't take away his right just because you fear conflict.
2007-10-30 07:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go to the police staion and tell them.They can do soomething the courts can put a restraing order on the guy and each time he drives by after that right down the date and thetime and report it. There is a law against that. I can't remember what they call it .. But it has something to do with stalking.Hope I could be of some help
2007-10-30 07:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you know that you brought that mess on yourself when you started hanging your personal underwear out on the close line. Geez, who honestly does that in this darn age? You can't expect a man to see your underwear and not get ideas. You might as well have hung them from his rear view mirror.
However, this is serious and you definitely need to let your husband know. He needs to be aware for your family's safety. You never know what could be going through that pervs mind. I would suggest placing a restraining order on him if it persists. If you don't already know where he lives, get his license plates, the make and model of the vehicle he drives and turn in all that information to the police.
You need to notify your husband because if you don't and somehow this all comes out in the open, your husband will want to know why you did not tell him. You will look like one of those desperate housewives starving for attention.
What if that perv acted on something horrible? Who would know what happened to you? This is why you must tell your husband, especially if you are not comfortable in your own town.
Next time, dry all your and your family's under garments in the dryer. If you feel you must line dry, hang them in your bathroom. They have clothes lines that you can run in your bathroom (that goes right by the shower rod) at Lowes or Home depot.
2007-10-30 07:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋