I just had a baby boy, and my feelings towards him are different, I mean don't get me wrong I love my daughter shes nine, but I dont remember having feelings like this when she was a baby.
2007-10-30 07:15:17 · 19 answers · asked by PRETTYGIRL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is it possible that your life was less stable when she was a baby. Any stress in your life can take focus away from the joy of a baby. You may also just be more ready for a baby now then you were then.
2007-10-30 07:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by lizards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that isn't normal. I can understand liking the way one child is over the other but not loving one more than the other. You probably don't remember feeling like that for your first child because it was 9 years ago. It is possible that when you had your first you weren't as ready for her as you are for your second but that doesn't mean you love this one more...it just means you are more prepared and accepting of him than the girl. You shouldn't love one child over another. If you feel that way then your daughter is definitely picking up on that and she may begin to grow resentment for you and eventually her sibling which can damage them for a lifetime.
2007-10-30 07:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you first have a baby your baby is new and kinda like a stranger because you dont really know them yet.
It will take months of learning to know each others personalities etc... and you will develope a stronger love over time just like you did with your daughter you just might not remember...It takes some time hope that helps.
2007-10-30 07:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by makeupbykirstenperrin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. But let me tell you a little story. My baby girl was an absolute nightmare when she was younger, while my only son was an Angel. Now roles are reversed and my daughter is an absolute hoot and my son is boring. So, maybe I don't love them differently, you just like some things more than others about the children..
2007-10-30 07:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. Most people will favor one child, and I know some people realy they love a there kids but admit One is just dumb or they just realy dont like them as a person, of course as a parent you can never disclose that to the child. If it bothers you go see a therapist. They can help you rationalise it
2007-10-30 07:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I went through the same thing. My daughter is 5 and my son is 4...and they are both my world. I wouldn't say I loved one more than the other, I'd say I loved them differently though. Hard to explain but I've been there.
2007-10-30 07:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PrettyGirl, not only is it possible but very natural to have these feelings. If we are all honest at one time or another one of our kids felt more special to us than the others. A lot of it has to do with their needs, our maturity and a lot of other external events. It usually evens out over a lifetime but at times the other kids can feel that one is being favoured and will discuss these events when they grow up and laugh about it at that time.
2007-10-30 07:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is that you are loving one child more than another.
I think that some mothers relate to one child better than the other, sometimes. If a child's personality conflicts with yours in certain ways, it is normal to feel closer to the child who you get along with better or feel more in tune with emotionally. You are only human, too. Just be aware of it and don't let it affect the way you respond to the child.
2007-10-30 07:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's horrible to say, but, yes.
I love all 6 of my kids.
2 are step-kids, and although I love them, it's not the same.
The other 4 are mine, 2 boys, 2 girls.
You just love the personality parts of particular kids...
The IMPORTANT THING is to nevvvvvvverrrrrrr evvvvvvverrrrrrr SHOW your child that you don't love them as much!!
If you buy baby 5 toys - buy other child 5 cool toys.
Give each child JUST AS MUCH attention.
Equality.
They cannot help that Mommy/Daddy don't love them for whatever reason.. they are who they are.
You cannot LIKE every person in the world... So it stands to reason you can just not care for one child as much as another... cos kids are people too.
~Becca
2007-10-30 07:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a parent, so i'm going to go out on a limb here. i think it is normal, because every parent i've ever talked about this with does have a favorite, but would never show it to their children.
i'm my mom's only child and my dad's firstborn. i think my dad always favored me. of course my mom favored me, since i had no one to compete with :)
i think it is just to do with kids' personalities and yours. also, i think your readiness at the time of the births may have something to do with it. maybe you're a more mature person now and are more ready to take on the responsibilty. or maybe it is the newness of the baby.
2007-10-30 07:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋