He cheated on me,had another baby,and now he's denying my son.Why should i name my son after him...help!!
2007-10-30 07:06:53 · 27 answers · asked by classydiva?? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
name him after your own dad or grandfather. naming a child after someone should have special meaning. your ex does not deserve that honor.
2007-10-30 07:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely don't do it!
Your ex's mother isn't having the baby, you are. Pick a name that you love, and use it. Flat out tell her that her son's behavior is unacceptable, and isn't deserving of the honor and respect implied when you name a child after his father. If he's requiring a DNA test, he's not the sort of man you want in your life, anyways. I'm sorry for all of the drama, hope it works out!
2007-10-30 07:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by coolteamblt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Short answer -- you shouldn't. You just said he cheated on you and is now denying your own son, so I fail to see how "junior" would even be a consideration. Regardless of the fact that I'd NEVER name a child for any relative -- parent, grandparent, etc. -- simply because the family was pressuring me to do so. This man doesn't sound like much of a namesake to me, so why repeat his MOTHER's choice in names? LOL Of course she wants you to do so ... she picked them originally. Tell her to get over it, and give your son his own identity. ;)
2007-10-30 07:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Irish Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances, I'd be reluctant to name the baby after his father, and I'd tell your baby's grandmother how you feel. (No gory details required. Just explain that if he's reluctant to be part of your son's life, it feels awkward to name him in his honor.) After all, if your relationship continues to deteriorate, and you can't co-parent together, calling your ex's name out on the playground is going to be irritating.
But if Grandma is making an effort to be there, I might make an effort to include one of her family names in your child's name. Her maiden name as a middle name, maybe, or a masculine version of her name tucked in the middle?
After all, your son deserves as many loving, committed family members as you can gather up. Especially if his Daddy isn't stepping up to take responsibility.
2007-10-30 08:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just say NO! it's your baby you can name him what you want! I am wondering why you are even with that man if he cheated on you! Why would you name the baby a "Jr." if he's saying it's not his kid!?!?!?!?!
Why don't him and the mother of his OTHER child name the baby after him?!?! Does he want to have two juniors, with two different moms, around the same age????
2007-10-30 09:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO! oh no honey u do not want to make that baby a jr. u are absolutley right he does not deserve it... cheated on u? ill be da****... and he is denying the baby... girl u better not name the baby after him... and if u do just make it the middle name not a jr or anything... Good luck sweetie! Congrats on ur lil Boy!
2007-10-30 07:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, name the baby what you want. I personally would never give a kid a jr. name-they are entitled to their own identity. However, if he is the father, you MIGHT want to consider using his first name as the child's middle name.
His mom is just full of beans. If jr. was so important, she should have named your ex. after his father. She had her chance to name her children. Now it is your turn.
All that said, if you are divorced from your ex, and he is the child's father, state law usually requires that the child have your ex's surname. If you were never married, doesn't matter.
2007-10-30 07:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell his mother that you feel your child deserves a name that is not from a liar and cheater. If he wants the baby to have his name he should be the one to prove it. Maybe tell her she can help you find a name you like. Maybe get a name you like and one you know she doesn't like. Then let her pick from that.
2007-10-30 07:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is your child and if he is not going to help out, you have no obligation to name him after the father.
his mother has no right to tell you how or what to name your child.
If the father denies the child and the DNA test proves it is his, contact a lawyer and get him to pay child support.
2007-10-30 07:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by Muse 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. Who cares what his mom wants, she was not in the relationship and is not the one carrying the baby. It's all up to you. If he's not willing to be there and is denying the baby, then it's your choice. If he was around, and he wanted that, it may be nice to compromise just so it will be easier down the road.
2007-10-30 07:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by justasking 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋