I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. I love him with all of my heart but I'm sick of his games! We lived together for about 5 months. One day we got in a fight and he kicked me out of the house! He called and said he wanted me back, I took him back. Well now we live 20 minutes away from eachother, I'm always the one has to drive! He never will pick me up! He's always drinking! I think we should take turns driving, Whenever it's his turn he makes up an excuse why he can't do it that night. Do you think if he loved me and really wanted to see me he would come and pick me up? What would you do?
2007-10-30 06:58:37 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry Hope, But I have been seeing the multitude of questions you have been asking about this situation with your boyfriend .. breaking up getting back together, his treating you the way he is. Him not supporting you to his friends, etc etc.
If you can't see that he IS never going to change his ways, and grow up and be a proper man to you and treat you right.. you need to just let him go and move on. Yes I know it is easy for me to say. But unless you ENJOY this treatment he is giving you, its time for YOU to toughen up and stop mistreating yourself over this.
Find a man who is good to you. All this one can do is bring you down to his level eventually.
2007-10-30 08:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by linda_c_44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue here isn't taking turns driving. It is "why are you wasting your time with him?" Why would you want to be with someone who treats you badly? You say yourself that he is always drinking. Be glad that you live 20 minutes away, and treat yourself with respect since he won't! Start a life that DOES NOT include him, he is just dragging you down, and you deserve far better. He doesn't deserve your love. I wasted 8 years on someone who didn't deserve my love, please don't make the same mistake. Too often women equate "love" with "sympathy". We figure if we don't love them, no one else will be there for them. Again, please do not let him drag you into his problems, live your own life WITHOUT him!!!
2007-10-30 07:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mary-Anne B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you then it would be 50-50 and he kicked you out once this guy does not love you he does not even car about you you need to get rid of him and find someone else I know you love him but he treats you wrong and this is not right he treats you lioke this now imagine when or if you get married it is goin gto get worse leave him go on with your life it will hurt but you will get over it stop trying so hard to be with him and you will see if he cares. Stop calling him make him do these things I bet you he will not call or come over.
2007-10-30 07:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man does not love you, he is using you. How do you know what he does when you are not around? Someone who really loves you would not have thrown you out in the first place and they certainly would not make you continually drive to see him.
Make yourself unavailable to him, and get on with your life. There is someone great out there just waiting to love you the way you deserve.
Good Luck
2007-10-30 07:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know the answer to this one on your own. Why would you want to invest one more minute with someone that has an addiction of any kind? Why would you want to spend time with someone that doesn't treat you with respect and affection? I think it doesn't really matter how he feels about you at this point. You need to feel better about yourself and realize that YOU decide how the poeple around you treat you. Don't allow people that don't treat you appropriately to remain close to you, period. It doesn't have to be dramatic, just decisive and swift. Good luck, sweetie!
2007-10-30 07:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about your self esteem. This "man" seems to just be using you. There are glaring warning signs - drinks, makes you do all the work when it comes to seeing each other, and he threw you out!
I would say get out now. I've been in a relationship with this type of guy and you can't change him.
2007-10-30 07:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by renwench29 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if he cared, he would make time to come and pick you up, along with not drinking all the time. Talk to him, tell him how he makes you feel. You must have an open line of communication for any relationship to work. If he Tries to change his ways, then he cares, if he doesn't move on...Find you someone that will respect your wishes!
2007-10-30 07:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are making yourself too convenient to him. Stop driving over. Don't say anything about it. Just stop. If he asks if you are coming, tell him you have some things around the house you need to do. Invite him to come over.
Also, does he have a drinking problem? Don't keep alcohol around the house if he does come. If he brings it with him, you might want to consider moving on.
2007-10-30 07:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to put yourself first in your life. This man is obviously making you unhappy. You can not truly love him if he is making you unhappy, the two do not go together. Kick him to the curb and find someone that is as much into you as you are into him, then you will both be happy.
2007-10-30 07:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him and find someone who is going to put you firsst like all ladys should be treat it will be hard at first but you will see as each day goes by that time gets easier right along with the pain. but before you get in to deep get out now because once a DRUNK ALWAYS A DRUNK. TAke it from a friend i was married to a drunk and they are rude cruel and very absuive when drunken. so please get out.
2007-10-30 07:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by mammabear_327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋