It is right to ask his ex from time to time?it may be a form of emails or letters,phone calls...behind your back?or I may say without your knowledge?and paranoid about you if you 're doing the same?
2007-10-30 06:56:17 · 22 answers · asked by TMD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say it's okay if he speaks to her every once in awhile, but not if it's behind your back. If there's something about the contact that he has to hide from you, then I'd be suspicious.
2007-10-30 06:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by CharChar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a guy happily married. I am in touch with an ex of mine and have also ran into another ex recently. Both are married. The one I saw semi regular at my daughters sporting events and we chatted at these events. Nothing more. That sporting connection has run its' course I dont see her anymore and would not seek her out.The other woman seeked me out after 20 years via email. I am in email contact with her and my wife is fully aware and has access to the emails we exchange, there is absolutley nothing sexual or any remote possibility of it becomming so. We share a past from another time, I enjoy conversing with her on a "friend level" nothing more. So is it possible for it to be plutonic yes, but everything should be kept in the open.
2007-10-30 14:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. If he is contacting his ex strictly as a friend, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. However, if there are any feelings beyond friendship from either side, it probably isn't the best idea. Have you talked to him about this? He may be hiding it from you because he is scared that it would bother you, even if he isn't contacting her in any way other than to be friends. Talk to him about it, and if you still aren't comfortable with the arrangement, he needs to know and be respectful of that. Let him know why it makes you uncomfortable, and that you love him. If you attack him, he's probably going to shrug off your remarks and not think anything about it, so approach him in loving concern. Good luck and God Bless! :)
2007-10-30 14:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that it is ok as long as u know that he is doing it. I am friends with my only ex boyfriend. We were friends before we dated and decided after that we could still be friends cause we grew up together. My husband does not like it but i feel that if he can talk to his ex girlfriends then i can talk to my friends. We did get into a fight over him talking to his though because he started doing it while I was pregnant and behind my back and would go outside and talk or somewhere else where I couldnt hear and then he wouldnt tell me who it was when he came back in. It made me feel very unloved. As long as ur partner knows that u talk I think that it is ok.
2007-10-30 14:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Coster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Off you have to look at it this way do they have children with each other. If then do then yes they should be in contact with each other. Only to talk about the children and nothing more. Also he should respect you and not talk to her unless you are there with him. Second, If they do not have children then the answer to that is no he should not have no contact with his x what so ever. espically sneeking around behind your back and doing this. Have you sat down and talked to him and find out what they talk about or even tell him how you feel. I would sit him down and tell him that you don't like him having any contract with his ex unless there are kids involved then i would limited it to only talking about the kids. If this happens then i would get out before you get hurt.
2007-10-30 14:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by mammabear_327 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have a child together you have no choice but to accept that they will need to communicate from time to time. If there isn't one then your husband should respect the fact that you are not comfortable with their talking especially since its behind your back and curtail it. If he is paranoid about you doing it then he should not being it himself.
2007-10-30 14:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think any married person or a person whos in a serious relationship should be talking to their ex. Or even just chatting with someone of the opposite sex, only because there is no such thing as just friends between people of the opposite sex, eventually it will lead to something. because if you think about it, there is something linking to them talking all the time so there is some sort of interest.
2007-10-30 14:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lale 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Need more info. Do they have kids together? I don't think there's anything wrong with remaining on good terms with your former spouse, but the fact that he's paranoid about you doing the same makes me think that he's doing something he's not supposed to do.
2007-10-30 14:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't that your husband has contact, its that its being covered up, and those who have nothing to hide hide nothing. he may be paranoid because of what he may be doing or the feelings he may still have. i don't think one should have contact wit an ex unless there are children involved.
2007-10-30 14:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control freak to me...
If the ex's have friend ships with the current partner also, I think it is ok.
If there are kids involved it is going to happen. Better the 2 parents get along than are uncivil to each other.
If there are no kids involved, thin each partner should be respectful of the current mate
2007-10-30 14:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by silly_me 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋