2007-10-30 06:03:27 · 15 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does a man have more respect for his wife if she takes his last name? Does he feel closer with her?
2007-10-30 06:06:03 · update #1
I think its very importent to the man as it makes you part of the family offical and helps with introductions and makes you the smiths or the jacksons or whatever, everywoman should do it
2007-11-01 12:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It often depends on a situation. Alot of women like to keep their name if they are prominent or come from a prominent family. Amongst many other reason such as carrer or others. Often if it is such a big deal to the man a woman will hyphenate her name to compromise while still keeping her sense of self.
2007-10-30 13:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to hear EVERYTHING on this one.
For a lot of men, it's part of accepting them as their husband. It joins you as a family.
If people don't want to, FINE, but I wonder why sometimes. You don't lose who you are when you change your name. If you have a professional history then there is a good reason not to change it, but if your attitude is "I'm not his property" you are entering marriage with a bad attitude.
If I didn't take my husbands name, he would have wanted a reason why. There ARE some reasons.
Hyphenated names, in my opinion, are a pain in the butt and should be avoided.
Then there's the issue with children. Either hyphenate them all, or leave out one parent. How does THAT make sense?
A family (ideally) is a husband, wife, children. They should all have the same last name, in my opinion.
I can't wait for all the thumbs-down!
2007-10-30 13:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
When (or if, but I'll say when and be optimistic!) I get married, I intend to take my husband's name. The main reason is I don't want our children to be confused; I'm sure they'd be ridiculed if Mommy and Daddy lived together and were married but had separate names. Also, I want that connection to my spouse; I want to have the same last name, something which would make me proud because I chose to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't think that would make me his "property" or anything like that, and I have no problem with people who choose not to do this. I don't like hyphenated names (unless your first name is the same as your new last name). And, as a less important reason, my last name is frightfully hard to spell and pronounce, so I'm definitely looking forward to something a little easier!
2007-10-30 13:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never really understood that tradition other than it's function to relate people together by name only, like you would with animals in a species. to me, taking the husband's last name is like them putting their name tag on you claiming you as property. i like my last name and don't intend to change it if i ever decide to get married.
edit: i think it's pretty pointless to bother will all the appropriate name changing on paperwork, identificiation cards, business cards, checks, etc...I don't think that a woman wanting to keep her last name means she has a bad attitude, it means she's keeping part of her identity. I hate it when people call me Mrs. White because it's not my last name and I'm not a Mrs. I don't hate my child's father's last name, but it's not mine. I wouldn't change my first name to something else if I decide to get married, so why change the last? I think it's a very old tradition that I don't particularly want to subscribe to since I'm anything but traditional. The man in my life could care less about it too. If last name change is such a big deal then why don't people just go all out and change their entire name to a symbol like Prince did or to a singular name like Morissey or Mclovin?
2007-10-30 13:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a personal issue between the specific couple. It really depends more on who as the strongest feelings on the issue. When I got married over 18 years ago, I changed my name. I did not care one way or the other. It did not change the person that I was or make me in any way my husbands possession. As he asked me to take his last name I agreed. It meant more to him that I do so. I think it has to do with tradition and the name that the children will have. You have to discuss this with your partner and make a decision on your own personal views.
2007-10-30 13:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I took my husband's name when I got married the first time;
it truly felt as if he put a name tag on me (sort of like luggage name tag)
When I get married again, I don't intend to change my name now that I went back to my maiden name (by divorce) at the most I might take a hyphenated name
2007-10-30 13:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some do, some don't... I have a good friend from high school though that decided to take his Wife's last name instead...
2007-10-30 16:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance isn't comfortable with my adding his name on with a hyphen, but I am not thrilled about losing my last name. I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, but I have about a year to decide.
2007-10-30 16:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Linz ♥ VT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife didn't change her last name when we got married because I am a Spaniard and she says in Spain women don't change it.
I don't mind and I don't care so we have different last names.
2007-10-30 17:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by wazup1971 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋