They are afraid of losing control within a group? Doing drugs/sex. It goes against their morals creating anxiety. Being labeled by all of them and not being able to escape that label. They have anxiety problems because the unknown scares them. They don't know that the only way to get out of their shell is to face their fears? They are afraid of being ignored in the group, not having a voice. They would rather have a one on one conversations with someone. They like predictability. What else? I just explained myself.
2007-10-30 03:37:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Offer some points of view.
2007-10-30 03:46:53 · update #1
I don't hang out in large groups because I have been there and done that. People in your supposed group of friends are not always your friends. Some people are very vindictive, spiteful, and heartless. They smile in your face and talk about you behind your back. They act like they like and adore you but behind closed doors they degrade you to every person they know. I don't know about you but I am not okay with that sort of behavior. I feel that it is important to have a couple of close friends who I know truly care about me than to have a whole group of friends who wouldn't care enough about me to help me in my time of need and support me.
Not wanting to hang out in groups does not necessarily say anything about a person's character. Some people feel more secure hanging out in groups while others like myself have learned the pros and cons of hanging out in groups and have chosen solidarity among a couple of people rather than questionable security among an entire group of people. It's not fair to make a judgment on a person's character just because of the amount of people they hang around. Have you ever thought that some people have had bad experiences with hanging out in groups? Have you ever thought about the fact that some people just don't prefer to hang out in groups or do not find comfort in group settings? Have you ever thought about the fact that some people are strong enough and secure enough to stand on their own and don’t need approval or security from anybody else other than themselves? It's not about how afraid they are it's about what you prefer and what you have experienced in the past. There may be a lot of people that want to hang out with me that I wouldn't care to hang out with but that doesn't mean that I am afraid in any way, it just means that I either do not trust them enough or I just do not prefer to hang out with them. I would rather surround myself with one or two people I know have my best interest at heart than to hang around a large number of people whom intentions I have to question. I actually care about how people treat me.
2007-10-30 04:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we could ask the same question in reverse: Like, why do some people have to have a crowd around them all the time? Perhaps the one who can have one on one relationships have gotten over the gang mentality and feel confident and comfortable enough and may simply prefer to have more intimate meaningful relationships...it could be a sign of maturity.
2007-10-30 04:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by #1 Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hang in groups. I just don't like the detached atmosphere. either you are with them (like a pack of jackals) or you are out. If your out you become a nonentity and communication is cut off or worse you become the butt of all the jokes that emanate from that group.
This happens in high school more than in anytime of your life. if you can avoid the pack you can at least think independently and enjoy life.
2007-10-30 03:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you speaking of yourself? And any and all of those reasons sound good to me. I just happened to be walking down a street minding my own business one day when all of a sudden I saw on the rooftops surrounding the whole block armed police and military. All of a sudden people were running all over and so were bullets. One guy right in front of me had his tongue blown out and stuck to the wall. Several were killed. This was way back in the early seventies in Southern Mexico... apparently they were putting down some sort of student riot and blockade and I walked right into it unkowingly. Crowds... so dont feel alone there.
2007-10-30 03:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not hang out in large groups because I am afraid of rejection. I have been hurt too many times in public. I would rather be alone or with my significant other.
2007-10-30 03:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by thatgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interacting with a group is predictable, because you are the controlled variable. You can insert, and remove yourself at your say so.
2007-10-30 03:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It simply means they are stong enough NOT to need the crutch of a gaggle of other people to support them.
2007-10-30 03:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Quietman40 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not.
2007-10-30 03:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes yeah but not always...
2007-10-30 03:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jeen_171 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋