the odds are stacked against you, you feel your world is falling apart with no hope of getting better, and you're trying to keep from drowning in the cespool of life...
2007-10-30 03:36:20 · 33 answers · asked by Layla Redd 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes it is ok if you feel its best for you and you are not ready for a child.
2007-10-30 03:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by icosrwala 2 · 10⤊ 3⤋
I can't believe all the self-righteous posts I'm seeing! This is why I am so sick and tired of the people living in this country! If you want to spread your message/religion/view that's fine but at least present both sides of the matter!
To answer your question:
1. Abortion is NOT a method of birth control and cannot be used as such- the term birth control means that it keeps you from getting pregnant; once your pregnant, your pregnant.
2. Abortion does NOT " = murder/selfishness/self-righteous crap." People are so quick to jump on their high horse and judge everyone else without getting the facts first- A pregnancy is considered a zygote up until the second trimester; just a bundle of cells taking on a shape. And the heartbeat does not even begin until 15 days after implantation into the uterine wall. So if you really want to play the whole "Abortion is murder" game, then realize the simple fact that the pregnancy is not even medically considered an embryo/developing human being until the second trimester; which as we all know is the point where it's too late to abort.
3. If you feel like your own world is falling apart, who the **** is anyone else to judge you for it? You can't be expected to be perfect all the time and the simple fact of the matter is is that no one can blame you for not being able to care for a child. If financially, physically, and emotionally you're not ready, then you're not ready-period. Not everyone can live with the idea of someone else raising their child, and not everyone believes that is a less selfish choice- in actuality adoption is probably a harder choice because you have carried this child for nine months, took care of yourself to ensure that child's health, loved it, cared for it, all to give it up to a complete stranger??
My whole point is that abortion/adoption/keeping the baby is all an extremely personal choice that no one can make but you. No one can blame you for your choice either so don't let them corner you. We can give advice all day long but in the end that's something you have to figure out for yourself.
If you feel like it's ok, then that's all you need to care about. You'll know if your making the right choice for you, and no one can tell you it's right or wrong.
Best of luck to you dear, and if you want advice from someone who has made the choice to abort and isn't regretting it, or just someone who won't judge you but who will listen, you can contact me anytime.
2007-10-30 04:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by princessktty6 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I used to be very strongly pro-life until I found out that I had become pregnant. That's when my opinion changed. That's when my entire life changed. I'd never wanted kids at that point. While I never did have an abortion, I could understand the choice. In my case, I lost most of my friends. I had to give up college. Even family turned on me. I was very much alone.
While I don't regret my decision of adoption, I'm glad I had the choice. Being pregnant when you don't want to be is an extremely traumatic experience. For some people, depending on the circumstances, it is best to have an abortion. For others, adoption is the best route.
No one on here can tell you what you should or should not do. Only you can make the decision. My only advice to you is, whatever your choice, get some counseling first. This will help you to make the right decision for you and help you deal with the consequences. Good luck to you!
2007-10-30 03:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a hard decision. You need to talk to a pregnancy counslor through your local health or mental health department. Be sure that you are 100% sure you don't want this baby, because once its done...its done. There is no going back. And alot of times women regret the abortion. Especially if the pregnancy and unborn child were healthy. Just be smart, be wise, pray and get counseled. I'll keep you in my prayers....and the best of luck to you.
2007-10-30 04:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound like you need help. Please try to find someone who is unbiased about abortion to talk to, preferably a medical professional who can help you.
Because of people's religious beliefs, you're going to have a lot of people who know nothing about your circumstances just saying 'it's never okay', so this really isn't the place to ask for help, especially if you're in such a fragile state of mind. Please don't take the aggressive comments to heart.
Only you can make the decision, but you could also be panicking if you've only just found out, too, so it's worth talking it through with someone who's not going to judge you and who can also give you support for your emotional/mental wellbeing throughout your decision and afterwards, whichever way you decide.
2007-10-30 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Firebrandy 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are young then through life experience you will learn that you can look back and realize that although times seemed tough at certain points in your life you made it and it wasn't as hard or as bad as you thought it would be. If you are older and have not learned this yet, you will. Things do get better if we wait it out and seek for a better future.
2007-10-30 03:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by notthatiknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay, it doesn't matter if they call you selfish, if they think you're a "murderer" (non-sense), at the end people are not going to feed your child or for that matter make sure that you will survive, you came to this life to live it, why should you risk it, it's your own and you can make that kind of decisions, if abortion is wrong then why is it allowed in so many places all over the world.
2007-10-30 03:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by landonastar 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
♥ Personally I dont believe that abortion is ok. If you feel the odds are stacked against you and your world is falling apart then carry the baby full term & give the child up for adoption. There are so many families that would love to have a child in their home... and I believe the child deserves a chance at life. Good Luck!
2007-10-30 03:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 5⤊ 5⤋
Abortion is a personal choice and nobody should make that decision but you. You and only you know how your life and your baby's life is going to turn out. Don't listen to others. Just do whatever you need to. I know people who have had abortions and do not regret it, and I also know people who have kept their babies after thinking about it....nobody can make that choice except you...good luck!
2007-10-30 04:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is your choice, plain and simple. There is no overriding morality to any of it. All that matters is whether or not you think it's okay.
However, walking into it already depressed may not be the best choice. I would strongly suggest speaking with a counselor - just avoid the religious based anti-choice clinics (they can be quite sneaky).
Call your local Planned Parenthood, 1-800-230-PLAN - they can give you the advice you need.
2007-10-30 04:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, if you don't think you can handle raising a child and you are uncomfortable giving your child up for adoption, then I say yes. It's your personal decision, no one can tell you it's right or wrong. Some people believe it killing a life, but if you have your abortion early enough, who's to say it's any different than a miscarriage. Either decision you make you will have to live with the rest of your life. Just remember, a lot of people can give you input on what you should do, but none of them have to live the decision. It's great that people are saying keep it, but they won't have to bare the burden for the rest of their lives. Is it fair to child to bring them into a life where you can't provide. Good luck in what choice you make!
2007-10-30 03:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by dcarroll28 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋