Has anyone else noticed this? When a guy is carefree and not that interested, women LOVE him and want him so bad. But as soon as he starts to care about her or show some interest and respect, suddenly she loses interest in him.
Women are turned off by a guy who actually like/loves them!! Look around and you'll see what I'm talking about. Only when men keep a certain degree of distance is the woman interested in him.
Yet women complain about men not doing this and that.. but when we do that stuff women walk away!
Women... why should any man take your complaints about men seriously when you ignore the men who are doing everything right and chase the men doing everything wrong?
2007-10-30 02:03:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You can't categorise women in to all that as they are not all the same. Though the women you are talking about are interested more over something that is further away. A challenge is always more fun, you always want what you cant have right. Thats my theory.
2007-10-30 02:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should try meeting women who are not out for the kill - so to speak(write). Change the type of woman you date & I bet you will see a difference. By this, I mean don't date those you meet at a club, date the ones you meet in every day places such as, grocery store, coffee shop, book store. We are all human - men & women - & we have all behaved in ways which appear crazy. If you are truly looking for a meaningful relationship look in places where you go everday or join a club in which you have an interest in. This is where you will meet someone who will be a friend at the very least. Peace
2007-10-30 02:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will resist the pun . . . I will resist . . .
Actually, there is a reason why people tend to want people who don't want them. (It goes both ways, fella.) They have sufficiently low self-esteem that they figure you are insincere when you compliment them, or else they have sufficiently inflated self-esteem that they conclude they are too good for anyone who grovels and worships. Or sometimes they just reject the whole idea of being close to another person: needing someone who might go away.
In any case, we are talking about a person with some unhealthy emotional issues, and best keep your distance. To a sensible person, mutual attraction is the way to a great relationship. If you are honest with yourself, and don't get too hung up on your friends' evaluations of anyone you like (teen-agers do that unmercifully, but it tends to persist into the 20s with the unsophisticated), you can find a great relationship just starting with honest eye contact and a smile. The rest happens by synergy.
2007-10-30 02:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why people generalise so much - not just with this issue, but any situation.
Things like this may be true for the people you're around, but it isn't a representation of all of that group.
Personally, I don't know a single woman that chases someone that doesn't want them. The moment they find out they're uninterested, so are they.
However, there are some people, regardless of their gender, that do seem to desire things they can't have. So I'm sure this may apply to relationships sometimes as well.
2007-10-30 03:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by [Rei] 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like Nietzsche said, we humans are animals who place value on things...And such value depends on utility: if a thing gives us pleasure, or satisfies one or more of our needs, including our quest for power in order to survive and be considered one of the fittest (better adapted to life and the environment and, therefore, desirable as a mate and companion), then that thing will have some degree of value to us...Nevertheless, one cannot crave that which one already has, so once we get what we crave, we stop craving it, and we lose interest because we take it for granted...
Do you want to sleep the morning after a good night sleep?
Do you care about food after a meal in the same way you cared about it before such meal ??? Experience says no...
2007-10-30 02:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by saint d4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are even worse about it - the girls who are detached/aloof have all the guys tripping over their own feet to get to them. The girls who are an open book and lay everything on the table spend more time at home on a Saturday night. People always want what they think they cannot have. Also, there is something intriguing about someone with an air of mystery about them. It keeps you interested and makes you want to know more about them.
2007-10-30 02:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean and I see it all the time.
I dont know how to answer your question. Some women are clearly stupid.
Treat em mean keep em keen I suppose.
Me? Nah, I love a man who snuggles me and tell me he loves me. My partner and I have been snuggling for 8 years now.
This is probably your next questionn...how come all the good ones are taken?
2007-10-30 02:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by robynsbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who presents a challenge is more appealing. When they make themselves completely available, it's no longer fun. Men are the same way with standoffish women.
2007-10-30 02:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
while this may be true for a few women, I would not Say this rule of yours applies to all women.....
Not by any means.
Most women want a man who will work with them and who will be a partner, in every sense of the word... not a slave, not an abuser and not an ignorer.
2007-10-30 02:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by HP 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are not crazy man that is a fact. Now that you relize it you can use it.
When starting a relationship it is kinda good to push them away a little or take your time calling back. It works!
You are not a Jedi Master yet but you have found one of the jedi mind tricks. LOL
2007-10-30 02:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋