Last night I had waay to much to drink and I was walking home alone from the pub. I for some stupid reason got it into my head that I was going to get a car to stop so I could sleep with them and get some money. I think it is because I was watching a program on it the other day but I have never done it before and I dont even think I would have gone threw with it. But a guy came up from behind me and said that he would be a customer and we went into a woods and without thinking I had sex with him. He has filmed it all on his mobile and we didnt use protection and I cant stop thinking about It I feel like I want to die I hate my self so much for it and I try and sleep and I just have nightmares about it. Please please help.
2007-10-30 01:37:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't need answers on how not to do it again im not going to do it again ever I just feel so horrible I cant take it I need that feeling to go away.
2007-10-30 01:44:23 · update #1
Number 1 - Go straight to the doctor. STI's are everywhere. Not to mention, you could be pregnant. Thats something you can fix straight away. (If you desire)
2- Perhaps contacting the police to see if you are able to track down this person. It would be great to get the video destroyed.
3 - Ring up your best friend. Failing that, you might want to get some councilling. The reason you did this was not on a stupid whim. There may be something there inside your heart that might need fixing.
4 - Remind yourself you are not a bad person, you just left your brain at the pub.
5 - Have a nice long bath and relax. You have a plan now and everything can be fixed. You can get help. It is there if you ask.
Never hate yourself! Clearly you are not a bad person and even you dont have the right to treat yourself as such.
Time and a plan will help you get through it.
My love,
Robyn.
2007-10-30 01:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by robynsbeauty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I would do:
*Go to the doctor- get an STD test and morning after pill.
*Take the money you got from the incident and donate it so it's not "dirty money"- make some use out of it. So that at least the incident had some good come from it.
*If you have any trust worthy friends talk to them about it.
*Start working out a lot to help you regulate your sleep or try over the counter sleeping aids until you are back on track.
*Realize it's a mistake and you were drunk, once the first two are accomplished I feel it would be easier to begin to put it behind you.
This doesn't define you. If you don't feel better in what you feel should be a reasonable amount of time try to get professional help.
2007-10-30 01:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by kaliraksha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first response is to ask God to forgive you & to help you get past this. Don't be down on yourself & don't listen to people who put you down for it. That's why I have seeked God in my life. God will never stop forgiving us & never stop loving us; no matter what we do. He wants us to learn & grow closer to Him & He know that means us making a lot of mistakes. Just get in a room by yourself & talk to Him as if your best friend was sitting right there with you. You will feel a peace inside you. Someone gave me this same advice years ago when I was going through some rough times. It helps me & continues to. Put his behind you & chose very carefully who you talk to about this; make sure it's someone you trust. AGAIN! Don't put yoursel ddown. Obvisously your a Good Person otherwise this would not bother you. I will pray that God gets ou through this. You will be alright. Take care!
2007-10-30 02:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You need to resolve all of the issues that are causing you angst so that you can deal with the consequences or know that everything will be fine and move on. First, go to the doctor and get examined to see if you are pregnant or have contracted a disease. If you know the guy, you need to contact him and see if he will give up or destroy the video. Then you need to go to a counselor and talk through the things that caused you to do what you did, and to then deal with what has happened. Once you deal with all of the issues/consequences you need to move on; and from now on if you are going to go out and you think you might drink too much go with someone that will be responsible enough to keep you from making terrible mistakes when you are too drunk to do it yourself. Let me know how it turns out, I am concerned for you.
2007-10-30 01:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey look you were a stupid girl but you're not dead or physically hurt . You've already decided that you'll never do that again - I advise continuing to cry until you don't cry any more, let the guilt out naturally.
you've learned quite a lesson here, watch out for that manic little brain of your getting the better of you some other way too!
p.s take the money and burn it - this will be cathartic!
2007-10-30 01:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think what is the worst that can happen in the situation. Then accept it. Once you take this step your mind will be clear to think of all the solutions you need. Then take action based on the best solution that comes to your mind. I think you should talk to a responsible social organization that deals with these issues. Then report this guy to the police.
2007-10-30 01:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Emmanuel H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's done and over with! not much you can do but learn from your mistake and make up your mind if your ever goign to put yourself in that sistuation again...
i would wait and see if your pragnant and also get tested for STD right now that would be the best for your health!
your human you screw up your not perfect you need to accept that! forgive yourself and accept you wanted to take a risk! it wasn't educated but you felt a need to take a risk to feel a live! more over while drunk. your judgment was off!
if you feel your judgement is off when you drink more try lessing that so you have more control over what you do!
continue to take risks!!
Here is a poem i want to share who knows who wrote it but don't feel bad for what you did! you did it already!
copy and pasted from Coping.org
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental,
To reach out for another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self,
To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss,
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure,
But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live.
Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave, he has forfeited freedom.
Only a person who risks - is free.
~~ Author unknown
Enjoy your freedome!!!!!
2007-10-30 03:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a professional to understand what motivated you to do such a risky thing and have yourself checked for decease and pregnancy . Stop crying and deal with it so it wont happen again. Good luck
2007-10-30 01:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by sylchico 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to be an asshole, but you totally brought this on yourself, no matter what support groups you go to, whatever all your friends try to coddle you with, it was completely your fault.
Don't kill yourself though, once you live through this experience you will be a stronger, more wise person.
2007-10-30 02:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive you! Learning from mistakes is what mistakes are for. All that is left is to forgive yourself and go on knowing you learned a valuable lesson!
2007-10-30 02:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋