This is my sister-in-law who I talk with on a regular basis. I had talked with her about her selling things on Ebay, and she never mentioned anything about my item being up for sale. She never mentioned making money off the sale of the item. I only found out about it when I asked her if she could pass it on to someone else after she was done with it. That's when she told me she sold it. She then said she would split the earnings with me. Is it my money or her money?
2007-10-30 01:07:09 · 36 answers · asked by Megan L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her $. Once you give a gift its theirs. Next time if you want to sell it instead do it yourself. If you want it passed on to someone else you should tell them up front your only lending it. She was smart you can't hold that against her.
2007-10-30 01:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's hers! When it became a gift, it was no longer yours so any proceeds from the sale became hers.
It's maybe not what you would do and ethically, not what I would do. That's why I'm a maximalist, not a minimalist.
I have my own weird philosophy about gifts - someone is giving me a part of their life (they have spent time working for the money to buy it, time choosing it, time wrapping it, time getting it to me). That time could add up to several hours. So they have made me a gift of the most precious thing they have; that's why I can never throw away or make a profit from the gift.
2007-10-30 01:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave it to her as an extended "borrow" with expectations you would get it back then it is your money, but from what you've said it sounds like you gave it to her for keeps, so she sold it. When you give something away it is no longer yours and she was free to do as she pleased with it. You could have made money off it too if you hadnt of given it to her. The money is hers although selling it on ebay sounds like a bit of a low thing to do on her behalf :S
2007-10-30 01:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Techinically you gave it as a present to her and you can't take back presents. However, if this is precious to you and it did not belong to her in the first place she should not have sold it. It's like refusing a present form someone because it's not good enough.
She should get no share of the money made by it and she was wrong to do that but you were wrong awell if you did not tell her it was special or you may need it later.
2007-10-30 01:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her money. You gave the item to her. It was a little tactless that she sold it, instead of using it. However, you didn't say that you wanted it back or suggest that she past it on to somebody else.
Don't make a big deal of it, just a slight misunderstanding, and she did offer to split the money with you. Which she didn't really have to do.
2007-10-30 01:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her money because you gave it to her so it really isnt your business what she does with it. She either needed the money or didnt like it. I think it was wrong of her to sell it on ebay though, a bit thought less but that is all I would say. The question is did you give it to her to borrow or keep! You cant ask her to lend it to someone else if you made it that she could keep it. It would no longer be your place.
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2007-10-30 01:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her money, since you gave it to her and relinquished your rights to the seat once you did so. Nonetheless, it is a bit of a rude thing to do, but you're probably better off forgetting about it for the sake of your relationship. Things like this aren't worth getting worked up over.
2007-10-30 01:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you GAVE the baby seat to her.When you GAVE it to her it became hers to do with as she pleased.Maybe next time you need to loan an item out if you think that you may want to pass it on to others.Sorry but I feel it is her money because it was her baby seat.
2007-10-30 01:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably should have said something to you or asked whether you wanted it back but also when you passed the item on maybe you should have been clear of the terms of the gift, just a lend or hers to keep, etc....
Had she simply dumped it after use would you be here asking whether she should have returned it to you?
2007-10-30 01:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is you gave the car sit to her so that made it hers so she sold it on eBay the moneys hers to if she said she would spit the money with you she should have so that is wrong she shouldn't say something unless she going to stick by it . all i can say don't give her anything else
2007-10-30 01:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by cabby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ethically wrong for her to sell the baby seat as she sees no value in you giving that to her but I'd say the money she earned from that would be hers coz you have given her the baby seat and she can do anything she wants with that.
2007-10-30 01:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by erebeez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋