yesterday i was asking her a simple question and of course she has to give me the rudest reply, screaming at me, i started screaming back and told her i hated her, and then she told me she hated me to, i don't know if she said it in the heat of the moment or what, but she has told me she hates me before, and i would think even if she didn't mean to say it she would have said she's sorry. she hasn't even tried to talk to me since then. i'm starting to think that's the way she really feels because she doesn't really treat me like my brother and sisters. i don't know what to do, should i go talk to her or what???
2007-10-29 22:10:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She doesn't. It is inside of us as humans to love more than ourselves the Born we bring to life, unfortunately for some, they become unaware of the love they possess towards others due to life circumstance and tough situations, and for some it may take a life time when it is too late. If you truly feel that she hates you, then talk to her about it, to shake her up and make her realize the message she might be sending you indirectly and the damage she is causing you. But you can be sure that she loves you even if she herself doesn't know it.
2007-10-29 22:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by fakeshade 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When parents tell you that they hate you; the actual meaning is that they love you so much and hate only the attitude part of you. No parent can hate their children. Ofcourse they deliver such dialogues just to tell you that they are the parents. What you should now do is go to her with a good innocent smile and touch and move around with her. Practice a talk in front of mirror as if you are talking to her in good, not so good and bad moods. Obviously you will like the first one and repeat the same in front of her. Patch up and you will see the difference! There will be a special recepie waiting for you in the evening when you get back home. Try it
2007-10-30 05:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by villager 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You told her that you hated her first, so she probably replied with that to let you know how much it hurts. Remember that she works, probably cooks, cleans and clothes you for little thanks. It's hard work looking after a house and kids. Tell her that you love her and I'm sure she'll say the same thing. Don't take anything seriously that's said in an arguement. Good luck and i hope you get along well because life is never a rehearsal friend
2007-10-30 05:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by ƒαηтαѕтι¢ ☞CAT☜ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont know your age but you should apologize for your actions. Even if she does not do you want to keep that in your head or release it so you dont have the guilt. She may dislike you from time to time but as a parent I say she loves you. It is impossible for me to hate any of my children ( stepchild and biological) but from time to time I dislike them. If you talk to here and she still Hates you then know you did what you could and she has to live with the guilt of destroying you.
2007-10-30 05:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by onebeeer2many 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you actually started the fight and you are the one how said the word hate... and the whole thing depend on the SIMPLE QUESTION you asked her...
you should have apologized to her, mothers don't mean what they are saying to their kids sometimes...
try to treat her nicely, go and buy her her favorite flowers, or a box of chocolate or any thing she likes and you can afford it and a card that you write in it how much you love her and you will never upset her again... she is your mother
2007-10-30 05:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by great woman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll bet she didn't mean it just like you didn't mean it.
First you can't say things like that to other people especially your mother and not get a reaction. Most mothers would burst out in tears and be very hurt. Maybe you have said it so many times it has hardened her. She is letting you know how hurtful it is to hear something like that from someone you love! You should apologize and never say that again!
2007-10-30 05:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go talk to her, tell her you don't hate her. I bet you anything she will apologize and tell you that she doesn't hate you either. Even if she doesn't, you know what you should do is tell her that you love her and give her a big hug, even if she tries to resist. I know, this sounds crazy. But just try it. Try telling her that you love her no matter what and just giving her a huge hug.
2007-10-30 05:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by senor_oso 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your simple Question may be hard for her to answer. All her faults may be due to her mental pressure / agony which she is passing and cannot confide on you.You develop patience and show less reaction and more love to her. Surely, the situation will improve. Always remember , none of us are perfect and Love begets Love.
2007-10-30 05:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by TARBA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the best thing to do is to source out what the reason your mother hates you... it's better to talk to her heart to heart in a moderate passion, be submissive to her, dont retaliate...try hard to talk to her and make some compromise, better yet pray for her. I believe that no mother does not love his children,, especially daugther
2007-10-30 05:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by mon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is probably just trying to let you know how hurtful it is when you are told your hated - maybe you should go apologise to her for telling her you hated her first - then she will more then likely do the same - you need to love your mother - not tell her you hate her.
2007-10-30 05:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by charge 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋