Sometimes my workmates or just other people ask me to do stuff and I don't want to. Not close friends who I would just tell the truth to but people I don't know that well. I always end up making lame excuses. Or I say I will show then give my excuse later. I know if I say I have a previous thing on they will ask what and I feel its rude to say thats personal. Whats the best way to get out of these things and still remain all friendly. I just got invited to a party and i hate parties.
2007-10-29 22:10:04 · 11 answers · asked by darkling 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are so sensitive and its good...but you have to learn how to say: (No).
2007-10-29 23:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by naddled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't lie. You owe it to yourself to be able to be honest and stand up for your right to decline. Secondly, NEVER say you are coming somewhere when you don't intend to. You will get a reputation for being unreliable and untrustworthy. If you are invited somewhere you don't want to go, just say "I'm sorry, but I have other plans." Only someone with absolutely NO manners would ask what they were. If someone does ask, just say, "It's private, but I appreciate the invitation." and walk away. Remember, your time belongs to you. You don't have to hide from people, or lie to people. You have the right to say no.
2007-10-30 14:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for the invitation but say that you are going to pass. If you receive repeated invitations from the same people or group, you may simply want to explain that parties aren't your cup of tea, but again express appreciation for the invitation, as it was nice of them to include you.
2007-10-30 05:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your sorry, but you have other plans because you really do, don't you? If they're so rude as to ask what your doing tell them its a private matter, nicely and with a smile. Watch tv and eat salted peanuts, any of the normal activities you do are looked forward to and they're your plans. It's not like telling a lie, it's the truth.
Thanks
2007-10-30 06:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by telwidit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite your family round on the same day and say youre busy to your work mate. My mum does it all the time!
2007-10-30 05:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Leah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just pretend that I'm permanently busy, and occasionally I might have coffee with my work mates. But yep most of time I'm pretty anti social so like I said I pretend that I'm busy, busy, busy. It's really quite easy once you do it a couple of times.
2007-10-30 06:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them the truth. that you have been getting alot of invitations lately and really need some "down time" at home.
2007-10-30 05:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep saying no and turning them down eventually they will get it.
2007-10-30 07:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you have a prior commitment and can't make it. Or tell them that you have a lunch date or dinner date and can't make it.
2007-10-30 05:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by DB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty works for me.
2007-10-30 06:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by tmblweed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋