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So many women I meet, who are interested in me on some level and who would go out with me, say that they are already dating someone... but they specify "but its not exclusive yet"... as though that should be well enough prompting for me to ask them out and be satisfied.

I wont share a woman. I know that sex isnt a component to the issue here... just dating.

Either youre committed or youre not. If youre the type not to commit, why would I want you? If youre the type to cheat on whoever youre currently with for me, why would I want you?

I hold women (and myself) to higher expectations.

I find most women are never single... they bounce from one man to another in desperation to be "with someone", either as a superficial social "criteria" or for their own measure of self-worth. Women cant be content to just be single... long enough for the right man to come along.

2007-10-29 21:43:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

When I go out with a woman, I am fully committed until at least the end of the date... at most whenever its obvious the relationship will fail. I will not date two women during any time span.

I dont believe in the "we arent exclusive yet" belief. Its jsut an excuse to cheat. Its an advertisement to the fact that two people have yet to establish that cheating amongst them is a no-no.

2007-10-29 21:45:10 · update #1

I ask women like this why they are dating the guy in the first place if they are so unsure about staying with them, committedly. Why would they?

Either declare commitment or end the relationship that is doomed to anyway.

2007-10-29 21:46:36 · update #2

Thats jsut how I feel about it. I hate it when I hear a woman say it. What does that really mean?

I am so turned off by it... so disgusting. I regret ever even trying to bring them into my life with that mentality of theirs.

Is "non-exclusivity" the reason why so many women are never single but always dating someone new?

2007-10-29 21:48:22 · update #3

6 answers

I agree with you. I have lots of friends, who would rather be with anybody rather than nobody. Most of them have low self esteem and go from guy to guy seeking a fixer. Stick to your principals and the right one will come along, just don't settle for less.
Good Luck

2007-10-29 21:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by tmblweed 3 · 0 0

If you're promising exclusivity with someone, you get married.

Anything else is a trial relationship on whatever terms they agree on. Especially with young people, they often try multiple partners as part of deciding what type of person to be with, and because it's fun. (If casual sex wasn't fun for girls too, Fort Lauderdale would be a beach crowded with lots of horny guys instead of being 50-50).

When you go out on a date with someone, you're trying to find out if you're compatible with them. For some people, they will go so far as to actually have sex if the chemistry is there. If you don't want that sort of thing, then don't do that.

If a guy and a girl get involved with each other, and both of them have agreed it is not an exclusive relationship, then it's not "cheating" since they are not breaking any rules with each other.

There is nothing "right" or "wrong" with the idea of not being exclusive to others except to the extent that someone is being injured or hurt. Now, presuming the women you dated were not lying when they said they were not exclusive (meaning that their boyfriend was not expecting exclusivity with them) then they haven't done anything "wrong."

It's acceptable for some people but not acceptable to you. Just find women that believe the same thing and only date them.

2007-10-30 05:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Paul R 7 · 0 0

That is exactly right for me. If you don't want a woman who date more than one man, just seek one that do have a commitment for her relationship with you. If the woman see dating relationship just as a way to compare, it will be better not to date at all, you can do that as friends.

2007-10-30 04:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by seed of eternity 6 · 0 0

I think youre just seeing the wrong women. Try to date women who are single. Also i just wanna say that dating many people at once is not exactly a bad thing... its just like shopping for the right one

2007-10-30 05:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 0 0

It takes me longer than a date to know enough about a person to decide if I want to see him and only him. There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person, until you find the one that you want to commit to. That is when it is time to be exclusive.

I don't, however, condone sleeping with multiple partners, but then I don't sleep with anyone until I feel that there is a connection, and it is exclusive!!

2007-10-30 04:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0 0

i dont feel its even a commitment thing

for me its just a way of showing someone respect
, that i am not seeing other people at the same time

2007-10-30 04:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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