I dated this guy for like 4 days.. Yesterday I told him through on text message that I decide not to continuting dating with him. Because I dont feel "chemistry" between me and him. And told him that we should be friend, And he asked me why I changed my mind. He was very upset because I told him week ago that Im ready for relationship and everything.. But I realized that Im not ready cause I have alot of things coming up later in my life. And plus Im too selfish with myself because I will spend my time thinking about myself and my future than focusing on my relationship and make my bf happy. I feel that its not my time to be in serious relationship. He got mad at me. It doesnt affect me at all. Am I doing right thing to tell him truth than lying to prevent from hurting his feeling?? I guess I already did but how to make him stop to be so obession with me?How can I make him stop calling me so many times and sending me on myspace???
2007-10-29 21:34:09 · 17 answers · asked by Sakae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you said it perfectly... " im too selfish with myself because i will spend all my time thinking about myself.." theres nothing here that anyone can say to make you feel good about your being selfish
2007-10-29 21:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. He would be hurt more later than he is now. But it sounds like he has a problem if he is obsessed only after 4 days. I don't know about the phone calls but I would block him on myspace. I would go to his face and tell him to stop calling me. If he didn't I would contact the cel phone company to see if they can help with telephone harrassment. With land lines you can contact the telephone company and once the number comes up so many times you can prosecute the person.
Even though he will be begging and all that still go to his face and let him know. If he continues then I would talk to his parents if you are teenagers. If he still doesn't stop then you may have to get a restraining order against him to prevent him from coming around you or calling.
2007-10-29 21:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off considering someone you had only a 4 day relationship with an ex is just ignorant, becasue that is too short of a time to consider it a "real" relationship. Your first mistake was texting it to him, no one wants to get broken up with through a text. You should have went to him and told him what you said in this question for the reason why it wasnt going to work out. And to get him to stop calling and sending messages tell him that you liked his company and you would like to hang out with him as friends but if he is going to keep bothering you then you want nothing to do with him at all. If he continues to bother you then get mean. Sooner or later he will realize it just takes them time to soak it in, they are men what else can you expect.:)
2007-10-29 21:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by snowbezzy1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him, and eventually he will get the message. You need to be thinking about yourself and your future right now anyway. If he can't appreciate the fact that you were honest with him, then too bad. It has only been 4 darn days!!! He acts as if you strung him along for a year or so!! How childish is that!! Tell him that he needs a serious lesson in how to deal with rejection. lol
2007-10-29 21:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing of telling him the truth, like you said, this way it prevents him from getting his feeling hurts, however, I think in one way you were wrong because you played him, you hurted his feeling anyway because you gave him hope and then took it away....plus, this way shows you either you are not the kind a person that look for a lasting relationship or you are a very unconscious person, you like to rush. ..........and regarding your question, if you are clearily told him that you guys are over and he keep bothering you, I would recommend you to talk to his friends or family, cus he need help. it is turning into obsession.
2007-10-29 21:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT ingore him. trust me, i have tried that ...it doesnt work. he will only start obsessing more over you.
just apologize (again) if you need to..but always tell him the full truth..sometimes being blunt is the only way to make someone understand something, sadly.
it was right of you, though, to tell him that you really arent ready for a relationship, even though you may have thought you were.
just remember, remain truthful and dont tell him a lie just to get rid of him. that will hurt him most of all.
i didnt know you could call a 4-day...thing..a relationship though..lol.
2007-10-29 21:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that obcessed after 4 days then there is something wrong with him. You can block him from your myspace and you can also get a block on your phone. I WOULD SUGGEST BOTH. And as another member mention - you need to learn to balance your life,
2007-10-29 21:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did wrong to lead him on in the first place but breaking up with him before it got worse was a good think. He needs to stop now so just tell him that you are very sorry for what happenned & he needs to stop stalking you before you end the friendship all together
2007-10-29 21:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your should have done in in person instead of sending a text message. From what I can see from question, your text message was brief and unclear.... things might have gone better if done in person....
perhaps you should ask yourself if you were him and this happened, how would you feel? and do be honest with yourself.....
the only way to get him to stop is to really explain things to him.... be brutally honest.... and clear... i.e. no mixed signals....
good luck
2007-10-29 21:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by nikki_G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, boo to all the people who enable this kind of behavior. I mean, breaking up with someone in a text? That's just cold. And boo to this guy for putting up with this crap and continuing to be interested in your crazy ****. I would have put Ex-Lax in your pastries a long time ago!
Yes, boo to you and boo to this thread.
*forum troll throws smoke bomb to ground and disappears in a puff*
2007-10-29 21:47:27 · answer #11 · answered by The Bad Movie Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋