2007-10-29 20:56:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thank you all so much... i would not have even picked a best answer were it not for the fact that Cheeky T touched on the fact of losing a child- my daugfhter died 6 yrs ago at age 6 and I just asked my bf to marry me and he wasn't too receptive, said it was not a good oidea. In the meantime, I bear my stepfather's last name and he was abusive. I really want to get rid if it to stop being xconstantly reminded of him.But I don't want to just use any old name, I want there to be a reason for having it. love you guys, the support you give me is phenomenal!!
2007-10-30 07:18:51 · update #1
sending you warm cuddles from australia ...
Lets be friends... I'll tell you a click I saw on TV the other night.. I fell off my chair laughing
It was about a girl who lived in an apartment ..opposite a street ... over the street a public telephone booth is visible from her bedroom window...
The girl .. not bad looking ... rings the phone in the booth every time an attractive guy pass the booth .... the guy would then answers the phone and they would chat about every and any thing ... she was a good conversationalist .. and every day this happens... she had a long list of guys that went to the booth just to talk to her..they never saw her and couldn't tell which apartment she was in ...
one day ... she was talking to this dude on the phone ... and another one came waiting to use the phone .... so the one on the phone said ... "I have to go, some one is waiting to use the phone"... not knowing that the other person is waiting for the same girl ... so she said to the man .."really .. can you not stay on the phone for a few more minutes to chat".. he said "oh ok "... she decide to take a peak through her curtains.. what she saw .. was a more attractive guy waiting to use the phone ... she told the current guy.. "oh I gotta go to bed..goodnite".. and disconnected.. the man came out the booth and walked away ... few seconds later... the booth phone rang again .. and the handsome dude picked up the phone .. ..the woman in the apartment does this all the time .. one day a woman past by .. and the phone rang... so the woman on the line said.. sorry "I was calling for the handome man that just past the booth before you"
I hope that clip took your mind away from your troubles for a few second ... hun.. just remember that we have to go through pain in life before we can experience true happiness ... its hard I know .. and you're probably asking yourself .. why you?...but maybe tomorrow .. or next week.. or next month .. or a yr.. this hurt that u feel will be lighten ...if its a man.. there will be others that can and will make u forget whoever this is within seconds.. if you lost a child.. although you would not heal .. but you have to think that there is a reason for not being here.. if its death in your family... just imagine that ..that person is away in a better life....
If you feel lonely.. just imagine .. all these strange ppl around the world that is thinking about you ... isn't that just bizzare
hope u feel better
2007-10-29 22:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has ever died because of emotional pain but there are some ways to help yourself feel better..................
Laughter heals. You really can be consumed with sadness but laughter helps you to expell the heaviness and (also a cliche) "lighten up". You honestly will feel better if you make a conscious choice to laugh. Envision people who have hurt you, with toilet paper hanging out their pants, rent some funny movies, read a funny book.
Sometimes we don't have to fight so hard and stir up so much dust. Sometimes, what we really need to do is accept life right where it is, stand still and let the situation be alone and let the dust settle and see where the path leads us from there. Nobody's ever died because they were in emotional pain.
You may possibly have a lot of junk floating around in your mind and it's making you sick from "stinkin' thinkin' " So . . BREATHE, and each time you inhale, think to yourself (in with the good) then exhale (out with the bad). You're taking in more oxygen which is mind clearing anyway and at the same time, you're consciously recognizing that you are breathing in "Life".
No matter what is going on in your life..................... IT'S GOING TO CHANGE. Nothing is forever, life is just a series of moments. When the tough ones come along, hold onto yourself (be comforting to yourself) because just around the corner is a whole new set of good moments to be experienced. Being aware of this really helps to calm your fears and ease your pain. It's one day at a time, maybe one hour at a time, but the time DOES pass, the day DOES end and you DO survive.
Life can be painful in one wave and bring you joy in the next. I've lived almost 61 years and I can tell you from experience, your heart WILL heal, you WILL get stronger, things WILL get better with each day and you WILL begin again.
2007-10-30 05:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honestly can't cheer him up. A death in the familly is really hard. It's permanent. It's not like a bad grade on a paper, or a lost basketball game. I know how you feel, there are times when I've seen my bf upset and it pains me to see him that way. No one likes to see the people we care about suffer. But suffering is part of being human. Ask him what he needs from you. It could just be a hug, a voice on the other end of the line, picking up a meal, or telling him you'll be there if he's ever ready to talk about it. He'll know that you care, and in time he'll be okay again.
2016-04-11 02:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened to you? has your heart been broken by someone?
all kinds of relationships are hard and are risky...you are entrusting your heart to someone whom you are not sure would take care of it or not...i think you are still young and you will experience a lot of heartaches along the way...but dont give up....because you will never know what happiness is if you dont try....meanwhile, give yourself a chance to heal...accept that things didnt work out this time...immerse yourself in things you love to do....spend more time with your friends and family...this will help you get over what has happened to you....good luck and cheer up!
2007-10-29 21:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get to place where you can watch a sunrise and listen to the world come alive. The sounds of birds singing and the small animals moving in a woodland.
2007-10-30 00:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
False expectations keep depression chemicals flowing. They go to the medulla and slow down the heart.
2007-10-30 05:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what darling, if you keep on feeling like that it won't stop. the general idea is, what you think determines the way you feel and the way you feel influences the way you act.
there are a lot of things to be happy with you just have to look around. change your attitute on everything. think abundance.
2007-10-29 21:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by redwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels to have my heart hurt because my heart still hurts and i'm not go to stop doing things i love to do but i'm not going to do things that i use to do with that one person. I know it hurts but your heart will heal ok just don't do anything that you use to do with that person cuz that will make it worse ok. good luck and i hope that you will be happy again
2007-10-29 21:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at all the blessings you have
i assume you have
food
shelter
love
education
beauty
but all you really need is love
be thankful for life and each breath you take, what has happened is finished and your should pick up and move on, but i understand it's hard
2007-10-30 01:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! If you think it would help to talk this through, you are very welcome. And I am sure that plenty of others will say the same thing. Pleased to be a good listerner, too. Regards.
2007-10-29 21:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by benje111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋