im an adult who lives at home for finaical reasons. and when my guy comes to visit me we hang out in my room a few times we have had sex in there. my parents know they said it was okay to do it just dont tell them about it.
but it makes my guy nervous to do it when my family is home.
how can i tell him to chill out about this?
we dont have money to get a motel and he dont have his own place either.
so what would you do?
2007-10-29 20:39:09 · 23 answers · asked by Babygirl20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we do lock the door
and a few times he has been totally cool with it and my parents are almost always home
we do have jobs but were struggling with money
and we do oral as well as full on sex and we are always quiet.
2007-10-29 21:03:51 · update #1
yes I would, and I have. Im away at school and have an apt. but in high school i did. I even had sex in my girlfriend's living room while her parents were upstairs. I think its more exciting. Just dont be stupid about it.
2007-10-29 20:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by apg96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til they go out or a weekend when you know they are away and make it really special for him, he sounds like one of the good guys and you shouldnt force him into doing something he is uncomftorable doing as it is fairly normal for people to be nervous around other parents and family let alone have sex why they are still about.
Perhaps you could offer him oral sex and see if he is up for that while your parents are around as full on sex is something that you should enjoy not rush or keep having worries in the back of your mind.
2007-10-29 20:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really question the future of a relationship where both of us pooling our resources could not have enough money to afford a room. Evidently, independence is not a priority. You should spend less time "hanging out" and more time looking for a job. You'll get money. You can move out. The parents will be happier and the boyfriend will chill.
2007-10-29 20:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're boyfriend doesn't feel comfortable having sex with you while your folks are home, even if they say it's ok, you should take in consideration your boyfriends feelings. He's showing respect for your parents as well as you.
I guess you guys are gonna have to save up to get a room or how about saving up to get your own pad together so you guys can have your own privacy.
You can't fault him for not having sex under your parents roof while they're home. I wish more guys were like your boyfriend. At least he's showing that he cares.
2007-10-29 20:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by simply-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really really really bad getting caught by parents (especially a dad) when having sex with their daughter. That's why he's nervous. I had sex at my girlfriends house once when he dad and older brother (6 years older then me) were home and the lock on her door wasn't working. I was nervous as hell but I'd say the rush of getting caught is always a plus.
2007-10-29 20:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our daughter lives at living house, is 21, and would not pay lease. She is in college and we will be spending some distance more advantageous if she changed into residing in a dorm. at the same time as she does paintings area time, maximum of her summer season wages bypass in the route of her preparation/books and her college 365 days wages (she in easy words works about 4 hours per week in the course of the faculty 365 days), are pocket money. at the same time as she graduates, we are going to in all probability supply her some months to discover some variety of pastime. At that factor, if she's no longer making adequate to bypass out/at the same time as she's saving as a lot as bypass out, we are going to charge her some life like room and board. on your case -- what's your baby doing with his earnings? If he's saving to bypass out or for something significant (i.e. a automobile) i'd not charge lease. If he's spending it on beer and video-video games, then a token lease will be logical.
2016-10-23 03:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel comfortable with this, but my parents would have never given me the okay, either. I've also dated girls in the past whose parents were completely fine with this, but it was still a little creepy to think you could be having sex & her parents might knock on the door. Stuff like that messes with a guy's libido. Your best bet would be to stick to car sex, or have sex only when your parents will be away, because he's obviously uncomfortable with this situation.
2007-10-29 20:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have the same situation. We r 21 and 24, so parents r ok. Also, we do it at night when they sleep or when they r not home. Your b/f will get used to it. At first it was awkward for us too, but them u'll be feeling like it's normal( like between husband and wife). Have fun;)
2007-10-29 20:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are ok with it, so go for it. Maybe it would be more comfortable if they weren't home. My guy never got over it. We just try to make it happen if we know everyone is sleeping or gone. Have fun!
2007-10-29 20:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by dontknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very quiet or put some music on -
It's good that you have a nice respectful boyfriend anyway - hold on to him.
2007-10-29 20:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋