Question of dying?

Question

I was going to post this in religion, but considering i am dying from cancer. What are some of your thoughts on the subject?

Answer 1

My father has lung cancer. But it is actually wrapped around his Aorta on his heart and it spreads into his back and spinal cord. My father is 60 and he has been diagnosed with cancer for 5 years now. His cancer is not growing anymore but is still there it can't be removed. He was scared at first but now realizes it's not only happening to him. He has many other health issues too. But yes he lives everyday Day - By - Day.

Thought it would be nice to share this with you and everyone else.

Answer 2

I am sorry for your troubles. I am terminally ill as well. I actually was diagnosed in March of 2003 and given no more than 18 months to live. As you can see, I have surpassed all expectations. I have also had a lot of time to prepare for the end.

In the beginning I was more afraid for my wife and daughters. I believed the dying was the easy part. They had the difficult part because they have to carry on after I am gone. It took all of us a while to accept it, and to be honest with you, we don't think about it any more. About a year into my illness, my biggest fear was that at the moment I take my last breath, I realize that this life is all we have. That fear motivated me (and my family) to go about the business of living and make sure we get every last drop of life out of every second of each and every day. Since I'm not a religious person, I don't want to waste one second. If we are lucky enough to have something after all of this ends, then I will consider myself to be really fortunate.

One thing I figured out - while you may be surrounded by family in the end, the dying part is something you have to do on your own. Somehow, someway, you have to find peace with that reality. If religion is the path to acceptance and peace, and that is something that will work for you, then embrace it. If you are like me, milk the precious seconds you have left for everything you can. That way, when the meter runs out, you have no regrets, no "I wish I had done that", and most importantly, no "I love you's" left unsaid. The last 3 words my wife hears every night before she goes to bed is "I love you." That way if I don't wake up in the morning, that is the last thing she heard. I think that's a pretty neat way to leave things.

Good luck to you. Dying is a tough business. It comes with a lot of problems and no instruction manual. What works for me may not work for you. You have to find your own path. One thing we all have in common - our journeys may be different, but our final destination is the same.

Answer 3

Cancer straightens out your thinking. There's not much else to be afraid of for yourself. I'm not afraid of flying any more and I'm not afraid of dying.

I already had a will and living will, after neighbours went out in the car one day and didn't come home. My funeral has been planned and we laughed over the disposal of the ashes. We had a neighbour we don't much like in mind. We won't do it but the idea appealed.

I watch clinical trials and I volunteered to be a guinea pig for other treatment. So far, so good. Life is a lot simpler now.

Answer 4

I have a terrible fear of flying. Terrible.
The only way I was able to even get on a plane was to say "well, god is either in charge of these sorts of things, or he isn't. If he isn't and it crashes, its all over with and there is no afterlife, and I'll have missed out on a bunch of things, but I wont know what I missed out on because I'll be dead.....and if there is a god, there are still all sorts of things that I wont be able to reconcile because I wont have the time, and things will just have to play out here on earth without me....and I wont have that ability to "make peace with my maker" or anything like that because, lets face it, planes fall out of the sky pretty fast ....so I might as well simply commend my soul to him now...." and so every time I get on a plane I simply say "alright god, I'm trusting you with this, and if anything happens, I commend my soul to you."

I had a scare when I thought I was going to die within days, a few years back. And that same thing is the only thing that brought me comfort.

I know that bad things happen to good people all the time, and it just doesnt make sense to me. But I do know this - I'm simply not smart enough to understand what holds the universe together, regardless of what name it goes by....so its quite possible that these things make sense in some larger scheme....one that I can't possibly understand.

I don't know, I dont have any answers....but I think birth is a lot like death. We really dont know much about it either, if you think about it. But for some reason we dont have negative connotations associated with birth, when they both seem to be transition states. I don't know that its a bad thing.

I earnestly hope you find the peace you searching for.

Answer 5

You mentioned that you were going to post this in "religion"...... Here is my thought and from my experience with my parents passing.........If you are right with "HIM" (meaning our Lord), then there will be no worry for you. He is comfort and truth. He is everything you will ever want. You will always have a future with Him. In Him there is everlasting life. Take comfort in the Lord. Now smile and continue on, each day at a time....step by step. And NEVER be afraid if your heart is with Him, as he will guide you every step of the day. My deepest blessings to you. Remember....smile and continue one day at a time. Step by step. He is watching you. =)

Answer 6

Hello fellow YA! friend,

I don't really know but I am very interested in what you have to say..

If you don't mind me asking
What type of cancer is it?

If you don't want to post it here, feel free to message me.

Sincerely,
Mike

Answer 7

We're all going to die one day. I am not frightened of death and talk about quite openly. I discussed this with my doctor and he has similar views to mine. It's not scary, I don't believe in afterlife and I enjoy every day, one at a time.

Answer 8

We've all been promised an appointment with death.