I've always been close with my mom ever since I can remember. Lately, she's changed into a whole new person. It all started in April. My mom hated our house, so she told my dad to sell it and to move. So we sold it and moved into a 5,000 sq. ft. house that they can barely afford. Since then, my mom has become so materialistic it's to the point she drives me absolutely nuts. She's found a job at my school and now she's mad at me because I'm not a sex-crazed boy humping every girl I come into contact with and she's trying to force my sister into dating college guys because of all the things she hears at my school. She thinks she's young again and she's turned into a cruel person. Nothing is good enough for her. She hates boys. She treats me and my dad like doormats. I really can't stand to be around her. She's just so different it's hard. When I try to ignore her, she cries and tells me I "hurt her heart" and then says I need to be nicer to her since she's my mom. What can I do?
2007-10-29 18:42:51 · 7 answers · asked by Nameless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't like what she's become and I can't wait until I'm old enough to move out.
2007-10-29 18:46:15 · update #1
Such a drastic change in behavior could be related to many things. She could be manic depressive, and in a bad manic episode. She is going through a mid life crisis. She has some friends who are a bad influence on her, and encouraging her to do stupid things. She even could be having an affair, and be plotting to divorce your dad, and take him to the cleaners. (I sincerely hope that is not the case) Or she is going in to menopause.
Seriously though, it sounds like she probably has made some new friends who are also very materialistic, and is trying to keep up with them, without really realizing the affect she is having on her family.
Sit her down and talk to her, and ask her what the heck is going on. Why has she suddenly turned into this mean materialistic person, and that you do not appreciate the way she is treating you and your dad.
Best of luck to you.
2007-10-29 19:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by CSmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can do very little. Develop your own interests and stay away from your mother as much as you can, at least when she seems to be in a bad mood. She may be going through menopause (you didn't mention her age). This can be an unsettling time for many women and some react very badly to it. And believe me, she doesn't think she is young again! No one who is getting older (and we all are - even YOU) believes they are getting younger or have suddendly become young again. She is probably feeling her age and is trying to compensate with a bigger house and inappropriate behavior. It's not easy getting older and facing the fact you are. Many people - both men and women - don't handle it very well at all. Have you spoken to your father about this problem with your Mom (that she has changed so much)? Have you tried talking to her? Again, until you can move out on your own you are fairly well stuck until that time comes.
2007-10-30 01:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to your dad about the situation? He might understand the situation a bit more, or at least you can be there for each other and he might be struggling too. I am sorry to hear this has happened. It is a pretty worrying situation, but as a kid, you should not have to deal with it on your own. Hope it works out for you.
2007-10-30 06:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's trying to find herself again. I'm sure she means well, but she doesn't realize how you feel. Sit down with her and talk to her. Communication is the key!
2007-10-30 01:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it sucks but she should change back may be she feels like she is losing you so she is trying to acted younger my mom did it when i turn 12 and started doing things with friends it was weird but i talk to her and it was all good try talking to her it will hurt but she will see
2007-10-30 02:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by rainbowchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes not feeling so well so shes flooding her life with this "stuff" and also shes being abusive. Her mom may have been controlling. She needs some counseling. Bullys get high on abuse.
2007-10-30 01:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What ever she says she is your mom. And we are kids for them , we need to be more petionated
2007-10-30 02:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by falenish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋