love and relationships are most complicated in life. should i stay with a guy who u love? or should i move on with a guy who wants to merry you?
2007-10-29 18:36:43 · 20 answers · asked by susie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because someone wants to marry you doesn't mean he loves you the way a man & wife should love each other. If he is not the one you love, then don't marry him. After all, he must sense that you are not in love with him, therefore he might have an ulterior motive.
Of course, He may truly be in love with you. You may think you are in love with this other guy, but you never said if this other guy is in love with you. He may just be using your love for him in order to get his own way without working for it.
You seem to be too young to be thinking of marriage if you can't distinguish between real love & lust.
2007-10-29 18:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say weigh the pros and cons of each guy and then think about what do you want in life. Do you want to be married? Does this guy that is proposing marriage really love you? Is he someone you can even see spending the rest of your life with? Does he like and know your family? Do they like and know him? What about the other guy, what is he offering you other than just love? I mean is he someone you can depend on? Do you think you could just shack up or live with him forever and never go beyond that point? I mean really you need to ask yourself these questions. And also who is there for you the most? Can they handle crisis that might come up? Why doesn't the guy that loves you, doesn't want to make you his wife? Does the guy that wants to marry you have your best interest at heart? And again can you really see yourself settling down with either guy? Who makes your heart pound? Who challenges you more to try new things? Who gets you to have more fun? You really have to ask these questions of yourself and of them. Once you have all your answers you should know which one is right for you.
2007-10-30 01:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with the guy you love, because at the end of the day it is not the marriage contract that will keep you both together but rather it is your love for each other that will make you stronger as a coupe and will make your love grow. Marriage is a ritual that shows the world and your god that you promise to stay together, til death do you part; but this does not define the sincerity of ones intentions and feelings.
2007-10-30 01:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by greengrapecake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the guy who wants to marry you a favor and let him go. How fair is it to him to think of marriage when you obviously don't love him. He deserves a wife who totally loves only him. And you would be making a mistake to marry someone when your heart belongs to another. The only real choice you have is do you stay with the one you love knowing that marriage won't happen? Only you can answer that one. Can you handle that long-term?
2007-10-30 01:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check who fits you best. If he wants to marry you and then he turns up to be a wife-beating jerk then its not a good idea. If a guy doesn't want to be married, there are several reasons why. But it is always better to stay with a man who can handle the responsibilities he will bear when he exchage vows with you.
2007-10-30 01:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by agent_nerd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo... Love wins every time. So in this case, whomever you "love" most, go with that one. If you don't really love the guy that wants to marry you, does it make sense to marry him if you really love someone else?? Then again, it shouldn't matter about marriage, should it? Consider my advice if they both love you... I couldn't really tell by your description.
2007-10-30 01:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better choose the guy who wants to love you and also marry you,
So if the guy who wants to marry you is also deeply in love with you, then marry him and love him dearly to be happily married.
Otherwise don't stay with one whom you love but who do not want to marry you.He may dump you when you are old and hopeless and useless.
2007-10-30 01:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Snowy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get mixed up with those two....marriage is something that shouldnt be taken as a joke....
no better person can answer your question than yourself.....think about it..and i mean think real good..consult your heart...it doesnt really matter if youre with someone who loves you or someone you love. what matters is youre happy with whatever decision you have come up with.
cling on to God as well..im sure He will never give you something like this if He thinks you cannot handle it. you have a mind to use with your heart...make them work together...:)....lemme know what decision you have came up with..would love to how happy it made ya... *smiles*
2007-10-30 01:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on a couple things... how old are you toots?? if your pushing 30 i'm leaning towards the marry guy, the other guy is probably just puppy love anyway and you'll get over that soon and then it will just be boring... can you tolerate the guy who wants to marry you? i guess i'm somewhat cynical but i gave up on the thought of love and i think people just marry one another for security of whatever sort... i'm saying go for the dull guy you can tolerate forever.
2007-10-30 01:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by smelly belly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is for keeps, so if you doesn't love him back, it will never work, on the other hand the one that you love, doesn't seems to care enough of you to want to be your husband, we always wants what's not good for us, and that's picking the wrong person, think about it......
2007-10-30 01:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋