He has got the kids on his side too, I know I am the one who will end up cleaning up behind, feeding and walking the dog. He has enough money to care for the dog but just not the time. I dont want the dog, so why should I care for it?? I mean even if a dog ended up coming here and I didnt want it, I still wouldnt be cruel to it. I mean I would care for it if they were to irresponsible. But just becausse Im not ignorant enough to ignore it doesnt mean I want it. So how do I keep them from getting a dog that I am gonna be stuck with???
2007-10-29 18:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
First, discuss with your man the only circumstances under which you are willing to consider getting a dog. Make a contract -- a VERY specific contract -- and have him go over it with you. If he is willing to go ahead with it, sit down in a family meeting with everyone present.
Say you are willing to discuss it, but that you WILL UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE take any responsibility for any chore related to the dog. Then write down and start assigning tasks between the group:
1. Who's willing to go for a morning walk every morning before school -- rain, shine, Christmas or spring break.
2. Who's going get the dog fresh water twice a day.
3. Who's going to feed the dog twice a day.
4. Who's coming straight home from school M-T-W-Th-F to let the dog out?
5. Who's going to put the dog's toys away every day?
6. Who's going to trim claws?
7. Who's going to brush the dog, bathe the dog, and pay for the groomer if the brushing isn't done well enough?
8. Who's going to clean up all the accidents? Pee? Poo? Vomit?
9. Who's going to play with it?
10. Who's going to vacuum two extra times a week because of hair?
11. Who's going to wipe over the floor every time muddy paws come inside?
12. Who's going to go to puppy classes and the vet?
If one neglects the chore they took on, there will be a removal of privileges, such as allowance, toys, activities or phone/computer use (done by dad -- NOT your job to be the puppy police). The chores will then fall on another child. (If age appropriate)
If the rest of your family agrees to the rules, they might be truly desperate for a dog, and maybe they should have one? Afterall, it is great for kids to grow up with a dog...
I wish you the best of luck!!
Also remember to discuss the reprecussions if the other family members fail to keep up over time - beforehand.
2007-10-29 20:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by carnelionne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your reasons and stand your ground, if the responsibility of taking care of the dog falls to you and you don't want a dog on top of everything else you do, JUST SAY NO. Train the boyfriend to stop treating you like a pushover, and shame on him for setting the kids against you!! He should be supporting you as an adult in the home, not putting children in the middle.
Tell them all frankly why you do not want the responsibility of a dog right now and don't give in if it is what you want, otherwise you just will get bowled over again when they all say two is more fun then one.
2007-10-30 01:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
get the kids to feed it and clean up after it in the week and your boyfriend to take it out in the evenings and at weekends or tell him you wont be able to go on holidays unless you take the dog with you that may put him off
2007-10-30 02:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know how you are so He should be considerate to your feelings because he knows he doesn't have time to take care of the dog.
I wanted a dog so bad but I won't have time to take care of it so I just didn't get one.
2007-10-30 09:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by tlw773 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that then. You'll agree to get the dog if everyone agrees to take care of him/her. Tell them that if they aren't going to take care of it that you'll find a better home for it. Good Luck!
2007-10-30 01:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by razorsandsharpies 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's your bf, not your husband? And you live together. and kids too?
So tell the bum to marry you if he wants a dog. And to hire a dog sitter. and to think about how he is going to deal with all that.
Its not that I feel marrage is necassary, but it is a tool to use.
You don't need to take care of the dog. Just make the kids do it. Make the kids do it! They want the dog, make them responcible. Or the dog goes to a new home.
2007-10-30 01:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by bahbdorje 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
have him care for it then it wil be his dog and his responsibility.
2007-10-30 01:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jorjor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that the yard has parvo in it for 7 years the lady down the backs dog got it and it can be contaminated from you walkin on your nature strip.And her as well.
NOT NICE TO LIE BUT SO REMEMBER TELL THE TRUTH)Leave this up to you
2007-10-30 01:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by longbeach 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Sorry, you are screwed.
2007-10-30 01:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋