Me and my bf of 5 years broke up about 3 weeks ago because of some big mistakes he made while at school. He cried and begged for me back for over a week asking me to have his children and marry him, when i made the decison to work it out he turned around and said he didnt deserve me and he just wants to go out be a guy and live the single life. NOW he has a GF!! wtf. and shes soooo nasty, and not even cute at all. I was soo good to him and i wanted to work it out. How can you can a guy move on so fast after 5 years, esp if he loved me as much as he said? how can i get him back, he dissappeared on me, i love him. :(
2007-10-29 16:31:14 · 16 answers · asked by brittknee08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know that i should move on, but im just wondering why its so easy for him to move on after 5 years, is this normal?
2007-10-29 16:38:45 · update #1
he plays baseball and all his buddies keep telling him to move on, ugggh.
2007-10-29 17:01:54 · update #2
He was looking for rebound.
A relationship like yours that lasts 5 years is emotionally draining. He ran like a scared dog after the relationship was over and ran into the arms of someone who can meet his IMMMEDIATE needs.
If you want him back, wait patiently. Those things tend to fizzle out after a while and he will be back to square one soon.
2007-10-29 16:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i feel so sorry for you! *hugs*
Ugh! boys these days!
They think their slick az hell =/
Ewww I dont like the sound of his new chick. Dont worry I bet she got aids and every other STD lol
ohhhh he wanna go out and test the waters with other chicks? And then when hes finally done he wanna come back to you? Dont let him do that to you. You deserve better!
Maybe you should get a rebound guy and see what he says or does. Let him come crawling back to you.
But seriously, if he is gonna let something like that just slip away that easily, maybe hes not 'the one'.
If he really did love you, he would of taken that offer with no 'buts, ifs or maybes', and be grateful you gave him another chance.
I really think this has to do with the people he hangs out with though. What are they like? Are his friends hoes? I was once told that your bf acts just like his friends. Their personalities reflect off each other, since friends are the biggest influence around them.
All im saying is that hes having his 'fun'....why not have yours?
[not in a hoeish way though]
Hook up with a dude and test the waters out.
Dont stay at home moping around[i know you are! lol], get out and have fun with other guys. Life is too short to be left at home crying over some dude. No matter how long yu been together.
anywho..
Hope all goes well!
p.s get you a dude right quick ok?
2007-10-29 23:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the name of GOD would you WANT him back?
You mean youre making a decision to love a guy who treated you like that and dumped you after 5 yrs?
Thank GOD you dont have kids with this bum.
The ONLY reason he cried and begged you back was because his plans for the other girl fell through at the moment but later came through for him.
Learn from your mistakes and dont repeat them.
Hurt heal and move on hon.
2007-10-29 23:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you want him back!! thats what i dont understand, so what if he moved on, he lied and said he wanted to be a GUY which probably means go bang every girl on the block and live a SINGLE life, but you see him with a girl, he lied, why would you still want him. i would move on.
EDIT: for some unknown mysterious reason its always EASy for guys to move on while the girl is just left hangin trying to figure out if this is real or not, to me guys like that just dont have a heart, or they never really took the relationship seriously
2007-10-29 23:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe he is NOT over you. He is trying to move on by getting with this new girl but you can't just throw five years away....No one can. You have a lot of history together. Sounds like your ex bf is confused and thinks that getting with a new gf will settle things down in his mind about what he wants in his life. One day(maybe soon) he'll realize his loss and so begins the cycle (again) of him begging for you to return to him.
2007-10-29 23:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Erato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
Yall have been in ur relationship for a long time. When u guys broke up he just got the chance to see what its like to cat off. Please believe me when i say he knows what he left behind. Now that you have accepted him once, he feels your going to take him back again. And as for the hoodrat, he is not going to stay with her unless she can top the things you did. He is going to relize that hes trading in a "90" for a "10" and come RUNNING back begging. I went thru a simular situation. i know how u feel. i wanted to beat the hell out of him and the chick, but dont do that just yet. just wait and b observant. Peace, love, and happyness.
2007-10-29 23:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by FAWNDUE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe my answer will be somehow annoying, but, believe it or not, after 5 years of being committed to someone, trying something new is much easier, specially when thinking about it as a physical need.
Sorry, but this is the truth about the guys
2007-10-29 23:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by khaldooni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i no you love him but he moved on so quick because he was cheating on you already dont worry he will be back once he get finish doing what ever he is doing with that nasty girl thats what guys usaully wont they rather leave with trash instead of trying to make it work with a real woman so if i were you i wont wait on him i would do me if i were you i use to make the same mistake with my kids dadwhile would be out doing his thing i would wait on him go have your fun girl and the problem is he did not love you as much as you love him so thats why he could move on just like that its going to be hard but life goes on as the days pass you will get over him he lost a good thing go on with your life good luck
2007-10-29 23:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by fattyb1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F@#% love. He played you girl! He has someone else? Damn is that not enough for you to realize he has moved on? So must you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she is nasty then he has lowered his standards...why should you? He said what he had to to get you back and now hes done and moved on.
One day the right person will come along and make you happy and not be a phony flake like him.
2007-10-29 23:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the lucky one. Run, away, fast. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Date others, have fun, and when the "right" guy comes along he will treat you with the respect and caring that you deserve.
2007-10-29 23:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by dddanse 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋