First of all this is completly true dont think this is a joke, honest answers please:
Ok I have been living with my gf for about two years now and we are a very open couple. A few days ago she and her sister sat me down and asked me to have sex with her sister... i know that most people wont believe this but its true.... i love her sister very much and i understand her reasons ( she wants to have sex, but feels that a random guy will make her feel unpure - she is very spritual) . they haven't done this before but they beg me 2 understand them and help them .... should i feel wierd... has anyone done anything similar or would you do such a thing...serious answers please ... i am really unsure of what to do..?
2007-10-29 16:05:55 · 98 answers · asked by Adrian D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO IT!!! And try to get your girl in on it!!!
2007-11-01 08:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Al 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have to revise my answer in view of some of the other people's comments here. My comments were based on the presumption that you were telling the truth and that your girlfriend meant what she said. Apparently it is extremely common for a woman to say one thing (like being cool with it) but then decide she didn't mean it (and breaking up the relationship because of that.)
Now, taking the above qualification to heart, the following (my original answer) is presumed on her being true to her word and not becoming upset for you doing something that she said she was okay with.
If you are telling the truth, since your girlfriend is cool with it, and the lady you're thinking of boinking has no problems, then if you want to do her, just make sure either she's using proper contraception or use a condom.
There is only a problem with seeing more than one woman at a time if either you're sneaking around behind her back or otherwise hurting someone. Since there's no deception or cheating here, I don't see why you think there's a problem.
2007-11-01 03:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Paul R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm seeing a lot of negative responses, interspersed with a sprinkling of hornodoggery.
Frankly, I think that this is a risky situation, but there's no guarantee it will turn out badly. My recommendation would be to spend some more time talking with them about why they want this and how it will affect all three relationships. Find out if this is going to be a one-time thing, or if she's looking for an ongoing "friends with benefits" situation, and how you feel about the answer.
If, after extended discussion you are convinced no one will suffer for this, then I'd say go ahead. Do your best to make her enjoy it. They say you can't have your cake and eat it too, but love isn't cake.
Good luck!
PS: The comment someone posted about non-traditional relationships not working is a crock. I know several people in non-monogamous or non-dyadic relationships of very long standing. When you consider the average American marriage lasts seven years, and 50% of American marriages end in divorce, maybe it's about time we took a better look at other models of relationsihp.
2007-10-29 17:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by septegram 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can sex with a random guy make her feel unpure, but sex with her sister's boyfriend is not unpure??
You asked for opinions... so here it is. If your gf's sister is that pure and spiritual why not WAIT until a wonderful man comes along that can give her what she's looking for? If she's that "spiritual" she should be able to wait and not throw herself on the mercy of her sister's boyfriend. That's just as bad as picking some "random" guy.
Would you want your gf to do your brother, uncle, or father a "favor" ? Think about what you're asking.
Good luck.
2007-10-29 16:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!? No no, not even if your girlfriend asked you no offence but what is wrong with her? Why would she put you in such a position. Her sister needs to find her OWN boyfriend and get to know him take her time and when she feels the time is right do it with him. You are basically some object that she is lending to her sister. Unless your comfortable with sleeping with her sister than sleeping with her than go for it. But honestly if your girlfriend valued the relationship she would not ask you to do that. She may be OK with it now but later on i think she may regret her decision and that could form some big problems. If your not comfortable with it tell her if she truly cares about you she should understand.
2007-10-29 16:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Passions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, why not? Seriously. This is truly a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. And try to get them both at the same time if you can. Just say you'll be too nervous and want your gf there too to help her along and show her some things. And if her mom is into it too...Wow, hot threesome!
Look, Your gf and her family are totally strange and you should run away as fast as you can from her, but yes, absolutely do the sister first. Might as well have some fun before it's over!
2007-10-30 02:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Frinn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...it will just ruin your relationship with your gf. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will catch up to you eventually. It may be 10 years from now and you two may be married, in the middle of a fight and this will come up and its a guarantee she will throw it in your face. Plus, how awkward will it be to see her sister after sleeping with her. (And the part I don't understand, if she is so spiritual, why would she be an adulterer and sleep 1 out of wedlock 2 with her sisters lover? I get extremely lost there!!) Hope this helps!
2007-10-29 16:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just one answer, but I'll give u the a-ok. That is, unless your sweetheart is testing you. I don't think your girlfriend is a dummy; she should know about a man's thrill of sleeping w/ more then one woman, the whole conquests & such. If u do care for your honey & her sister, I guess you're ethics will win out over sexual accomplishments 2 brag about w/ your friends.
2007-10-29 16:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by The Glorious S.O.B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're very open...however, I would caution you to think twice about this. Sex is very emotional and her first time even more so. If you end up together with your gf for the rest of your life, her sister will be your family...and you don't want any awkwardness creeping in later.
It might be cruel now, but saying no is probably the more loving option.
Maybe you could introduce her to one of your single friends instead?
2007-10-29 16:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No! Trying to love two women is like a ball and chain. This would cause a whole lot of drama in your life. Unless you 3 do it together but even then your relationship with your girlfriend will never be the same.
2007-10-29 16:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by markymark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry!!!!! This is too much for me. I might end up being too judgmental and say the wrong thing.
I wouldn't but of course.... If my man's brother and he sat down with me and asked me to have sex any type of sex..... I would walk away from the relationship. I mean it might be fine for some. I just don't roll like that. Search yourself. I love my guy's family too, but not in a way that I want to share that type of connection/intimacy.
2007-10-29 16:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋