As usually i've gotten myself into a situation i'm not really sure how to get out of. and I have to come up with an answer by wednesday. I've been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks and Saturday he started telling me that he loved me and he wanted to get married and I thought he was just playin around but he was serious. He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I was speechless I didn't no what to say and I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I said ok. And thats when I made a huge mistake. I'm not ready to get married and I don't want to marry him. I don't even want a relationship with him. The next time I see him will be wednesday and I don't no what to say, i'm afraid of his reaction. He's someone I no not too make upset. the last 2 times i was with him he started acting different. I made a mistake and I can't go back. I thought about just not showing up too meet him, and just avoid him. What do I do?
2007-10-29 16:00:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you talk to him by email, just send him mail telling him that you can't marry him, then just don't show up but try not to be by yourself too much for a while in case he decides he doesn't want that answer. try to avoid him but if he becomes a nuisance, file a police report and perhaps even get a restraining order.
I suspect that you may need to build up your confidence though because if you stuck by this guy when he was upset the last two times you talked, that is a bad sign. Make a lot of new friends and don't worry about any one guy until you build up your self esteem and confidence.
2007-10-29 16:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't avoid him, that will just make things worse. Meeet him somewhere neutral and just be honest. If you're somewhere neutral where if he gets mad/crazy you'll be protected from harm. If you still like him, tell him so- just tell him you don't know him well enough and are not ready to commit like that. If you don't like him make sure you look a mess and don't brush your teeth til Wednesday. Either way, tell the truth. Good luck.
2007-10-29 23:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldn't avoid him. just confront him about the situation, and tell him u aren't ready to get married and that u don't think he is the right guy anyway. if he is a decent guy he should understand
2007-10-29 23:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋