I'm grounded right now and I'm also not allowed to see my boyfriend anymore even if I'm not grounded. I never see him unless we are at school and then we can't get a moment alone. Tomorrow night I'm babysitting for the neighbor's kids and I was thinking once they go to bed at nine I can call him over and we can spend quality time together. We desperately need time alone together since it's so hard for us to get it right now and this seems like the perfect oppurnity plus there is no way anyone can find out about it. But I'm a little scared to do it, should I?
2007-10-29 15:36:39 · 86 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You stated "We desperately need time alone together", OK if you are babysitting then you are not alone! You need to keep an eye on those kids. don't you listen to the news or read the paper? Kids are getting snatched right out of there beds! Are you really responsible enough to be babysitting? You never assume just cause they are in bed that the evening is over and they will be safe........ You should be scared to invite a boy over under those circumstances. Only no good will come from it. Your neighbors & parents will never trust you again if one little thing goes wrong and they find out. Can't you just talk to him on the phone, that way you can still hang around the the kids room and check every little bit! That would be way more responsible. There is a time and place for everything and this is not the time to worry about boys..........
2007-10-29 15:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're scared says it all. Knowing you are not allowed to see your boyfriend, if you do this against your parents wishes, this will be a major breaking of their trust in you.
I assume you were grounded for a good reason? Unless your parents are very unreasonable.
Also, when babysitting the children are your priority and should get your FULL attention. To have your boyfriend there would only be a distraction, and this is when accidents happen.
For now, my advice is to accept your parents decision and know you will see your boyfriend soon enough. The sky won't fall in if you don't see each for a little while :)
2007-10-29 15:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by MAGICKSTER 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you expect to never get another babysitting job! Because yes, you could do that if you got the permission from the parents of the kids you were babysitting for. But if your parents find out, and I'm sure they will, then you p"off the people that you duped into allowing your boyfriend there against your parents wishes. So you end up with your parents psissed at them, pissed at you. And the people you were babysitting for psissed at you to and will lose any hope of babysitting elsewhere. Lastly, if you are that immature that you need to be sneaking around to see your boyfriend, you have no business babysitting anybody's kids and putting them in jeopardy. I'm surprised your parents would even let you babysit if you're grounded. And as a parent, if I knew that, I sure as sthit wouldn't let you be responsble for watching my babies!
2007-10-29 15:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by mhiaa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It would NOT be a good idea. 1) You're grounded now, think of how long you will be grounded for when your parents find out you had Romeo over while you were babysitting. And they WILL find out about it. I guarantee. If you were that sneaky, you wouldn't be grounded in the first place. 2) You have been hired by a family to watch over their children. That is your number one responsibility. And by inviting a stranger into their home...he's a stranger to them, and an adolescent male, at that...you have just broken the trust of the parents who have placed their trust in you personally, to stand over guard of their most valuable possessions...their children...and home. And you are breaking that trust by inviting him over without letting them know.
In your heart, you already know it is wrong, or you would not be on Yahoo asking. Just don't do it and save face with everyone involved. You won't be grounded forever.
2007-10-29 15:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No.
I am a parent and if I had someone babysitting my children and they invited someone into MY home without my permission I would blow a gasket. You will ruin the trust between yourself and the family.
Clearly you've been grounded for a reason. Regardless if your parents are right or wrong, it's not your place to invite your boyfriend into the home of the children that you're being PAID to watch.
And just because YOU think there's no way anyone can find out, trust that someone WILL - and then how stupid will you feel when you get busted?
Don't do it.
2007-10-29 15:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by sxctighteyedtam 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No! Your life will go so much better for you if you will honor your parents, obey their rules for you. Plus, you are babysitting, not having free time. I have never heard of a situation like yours turning out good. You WILL get caught, you'll make your parents mad or the parents of the kids you're sitting for.
Maybe you should just take the consequences for whatever it was you did to get grounded. There's a reason most likely, and a lesson that you need to learn. If you refuse to learn the lesson today, it will come around again, most likely worse the next time until you learn it. It's not my advise, that's a law of the universe, God's law.
2007-10-29 15:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your a teen, I am too. There is a reason you can't see him, even though it may not be fair you should probably take the mature road. Trust me it will pay off even if you may not see it because you want to be with him so badly. I was in a similar situation and I just listened and explained my point of view. No, they didn't care, let alone understand, but I waited patiently and obeyed there rules and now I can date him.
I wouldn't encourage you to invite him over. When you disobey your parents something always go wrong even if not directly. Consider the consequences if you're really willing to risk ALL of them.
The Supreme Being is always watching and taking notes.
2007-10-29 15:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see it as a good idea, because your're main focus is on babysitting the kids. If your're off doing something with your boyfriend while watching the kids, that might be dangerous, especially if the kids are young.
What if little Bobby was choking on an apple and you were busy with your boyfriend?
Then again, if your boyfriend really loves you, he'll understand
that you and him can spend quality time together later.
Trust me--there's always time where you can volunteer,
I just don't think babysitting the kids with your boyfriend over is a really good idea.
Good luck!
2007-10-29 15:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're scared then you shouldn't do it. Not to mention that you seem to be in trouble in just about every major area of your life right now. Why risk extend that to your babysitting gig as well? It might not be good if you get caught. That would eliminate one more thing in your life and judging from what you said about being grounded you don't want to mess up the babysitting gig. It's not a good idea. You need to wait this one out and when the next best opportunity presents itself, go for that, not this time.
2007-10-29 15:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let's see. You would not only be violating your parent's punishment about not letting you see your boyfriend, it would also violate the trust of the people who are asking you to watch their kids.
If you're the completely selfish, immature, "screw everyone else, the only thing that matters is ME ME ME" kind of person, then sure, you should invite him over.
Of course, that's probably what got you grounded in the first place, and banned from seeing your boyfriend. Go figure.
You're supposed to be there to WATCH THE KIDS, not "spend some quality time" with your boyfriend.
2007-10-29 15:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋