I'm scared to come home..?

Question

Well my mom was off her meds for the weekend so today I was with her..she called me a heffer and was like "you think you're so perfect, don't you? you think you're all that, don't you?" You know, something an enemy would say..my friends wouldn't even say that when they're mad at me..
It's just now i'm afraid to come home cause i'm afraid she'll hurt my feelins again. I already have a tough time at school.
Advice please..?
Thanks..

Answer 1

Big hug for you, sweet baby girl. I'm so sorry. But you belong home, just go to the sanctuary of your room. Try to kindly ignore her. Talk to your school counselor, someone's gotta help you.

And for the record, you ARE all that. Take all the compliments you get from everyone else and hang on to them. Because you are a unique, bright and wonderful girl. Don't ever let your mom take that away from you.

Best of luck. I have two teenage girls and my heart goes out to you bigtime.

Answer 2

If the only thing you're afraid of is that she'll hurt your feelings and you're not concerned about the possibility of physical attack, you have plenty of control over that situation. She can't hurt your feelings without your permission. She can say all the nasty things she can come up with but they can't hurt you if you don't let them.

Recognize the things she's saying are because she's off her meds. She probably has a lot of anger built up inside her from her past going back to childhood. When she says things like "you think you're so perfect" what she's really saying is that she has no pride in herself and feels like she's less than other people. She's living in fear and her words are her only way of expressing that fear. She doesn't know any better.

You have the option of letting her words roll off you and recognizing that they aren't about you. They're about her and her feelings of inadequacy. You don't have to allow another person to dictate your feelings. You are the only one who can decide how you'll feel. That is a choice you get to make.

Answer 3

I would at least let her know your OK. and that things need to be resolved between the two of you to have a good loving relationship she may need to have her meds checked and it may not quite be her fault try to know more about the meds and the effects and on her condition as well then maybe you would have insight to a reason i am sure that hurt alot and it eats at you try to get a better understanding it may not have been her intentions at all. If it was deliberate then tell her that was wrong and how you feel.go home and take things slow and talk if things get ruff go to a friends.

Answer 4

Then don't go home for the night or so. Call a friend or a family member, and explain the situation. Ask them if you can spend the night, and then call your mom (or another member of the family, if there is one at home) and tell them where you'll be.

Eventually you will have to go home. Just remember that if your mom is off of her medication, then she probably is not speaking as herself but rather as someone who needs to be back on whatever she is taking. I hate to say that she is speaking as someone who is sick, but this is pretty much the truth of it. Toughen up and remember that her words are only words and can't actually hurt you.

However, if things become actually violent, please - do not wait for them to get worse. Leave the house and talk to a teacher, another family member, a friend's parent, a member of the clergy, or even call the police if it comes to that. Do not put yourself in a situation where you will be at risk of bodily harm.

Good luck and be strong!

Answer 5

I am assuming that when you say your mom is off her meds, she is on some kind of antidepressant or something? Perhaps she can't help what she is saying due to a mental condition. You could either go home, lock yourself in your room and ignore her or perhaps you can stay at a friends place. I don't understand why she would be off meds for the weekend, usually medication for mental problems is something you have to stay on continuously.

Answer 6

Hurt feelings? That's what you're afraid of? If you understand that your mother is on mood altering medication and you know that she hasn't been on them, why are you bothered by her words? THEY ARE ONLY WORDS.

Now, if she was talking about harming you physically, yes - be afraid to go home. But if it's WORDS you're worried about, you're scared of the wrong thing.

Suck it up...someone has to be the grownup. Sounds like now is your time. Get her back on those meds.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but my grandmother is mentally ill and I've seen and heard it all. Try waking up to someone staring you in the face (about an inch from your nose) at 3 in the morning. Try having someone threatening to poison your food...THAT'S when you need to worry and be afraid.

Look for a support group in your neighborhood for families of mentally ill people...or whatever your mother's illness is that requires meds.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Good grief! We have the same Mom....mine just doesn't take any meds because she thinks she's perfect.
I don't know where you live or what other family support you have as far as getting to school if you don't go home. If you have no other family is there a teacher you can confide in or a school counselor??? You need some kind of stable environment to be in.
Please email me if you need to.

Answer 8

Where is your dad in all of this?
Can you locate the phone number for your mom's doctor and call him for assistance?
Is there a relative nearby you can stay with or at least talk to in hopes of getting them to do an intervention?
Can you talk to a school counselor or school nurse about this? They do have ways of tapping into the system for help.

It really sounds like your mom needs help.
Please put your own hurt aside and understand that your mom just isn't right and needs professional help.

Answer 9

Do you have a friends house you could stay at for tonight? Tomorrow you should go and talk to your counselor about how your mom isn't taking her medications and how she says things that really hurt you. Depending on what she says and how it effects you it might even be emotional abuse. But, if you are really that worried I'd just stay at a friends or relatives tonight.

Answer 10

you need to sit down and talk to her one day when she is taking her meds.and tell her she hurts your feelings.she may not realize she's doing it.tell her you don't want to be scared to come home.