how to mend a broken heart?

Question

ever since me and my bf broke up, i've been a mess.. i love him so much and i thought what we had was really great. now everything's starting to crash down on me. he hasn't called me, when i try to call him, he gives me a one answer and i feel like he doesn't really want to talk to me. my studies has been suffering, i'm in a nursing school and i'm almost 8months away from something i really worked hard for. and now i couldn't concentrate. i feel like i don't have the will to go on. do you think a depression pill would help me ease the pain and get on with my life?

Answer 1

For the main question, I agree with one of the responders above me....definately CHOCOLATE!!! that mends a broken heart.

On a serious note. Pull yourself together because the rest of your life revolves around YOU and your ability to care for yourself. Your nursing will bring so many positive moments you will wonder why you got wrapped up in this looser of a guy.

Call a friend, get a dog, go for a massage, and if need be, do talk to your doctor about something to ease your pain until you can deal with it. (a pill or something). If this feeling you have has gone on for weeks or months, definately talk to a doctor, if your break up was very recent, try getting involved with other things or friends, and GO TREAT YOURSELF to something nice.

Meanwhile, do not call him if it reinforces your depression. The mere fact that you DONT CALL may make him wake up and realize he is missing out on a very special person.

If HE CALLS YOU, tell him you are busy getting studies done, can you call him later in the week. Put him off a bit and make school your priority ---because the truth in life is that you will be there for you ten years from now if you finish. HE may not be.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You have to let him go, hard as it may be, calling him just makes things worth and makes him notice that he has the upper-hand. The thing to do is to realize who you are as a person, maybe do some things you used to like to do before you started dating this guy, or go out with some girlfriends without talking about the break-up, take up a new hobby, for some people writing thoughts down helps...you have worked hard in nursing school and memories of him shouldn't keep you from reaching your goal, I don't think you need depression pills I think you need to accept that it is over and move on, I don't mean to be cruel but take a few days or a weekend to really cry your heart out about what happened and try and put it behind you, you can do it

Answer 4

Since you are a student nurse, I am sure you have studied pharmacology,and as such, you must know how potent depression medication can be.My heart goes out to you but that is not a good enough reason to take pills.While I am sure your heart is aching and you have a lot of pain, there is nothing you can do if your partner elects to end the romance with you. You can not force them to stay or to love you.Though you did not mention the reason for the breakup, or how long you've been dating,I will suggest you move on before you begin to lose your sanity, control,self-respect, and self- love. Concentrate on your nursing studies and finish in 8 months.Let that be your revenge. Then find a new guy worthy of you and all you have to offer---your qualities.Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 5

No pill can help you; it will even worsen your condition. You alone can help yourself. How? By learning. Because you had not learnt anything, the guy took you for a ride and you never had a hint of it until it hit you real bad. There's no way he could have reached this point without showing you the red light earlier on. But you were unable to catch the clue. You were blinded by one-sided love. That's why you must now help yourself, by growing up, learning from experience, not bemoaning your experience. Forget about what happened. Past is just that - gone. Face future. In real sense, decide today to get yourself a guy who will deserve you; one who will love you back and value your precious emotions for him. Guys like this are everywhere; can you take the initiative? I dare you to do. That's the real road to your happiness. It's amazing how you remain nostalgic for a guy who took you for a ride, had the best of you and dumped you. You should know enough to show him that there are more decent guys, guys who take and give, not just take and dump when they have their fill. Go after such guys and soon you will be glad you did.

Answer 6

The Bee Gees have a song on this very subject

Concentrate on your Nursing School, this should be your top priority right now.

Please do not drown yourself in drugs and Alcohol, this is not the answer. This sounds as if this might be your first serious love. I know you will rebound, you will find a much better man than the one who left you.

Concentrate on your Nursing School. Make this your A+++ Number One Priority.

When you complete Nursing School, and land your gig in an ER, you will find a Super Hot Hunk of a Doctor who will be 1,000,000 Times better than the man who left you.

Answer 7

I don't think depression pills are the way to go. Just try and get over him. It's okay to be sad for a little bit, but you'll have to move on eventually. If you can do that you'll someday be able to meet the person you were really meant to be with and you can use what you've learned from being in a relation ship before to help you. By then it won't be so painful anymore.

Answer 8

Nooo don't take pills!! The same thing happend to me.... it feels like you can't live w/o him and everthing you do reminds you of him....you can't eat....you can't sleep.....I lost 13lbs in 2weeks. All I could do was cry and think about him, how he hurt me. Don't call him anymore, it makes the pain worse, try your hardest to avoid him, pray and listen to good music. I drank, do it every now and then to clear your mind. Cry one good time, let it all out, write a letter if you need to. Erase his number from your phone (although you probly know it by memory) you won't have to see the name. I even have a new bf now and he treats me like a queen, but I still CONSTANTLY think about the X! Get a hobbie, do a project, he's going through his life fine, YOu have to pick up the pieces, remember the good time, and move ahead. However happy you think he made you, someone else will make you 10x's happier!

Answer 9

Listen, everyone at one time or another goes through a break up. I went through a bad break up. I was engaged, and this guy broke up with me because I talked one time to an ex-boyfriend who was wanting me to keep him from committing suicide. He said he knew I wanted to be with that guy the whole time, and he just needed the proof. I think he just wanted an excuse because he felt too tied down after he proposed. Anyway, I lost my job because I wasn't performing up to snuff. That was my wake up call. The next day, I went back and told them I wouldn't let anything come between my work and me again. You just need to get into your mind what you want more. Do you want to wallow in self-pity, or do you want to be a nurse who helps people when they need it the most? I was lucky. My boss was too lazy to complete the paperwork in one day. You can be lucky, too. You just need to surround yourself with people and things you love. The problem with pills is they have negative side effects. They may make you worse than you are right now. You just need to take a deep breath and tell yourself that no person is worth losing all of this. Believe me, it's not as easy as it sounds. I let my work help me through the pain. Let your studies distract you. Let friends distract you. Go out and have fun. Try to make sure you don't have much down time until you know you are okay. I hope this helps. Also, I know you don't know me, but if you need to talk to someone, you can IM or email me. I know you're bad off, but I think with a good support system, you can get through this. You can graduate and move on to bigger, better things. You just need to try to stop thinking about this person. I promise life will go on without this person, and you will be better off without this person.

Answer 10

Breakups are hard, but you will get through this! The best advice I can give you is to erase everything in your life that reminds you of him: delete his number and picture from your cell, throw away any pics you have of him, etc etc Make sure there is nothing around you that reminds you of him.

Every day will get easier, but you have to give it time. Also, focus on doing things that you love and that make you happy! These will serve to motivate you in school and alleviate some of the pain.

Hope this helps! We've all been there, and we'll all come out on the other side :-)