how should i tell her i doesn't like her?

Question

ok so i'm asking this question for my guy friend so "this girl thinks i like her, and i guess thats my fault cause i led her on and i like someone else and she likes me too but i don't know how to tell the other girl i don't like her cause shes a SUPER good friend of mine and i'm a nice guy and i really don't want to hurt her but i don't knwo what to do at all" "like she thinks i like her cause i really made it seem like i did, and now she wants to go out and **** but i really dont want to.."

and she knows him REALLY well and would never go for like some fake le or somethin. so answer fast please!!!

Answer 1

If she is your friend tell her the truth. She will understand. She may be hurt at first but she will get over it.

Answer 2

Well if he knows her really well and she's a super good friend, then he should tell her the honest truth and she will appreciate him more. There's no one sentence simple thing to say. She will analyze it no matter what to see if she possibly did something wrong so you need to be as sentimental and detailed as you can to assure her that you still like her as a person. He should say "look, I honestly care about you a lot I think you're a great person and really good friend of mine and I don't want to ruin that.I just can't picture us as anything other than great friends right now and I'm sorry if I led you to believe I want something different. I still think we get along great and if you want to hang out sometime after school we should but I just cannot picture us in a relationship together."
That should do it. and if he has respect for this girl he should wait a week or two before hooking up with that other girl. That way she feels less rejected for another girl and more appreciative of the fact that you still want her as a friend,
Good luck! I hope I helped. Remember: be truthful, girls like that the most..not matter how much they get hurt and complain about it...they appreciate it in the end...wouldn't you want the same??

Answer 3

Your guy friend is yourself for the present.
you have two girls Angel and Diamond.

You have given yourself a picture that you really liked Angel, and she is a SUPER GOOD FRIEND. you say you are a nice guy. This friend Angel does not go for some fake and really loves you.
The objection for you now to confirm love with Angel is that You like some one else i.e. the DIAMOND.

You have not tried to choose between Angel and Diamond, because you said some merits of Angel, but did not speak anything about Diamond, so we the browsers here have no idea as who will be your possible good friend.

Taking for granted that You want to be with Diamond only, you need to cut off the ties with Angel, with out hurting her.

The girl Angel appears to be a good girl, and did not say a word with you so far.

Now meet Angel and ask her, what she is expecting from you.

You just inform that in spite of liking her very much, there was no desire within yourself to go along with Angel, and in such a case, the affair may suffer in future.

Also tell her, that there was one girl Diamond, well known in your family to whom you are already tied up. You make her understand that you do not want tis affair with two girls simultaneously. So tell her that your being with Diamond is a must and hence, you wanted to quit intimate friendship with Angel.

I hope you will do all this only after making a certain decision that Diamond would be better than Angel. First you decide on this. Don't mix up things. Be a man with courage and brains to see what is right and what to do.

Answer 4

Sometimes we guys we are very presumptive, we always think that the closeness that the girl is showing to us is already a preparatory to romantic feeling towards us. But base on my observation many guys were wrong about their presumption.

My advice to you my friend if you value your good friendship with her not as someone you love as a girlfriend, I would say, please continue to be close with her. Then if there are some time where you could have some serious talk, maybe that would be the right time that should clear once and for all about what you think.

Never be shrewed by telling her pointblank that you don't like her to be your girl. Just explain to her everything the things that does not goes compatible to both of you to have a romantic relationship, but please do it in very polite and expressing it with full humility. Tell her that we will just wait for the right time, maybe if you really meant for each other, history will tell.

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 5

Even the most rude and unconscionable person will have a tough time telling someone that they're not "liked in that way". What's worse than telling someone this? Not telling them, and leading them on to believe otherwise. I know how difficult it is to tell someone that you don't feel the same way that they feel for you but unfortunately, it has to be done. And it has to be done by you, not your friend, the other person's friend or whatever. You have to be your own messenger.

I wish I could tell you that it's an easy task but, it's not. This is one of life's pleasantries. In the end though, both of you will benefit. She/he will benefit in that eventually they'll understand that there are honest and sincere people in the world even if, it didn't "go they're way". And you, once the dust has settled will at least know that you did the right thing, painful or not.

In the end, you both win.

Answer 6

Mention the other girl (the one that you like) to the girl who is JUST your friend. Say a lot of nice things about the other girl, and be very clear that you are interested in the OTHER girl, and then say:"I'm glad that I have a friend like you that I can tell this to". The girl will get the message, without your having to have you say: "I don't want to go out with you."

How do I know? Because I was the girl my guy friend only wanted as a "friend". I got the message real good....and didn't fault him for it. Can't help your real feelings, and you don't have to be cruel.

Answer 7

Your friend should think about telling her the timing is wrong. No ones fault, they are a great person but have other obligations or things going on right now. Timing is everything, perhaps in the future. They may want to then. Hopefully she will take the earlier behavior as harmless flirting and not be hurt. It does sound like he may flirt a lot.

Answer 8

The question is a little confusing but the answer is simple. Tell her, tell her you like her as a friend, you are sorry you led her on but that you are not interested in her that way. Let her know who you are interested in, do not make excuses, at this point it is moot anyway. Let her know that she is terriffic and that there s someone out there for her but it is just not you. Be prepared to loose a friend if she is immature and a friend for life if she is not. A mature person would appreciate you not wasting her time on waiting around for you. Good luck and be kind but firm.

Answer 9

Just stop with the sweet talk. In the middle of a conversation (when it is appropriate) just tell her you are so happy to have such a super great friend. OR, say something like thanks for being such a super great friend. I'm so lucky! If she says she thought you were more than great friends, tell her you are sorry if you mislead her and that you wouldn't want to do anything to spoil your friendship. That not every guy is so lucky to have such a true friend of the opposite sex. That girlfriends come and go but good friends are for life. P.S. I hope the girl that wrote this for you isn't after you and pushing you away from your friend!

Answer 10

First of all, let your friend know that he got his dumb *** in this **** by leading her on, and if she's upset, she has all the right and he should not expect her to just let this go, i.e. if he loses his friend, don't be surprised. Now, what he needs to do is find her and talk to her privately, don't do it at night or during school, but after school or on the weekend (preferably a Sunday, don't ruin this girl's weekend) and he needs to be honest, something like this: "Okay, (insert girl's name here), I know we've been vibing lately and you think we might be moving on to the next stage in our relationship; but the truth is I don't feel that way. I'm really sorry I've let it get this far, and I understand if you will need your space for awhile. Please forgive me and I hope this doesn't end our friendship"

But I can't guarantee she will go for this, he needs to sound sincere, and for heaven's sake, please don't go and hook up with the other guy immediately after breaking this girl's heart; that's just adding fuel to the fire.

Hope that helps.

Answer 11

If this girl is a good friend and you want to keep her that way, you need to come clean and let her know that you made a big mistake.

Just apologize profusely and say that you were a big jerk to lead her on, but that you don't want to lose her friendship by dating her.

Let her know that her friendship is more important to you, and by dating her you are in big danger of losing her friendship. As you know, dating someone completely changes the relationship and you can never easily go back to the way you were.

Good luck with that!