Mainly mothers, fathers too can answer.
Im not a parent myself, far from one. But would you allow your 16 yr old daughter to talk on the phone with her best guy friend 1 am and like 3 am. for hours at a time? And she gets good grades, isnt bad, nothing to worry about. But would you approve of that, and your not paying for the hours talked because free minutes, but the phone bill you are.
2007-10-29 14:59:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
its a cellphone btw.
2007-10-29 15:13:41 · update #1
It honestly depends. Do they have an obligation the next day (school/work/family activity)? Has she been responsible about everything else in her life? If she didn't have anything going the next day, and was a very responsible person in general, then to me it would be up to the boy's parents. I would call them and talk to them myself and let them know that I don't have a problem with it, but that I will enforce rules that also meet the needs of their son/family.
IF all of her responsibilities were taken care of, she didn't have something to do the next day, she had the free time, the minutes were unlimited, and the boy's parents didn't mind then I'd be fine with it. But I also believe that once a child turns 16 it is time for parents to take a step back and let them make most of their decisions for themselves (within the boundaries the parents have put into place) and that's not exactly a popular belief.
2007-10-29 15:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you're asking is should your parent object to your talking on the phone at all hours of the night, and would I, as a parent do the same? The answer is yes, simply because as a growing teen, you need your rest. There's plenty of time to talk on the phone at other hours during the day or early evening. And I definitely would object if your phone conversations interfered with your studies and homework. I think you should limit your calls also, out of consideration to the rest of the family, who may also wish to use the phone.
2007-10-29 15:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I would not allow my 16 year old daughter OR son to talk on the phone to anyone between the hours of 1 and 3am. That's ridiculas. She needs to respect others in the household and go to bed at the time the rest of the house shuts down. The reason? So that she will be rested and ready to be part of the family the next day. Parents need to teach their kids appropriate behavior, and it's certainly not appropriate to talk on the phone at that time of the morning. It's rude, and inconsiderate to the household on the other end of the phone, and doesn't teach your teen that she's a vital and important part of your family, and you want her to be present with you, not half asleep when it's family time. And it's always family time whenever family is together. She has enough time to talk to her friends when she's at school, or after school. All to many families don't make their kids feel like they are an important part of the family, and when the child is missing from the family (for whatever reason) there's a part of the family that's missing until that child is present. If she's on the phone all night she's gonna be asleep the next day. Count on it.
2007-10-29 15:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Geri42 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As for the age thing, she is young and you do not want her going downhill. You should set up time limits. If your free minutes start at 9:00 allow her one or two hours of talking then she must go to bed. Only then if she disobeys should she be disciplined. If she keeps up her grades and is responsible I see no problem. It all has to do with your comfort zone.
2007-10-29 15:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by yourbigsis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nobody can hear the talking keeping them up and it's okay at the other end of the household then yeah I think it's okay. But I would suggest it be done at a different time. And I don't think it's appropriate during the week in school term (and if it is they can't complain about being tired or grumpy or anything).
2007-10-29 19:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel if they are keeping there grades and doing what they are suppose to what does it hurt. I am a mother and even my 6 year old chats with her girlfriends for 2-3 hours. They are just having fun, and it won't last forever.
2007-10-29 15:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would set a curfew for talking on the phone or else they lose the privilege if they break it. true, she gets good grades but she's only 16, there's still a great possibility that she will go downhill.
2007-10-29 15:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Undergrad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not allow that. Nobody needs to be on the phone until 3:00 a.m., especially a child.
2007-10-29 15:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is getting god grade then I guess its her call. She is 16. If it were someone younger, say 12 or 13 then no, but 16 is almost an adult and can stand trial as an adult, so I guess talking on the phone is not an issue really unless its distrubing to her parents.
2007-10-29 15:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by luv_duvs_girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a parent and I know my kids have done and are doing that.
As long as they get up for school, keep their grades up and stay out of trouble, it's not a problem.
When they have trouble with any of the above, I reserve the right to complain.
They're cool with that, and so am I.
2007-10-29 15:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by cygnetmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋