I just came back from my BIL's house. He had my 3 kids, his mom, live in girlfriend, his son and me to his apartment for my daughter's birthday because he couldn't make her party which was yesterday.
He had a pizza and an ice cream birthday cake. I knew he was getting the cake.
I baked them an apple pie and brought it with me (thinking how good it was going to taste with the ice cream!)
When it came time for cake the ice cream cake went out and the pie stayed on the counter.
Was this just rude on their part, or was it rude on my part to bring a second dessert?
2007-10-29 14:46:09 · 13 answers · asked by Marge Simpson 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Probably just forgot or wanted to keep it for themselves
2007-10-29 14:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might assume the host/hostess might decrease up/placed a serving spoon interior the dessert, as she's the only, y'be conscious of, internet hosting. It makes it look like your dessert is a few upload-on, which detracts from the festive, beneficiant nature of a present day. i'm undecided what the reason at the back of having you play hostess for dessert is. that is weird and wonderful. Take the pie interior the kitchen, or anyplace the nutrition is coming from, decrease it up, and have it waiting for dessert if she won't decrease it. Who brings out an uncut pie and has the pie donor serve it? i stumble on this ordinary because of fact i've got by no potential encountered it. You deliver it, she serves it.
2016-10-14 08:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you was rude. Unless the meal is a potluck, a host or hostess is not required to serve anything that a guest brings. It wasn't rude of you to gift them with a pie, but since you knew he was already getting the cake, it may have been a little unnecessary to bring a second desert. If you really wanted to have some of the pie, it might have been better to keep it home and purchase your own ice cream to have with it.
2007-10-29 15:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by ljh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You brought a gift of an apple pie. It was up your BIL if they wanted to serve it or not. They obviously thought the ice cream cake was enough. You weren't rude to bring it and they weren't rude not to serve it.
2007-10-29 15:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless a host has specifically asked you to bring something to be eaten at the party (like a potluck), then you shouldn't expect gifts of food, wine, or other edibles to be incorporated into the menu. It would have been better if your host had put your gift out of sight, but a freshly baked pie is more challenging to "stash" than a bottle of wine or box of chocolates.
2007-10-29 15:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, neither of you were rude. It was a thoughtful gesture on your part. He probably thought his ice cream cake was sufficient, and would keep the apple pie for another time. You bought it as a host/ess gift, and, as the recipient, it's up to him what he does with it. if you'd meant it for the meal, you should ahve said something like "I bought this to go with the ice cream" as you were handing it over.
2007-10-29 14:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by concerned neighbor 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you bring a dessert and the host already has one that he was prepared to serve, then it is up to him if he chooses to serve it then or to wait until later. Some people would be offended if you did serve it at that time and others would be offended if you didn't. Either way; the choice is the host's since he was the party planner and the gift was given to him. If you felt you wanted it served then, you could have suggested it to him and he probably would have served it. He may not have known what was the proper way to handle it.
2007-10-29 14:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you was rude. When you bring a gift of food the
host/hostess has no obligation to serve it, but can keep it for the next day.
2007-10-29 16:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you bring something it is a gift. It does not mean it needs to be served with the meal. (Unless it is a potluck) Considering they were having a dessert already it is presumptious on your part to think they would serve what you brought.
2007-10-29 14:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by hoppykit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never, never, never, bring food to the hosts house, unless it is especially requested, here in France the only thing you bring is yourself, the hostess would be appalled, for you are insinuating that she is incapable of providing for you, or is it an American custom?
2007-10-30 00:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lord Percy Fawcette-Smythe. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone was rude in this case. You were thoughtful to bring something for the event. He probably was overwhelmed with all the activity and forgot about it. I hope he enjoys it this week.
2007-10-29 15:04:56 · answer #11 · answered by moonstonesyipyap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋