Ok, here's the situation. My middle school and high school are one big building (as weird as it sounds). I've known the same people in school for almost 5 years now (I'm in 10th grade). There's this one girl I like, but I don't know anything about her. I see her everyday, but in those 5 years I have probably said at most 5 words to her. I've been reading other posts on this topic and everyone just says go up to the girl you like and start talking.
But I was thinking, wouldn't it be weird if I all of a sudden just talked to her after not ever saying anything to her? How should I go about this without embarrassing myself and having her tell her friends and have everyone talk about my mess up? I really need help with this situation. Thanks.
2007-10-29 14:29:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The worst mess up you can make is inaction. Just be confident, stand up straight, look her in the eyes, talk slowly and confidently. Imagine to yourself that she's just one of your buddies - you don't care what they think, you can just speak your mind to them. It will only be weird if you're not calm and confident about it. Here are some other tips-
* Humor goes a long way, but if you're not typically a funny guy, don't try to open with a joke.
* Tease her about something playfully.
* The easiest thing to talk to her about is something school related. Do you have any classes with her (i.e. "Hey, so how'd you do on the
Don't think this is a life/death situation, you have your whole life ahead of you, but if you start approaching women now, it will be SO much easier for you where it matters more (i.e. college ;)).
2007-10-29 14:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's only weird if you make it weird... go up to her she probably doesn't remember you from back then. If so who cares! You can make eye contact with her first and smile then walk up to her start talking to her like she is your best friend. Just have fun =] Don't think so much! Just do... it's better then doing nothing right? Walk up to her after 3 seconds of making eye contact. This way you don't wuss out. Talk about normal stuff, no pick up lines, just be confident and talk like it's anyone else. Smile a lot :-D
you can do this bro I know you can ;-)
Talk to her, "If nothing else, you two can be friends" Nothing wrong with that might hook up later in life. Just stay positive and stay happy. No matter what goes down. Alright!
Tell me how it goes jonnyf14@aol.com
or if you want to ask more questions ^_^
2007-10-29 21:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im guessing ur not friends with this girl although u've known her for 5 years..so make sure u have her attention..try some friendly gestures like smiling at her...take every given opportunity to help her....try striking up conversations with her...show her that u are interested in knowing her...girls dig that...and always stare into her eyes when she's talking to u....and then tell her u like her it shouldn't be a problem by now u'll even be comfortable enough around her...
2007-10-29 21:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, yeah definently dont just go up to her and talk to her that just creeps girls out (well i was creeped out when a guy did that to me) it just makes it seem like your stalking her. instead, if she's in ur class, clubs or even know the same people ask her about that. or better yet try to stand next to her in a lunch line or walk next her and say something nice. dont be an a--hole cause that just makes us want to run. and if she's not interested you'll know right away. she'll ignore you or say something really rude. if she does than you'll know right away the type of person she is and u can move on. if she seems into then best of luck.
2007-10-29 21:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by surflaguna08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come on strong then, if that feels weird to you. Go with what you're comfortable with. Just start small, like hey, what's up, give her a smile, and then you can start talking in real sentences later =)
2007-10-29 21:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Just Me ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a school gathering and just meet up with her
you'll be more comfortable talking to her when youre in a crowd of people
then once you get to know each other a little, bring her out to somewhere where you guys can talk alone
then tell her how you think she's amazing and how you want to get to know her better..would she like to hang out sometime? maybe go to a movie?
2007-10-29 21:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by tochau 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh this is a potentially sticky situation..i think the best thing is to kind of talk to her with a reason...for example "hey, what was the homework assignment?" do it real smooth so that she doesnt even realize you and her started talking...try not to make it a big deal
2007-10-29 21:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by ~blue bear~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're nervous and even fearful there's no shame in that. that's normal. It helps though to confront being nervous. First just say hi and go from there. convey with your body language that you like her. don't send her the signals that you just want to be her "friend". For if you do, you will likely ruin your chances with her. don't be apologetic for who you are either. that'll make you more attractive.
2007-10-29 21:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by Nolt_7432 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you can find out what she's involved in? in my high school there's more boy/girl oriented sports but maybe if you find out what clubs/ extracurricular activities she's in, it could give you the opportunity to talk to her =)
2007-10-29 21:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 5 year knowing is a pretty good reason to get familiar with her. just talk to her about something like sports or say you like her style of dressing. something along that path
2007-10-29 21:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋