I HAVE THIS PROB, I HAVE HAD IT FOR A LONG TIME AND WANT TO KNOW IF THIS HAPPENS TO OTHER MARRIED WOMEN... I AM A HAIRSTYLIST , I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 13 YRS. BUT FROM TIME TO TIME I GET THESE CRUSHES ON SOME OF MY CUSTOMERS THAT I CANT CONTROL.. I LOVE MY HUBBY, BUT I FEEL SO GUILTY ABOUT FEELING THIS. IT HAS HAPPENED TO ME FOR A LONG TIME AND I FIND MYSELF FANTASIZING ABOUT THESE CRUSHES, I FEEL SOO BAD. DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE?
2007-10-29 14:18:18 · 27 answers · asked by realgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not alone! im having this problem now. Iv been married for 5 years , but there is this guy whos child comes our preschool, hes married, but he makes me feel so good. Iv been having bad thoughts about him. I also love my husband. Iv been dieing to talk to somebody about this, somebody whos been in the same situation. But to sum it up NO YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!
2007-10-29 14:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is quite normal for all women and men to fantasize about other people , the key is not to take it to far , some marriages crumble because people act on there feelings which is just lust. be strong i am sure your hubby may do the same thing from time to time as well but than thinks of you and comes back to the women of his dreams, just as i am sure you do the same ,try some of these steps if it bothers you place it in your head what would happen if your hubby found you in the arms of one of your crushes"Fantasy's " This will wake you up. than start focusing on fantasizing about your hubby it will make a much better relation ship.and there will be no guilt he is all yours. wish you the best.
2007-10-29 21:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman, but a married man. I think I can speak for all people when I say that those feelings are normal. We are all humans and that is a trait we have to live with. Dont feel bad, until you actually act upon the fantasies, then you can start feeling bad. Everybody has fantasies, it's a healthy normal brain activity.
2007-10-29 21:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting little crushes and being attracted to other people is completely normal. It's human nature firstly to feel a connection with someone and we always want what we can't have.
It makes some people feel guilty but that's just because you have a conscience. A little flirting is even harmless, just know that there's a line and that you can't/shouldn't cross it.
If you keep yourself aware of that then you'll be alright. :)
2007-10-29 21:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to fantasize but thats as far as it should get. Loving your hubby doesn't mean you are immune to boredom.You have to find out what it is that excites you about the other person and apply it to your husband. Share with him your fantasies (making him the one you are daydreaming about) and try role playing. Boredom is the #1 killer of marriages (damn near killed mine). There are plenty of resources on the web that are free and will help you be more spontaneous and adventuresome with your man. I will supply a good spot for info on how to make your man your fantasy.
2007-10-29 21:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by MariClaude 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it happens to me too.
I guess its because of the thrill of something "new" or being apealing to another man and having that attention that we sometimes dont get from our husbands.
Everyone wants what they cant have. And coming from experience dont do it. Its crazy, and i know EXACTLY what youre talking about ( i thought i was the only one ) but its not worth it. If you did end up having an affair just think how bad you would feel. Try to makes things more interesting with your husband, and try to remember why you fell in love with him.
2007-10-29 21:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by .Jules. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie as long as you are not acting out on these fantasys your just fine. 13 years is along time I commend you! Sometimes it is important for our minds ot think of other situations and other men it can be stimulating. Thats when men use magazines for. We just need more of a personal connection. I say think all you want as long as you remain true to your heart and home!
2007-10-29 21:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to have crushes. You have them from time to time, they come and go, nothing happens, and nobody gets hurt. Where's the harm in that.
We're humans, it' natural that we can sometimes be attracted to other people because of their personalities or looks. Luckily, most of us are mature enough to realize it's just a little crush and we don't jeopardize the relationship we are in to pursue it.
2007-10-29 21:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by concerned neighbor 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is not a problem in itself... What happens to you is normal! The only thing is not to go for your fantasies! You're married, they're married, put that aside and do your work without a second thought!
2007-10-29 21:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it happens. Ignore it. It goes away. One day you feel attraction the next you don't. Take no steps to make it real. Otherwise it means you don't care for your husband.
2007-10-29 21:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋