I am very worried about my family. First off, my little [8 year old] sister NEVER listens. She has to argue about everything, and if she doesn't get her way, she will either start crying or just keep arguing. She argues about e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. It is a never-ending fight living with her. Even of my mom and dad threaten to take away playstation, toys, t.v., etc., it just gets WORSE. If you tell her that she is punished she will argue and cry even more. She thinks that everything is all about her, and she is VERY annoying. She tells me "shutup" when I don;t even say anything!
My parents can't take it any more. My mom already has to take medicine becuase she has high blood pressure. My dad is just tired of it.
My main question:
What can I tell my sister to make her listen to my parents and not argue?
What can I say to her when she is arguing??
THANKS!!!
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2007-10-29 14:15:14 · 11 answers · asked by Ray. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get Supernanny in, or watch her shows, there are some really good tips on how to discipline kids.
Tell of how upset she's making her parents.
2007-10-29 14:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad need to stop threatening to take away her stuff and actually do it. She needs discipline and everyone needs to stick to it. She acts this way because she has been allowed to. She should get all of her privileges taken away if she cannot behave. Discipline has to be consistent and never taken back. She should not be allowed the TV, phone, friends over, to go anywhere, to do anything at all until she can behave like she is suppose to. When she cries she should be sent to her room and the door shut and ignore her. She should also have the computer taken away from her. Everything. The main problem was letting it get this far.
2007-10-29 21:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to step up to the plate and BE PARENTS.
It is not normal for kids to argue or throw tantrums non-stop. It is not normal for kids to cuss out their parents. Why are they permitting this brat to make them miserable? Truth is, they are the only ones who can draw the line.
Parents must use every method at their disposal to instill the values in their children that will help them to be successful in life. They cannot navigate our society without morals, ethics, responsibility and respect.
If that means instilling respect by means of a well aimed slap on the face or a doubled-up belt across her behind, then so be it. If it means taking away prized possessions (computer, I-pod, video game), or grounding her, or locking her in a room that all the toys have been removed from, that is fine. They have to do what they must to get the point across.
Try to keep in mind this phrase: "what would have gotten through to me at this age?"
Tell your parents this from me: "You cannot be best friends with your children... you can be their ally, but not a friend." Right now, in order to be an ally, they need to get this kid under control and showing some respect.
2007-10-29 21:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I used to do that a lot when I was little... I never listend, and I loved Arguing!... my dad just whooped my *** when ever I did that, after a while I started listening more, but I still liked arguing, so we made up a little court, and we would argue about little things, like why the sky is blue. I learned stuff, and had fun arguing in a fun way... now I am in DDF at school.. =) awesome.
2007-10-29 21:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being consistent is the best thing. Never let her slide. Always as hard as it is NEVER let her get way with unacceptable behavior. Take away her toys --hide them---if you have to do so, but this child has to get in control. As she gets older it will only get worse. Suggest your parents take her to a child development specialist for help. You can find a Child Development Specialist in the Yellow Pages.
Call your local mental health clinic for suggestions and help. They generally have a number you can call for help. Sometime it is called Concern Hot-line and other such named numbers. Often they have a sliding scale for charges for in person visits. Good luck.
Don't give up. Praying helps too. Pray for your sister and parents.
2007-10-29 21:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well kids go thru a phase of being overly argumentative. where they feel the need to assert themselves. You can help by being a bit understanding of this yet not by being a push over. Sometimes it does best to ignore them. It lets them know that if they continue to act unreasonably, they will not be acknowledged by more seasonable pple. Let her know that you are her sister and as a part of the family she has to get along with you all or she will be ignored. Ignoring is really difficult but it can teach valuable lessons to unreasonble pple even though they may seem angrier before they learn the lesson. continue to be nice to her but let her know that as long as she is rude to you....you won't be speaking to her until she calms down. I hope you find something that works if this doesn't help. Good luck
2007-10-29 21:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by princenore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to ur parents about some kind of camp that is for disobedient children and take this girl to see a psychiatrist, she seems to be spoiled, make her take her favorite expensive belongings and take them to a place like toys for tots and make her see kids that dont have anything at all and how aprociative they are....Make her realize that there are children out there who have reasons to cry because they dont have parents who care or food to eat....Really this girl needs an *** whoopin it sounds like to me lol No but they need to teach her she has no place in a grown ups shoes and no rights as a child to pick and choose...GOOD LUCK
2007-10-29 21:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by shawnz_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My duaghter TRIED that with me. But i showed her real quick who the parent is. Take everything out of her room except bed and blankets. each day that she behaves well give her one thing back(save her favorite stuff for last) if she lasts 3 days them starts acting up again start over. It wont take her long to realize that she has to listen
2007-10-30 10:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Your parents should just give her lots and lots of discepline. Ooh! You took away my playstation! Oooooh! Spank her! Dont let her do things she likes! Try and ignore her the whole day to see if she leaves you alone.
2007-10-29 21:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by sughey G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a younger brother. He is VERY arguementive. My family was in the same position.
One day, i just walked into the kitchen and he made a little snickering sound...it ticked me off so i gave him a big "Shut your f-u-c-k-i-n-g mouth everyone is tired of your f-ing s-h-i-t so shut the eff up! you little piece of s-h-i-t!!"
He never bothered me again
2007-10-29 21:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋